as long as there is physical chemistry i could get over the fact she wasnt the best kisser. she can be trained. but you cannot "learn" or "train" for physical chemistry.....i said it before the sparks there or it isnt.
I was with a girl who i was extremely physically attracted to probably a 9/10 looks wise. However when it came down to do the deed we were not compatible. There wasn't any chemistry when we were hooking up...she was always going left when i was going right etc...it was awkward. We stopped hooking up and we are just good friends now.
Cliffnotes: She's interested in you
You're in a good position, now just go out and act on it. You don't have to worry about going out of your way to impress her (which usually doesn't work anyway) so just spend time with her, learn about who she is and let her learn more about you.
Alright, we went to the range. Got some moderate physical contact helping her with her stance and grip on the pistol(s). She laughed a lot at her (relative) lack of skill, which was good. She went on and on about how good I was doing, and said she almost just liked watching me more than shooting herself - luckily tonight I was on, and was shooting pretty well.
We go to dinner, sit across from one another in a booth, conversation is still really good. Would have preferred side-by-side, but some girls don't dig that really, and also, nothing about the night is really explicitly romantic yet at this point - we were just having a good time, laughing and talking, etc.
Then I'm thinking let's see if she wants to come back to my apartment and watch a movie - I figure that's fertile ground for more obvious flirting. She says that she's got homework that she really wants (needs? - I forget her words) to get done tonight, but that she's "definitely going to take a rain check on that, maybe tomorrow or later this week." So, it was like a no, but also a yes?
Also, she said she "definitely" (she seems to use that word regularly) wants to go shooting again sometime, and that "You're 2 for 2 in picking great places to eat." Both really good things, right? 2 for 2 sounds like she hopes the streak continues, eh?
BTW, I'm 25 and in grad school getting a phd in genetics, so I'm smart, but, uh, not socially elegant. She's 23, and I'm probably the biggest dork she's ever seen, which is honestly seeming to be kindof charming or something, in a goofy way.
We go to dinner, sit across from one another in a booth, conversation is still really good. Would have preferred side-by-side, but some girls don't dig that really, and also, nothing about the night is really explicitly romantic yet at this point - we were just having a good time, laughing and talking, etc.
Then I'm thinking let's see if she wants to come back to my apartment and watch a movie - I figure that's fertile ground for more obvious flirting. She says that she's got homework that she really wants (needs? - I forget her words) to get done tonight, but that she's "definitely going to take a rain check on that, maybe tomorrow or later this week." So, it was like a no, but also a yes?
Also, she said she "definitely" (she seems to use that word regularly) wants to go shooting again sometime, and that "You're 2 for 2 in picking great places to eat." Both really good things, right? 2 for 2 sounds like she hopes the streak continues, eh?
BTW, I'm 25 and in grad school getting a phd in genetics, so I'm smart, but, uh, not socially elegant. She's 23, and I'm probably the biggest dork she's ever seen, which is honestly seeming to be kindof charming or something, in a goofy way.
You're doing fine.
You've, so far, not allowed your predisposition to over-analyze things to ruin this one. Keep up the good work.
postmortemIA
Diamond Member
- Jul 11, 2006
- 7,721
- 40
- 91
My god man...way to overanalyze.
You're 25, if you're so unsure about the situation you must never date...
You're 25, if you're so unsure about the situation you must never date...
SearchMaster
Diamond Member
- Jun 6, 2002
- 7,791
- 114
- 106
I don't normally chime in on YAGT's, but for the love of God, PLEASE make some sort of move on your next encounter. At the VERY least, hold her hand, put your arm around her, SOMETHING. You're teetering on the friend zone already, and she likes you man. Don't blow it. You don't have to rip her clothes off but let her know you're not gay and you want to move forward with the relationship.
Yeah that comment plus him breaking rule #1 means she must be pretty rough looking. But your doing well. GL man and keep it going. BE SURE TO WATCH THE FRIEND ZONE!
Aikouka
Lifer
- Nov 27, 2001
- 30,383
- 912
- 126
It's actually kind of hard for people who're used to analysis just to ignore that facet of themselves. I'm a software engineer and it's full of fairly logical tasks, which places me in a logic mindset. So how do I tend to look at the world? Through logic... but we all know the world is all about logic as shows like Survivor staying on the air
. So looking at a situation logically, you tend to over-analyze something that doesn't even need analyzing... it needs action!Take me for example... I got a girl's number the other day. Yet I don't know what days of the week she works, so I feel reluctant to call her as I'd rather avoid bothering someone at work. Yet if I take that approach, I'll never end up calling her since (in my eyes) she'll be working every day :Q! *Sigh* and who though being a nerd could get harder than trying to keep your D&D dice sets in perfect order.
ghost recon88
Diamond Member
- Oct 2, 2005
- 6,196
- 1
- 81
Dang, so thast why my last relationship ended... for real though, I'm dead serious. I love it when I can actually apply the advice given in these threads to my life.
ghost recon88
Diamond Member
- Oct 2, 2005
- 6,196
- 1
- 81
LOL, no. But I didn't make a move until the 6th or 7th time out, and by then, it was "a little too late, a little too wrong". No! must stop quoting that line! In short, the skank axed my ass 2 weeks before Christmas.
Best way to get her into the sack... get another girl to like you. Trust me, girls respond to competition...
Even if you don't look like brad pitt, it has never failed ;-)
Even if you don't look like brad pitt, it has never failed ;-)
rockyct
Diamond Member
- Jun 23, 2001
- 6,656
- 32
- 91
Very good progress. Perhaps there will actually be a successful relationship formed after a YAGT was created.
My main suggestion would be to stop trying to analyze was she says. It really sounds like her actions say she's interested and that's all that counts. If she said she wanted a rain check, but didn't return your calls for a week, her actions would say she's not interested. I don't see that problem here, so I think you're good.
My main suggestion would be to stop trying to analyze was she says. It really sounds like her actions say she's interested and that's all that counts. If she said she wanted a rain check, but didn't return your calls for a week, her actions would say she's not interested. I don't see that problem here, so I think you're good.
zinfamous
No Lifer
- Jul 12, 2006
- 111,695
- 31,043
- 146
It's not like Ultimate. that was a terrible comparison. but it is like golf, there are courses all over the place these days, usually in public parks. The discs are much smaller than standard discs. They even have putters, long-range drivers, mid-range drivers...things like that. You have a tee, you launch your disc trying to avoid trees and other hazzards, and try to get it into a basket that's about 5 feet tall.
It's the hippie sport of choice. Be sure to bring a packed bowl if you ever intend to play
zinfamous
No Lifer
- Jul 12, 2006
- 111,695
- 31,043
- 146
:thumbsup:
dude, you're made in the shade. stop asking us here because there is nothing that really needs to be said about the situation on these boards. Just make sure you get a little frisky at the next outing.
curious, what does she do? is it related to the genetics thing? (I'm in the same line of work you are and will be in...and I've never dated within it; very few girls I've met on this side that interest me...)
TRENDING THREADS
-
Discussion Zen 5 Speculation (EPYC Turin and Strix Point/Granite Ridge - Ryzen 9000)- Started by DisEnchantment
- Replies: 25K
-
Discussion Intel Meteor, Arrow, Lunar & Panther Lakes Discussion Threads
- Started by Tigerick
- Replies: 21K
-
Discussion Intel current and future Lakes & Rapids thread- Started by TheF34RChannel
- Replies: 23K
-
-
Facebook
Twitter