YAGT: Friend from the past emailing me after break up

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halik

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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: mrSHEiK124
NAIL. THE OTHER. "PLATONIC FRIEND."

nah, she's like a sister to me now. She got me a job and is my workout partner, wouldn't want to mess that up and, to be blunt, I don't think I'm in her league even if I did want her. Besides, I have a date with her guest for my birthday next week - pretty girls tend to have pretty friends! I don't have to post a YAGT thread about that one because there was no confusion about the proceedings - she had a blast at my party and I asked her out for drinks, no ambiguity there (which, if you get to the heart of my YAGTs, is what all of my angst is about).

With all seriousness that statement makes me question your sexual orientation.
 

mrSHEiK124

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Originally posted by: halik
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: mrSHEiK124
NAIL. THE OTHER. "PLATONIC FRIEND."

nah, she's like a sister to me now. She got me a job and is my workout partner, wouldn't want to mess that up and, to be blunt, I don't think I'm in her league even if I did want her. Besides, I have a date with her guest for my birthday next week - pretty girls tend to have pretty friends! I don't have to post a YAGT thread about that one because there was no confusion about the proceedings - she had a blast at my party and I asked her out for drinks, no ambiguity there (which, if you get to the heart of my YAGTs, is what all of my angst is about).

With all seriousness that statement makes me question your sexual orientation.

Considering the fact that she was pretty hot too.
 

Mellman

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I think you are nominated for "looks like your avatar" i swear all these posts you have you may well be the most well known avatar on ATOT....
 

jjones

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Originally posted by: hanoverphist
whats YAGT stand for? im new here in these parts.
Yet Another Girl Thread.

Or in freedomsbeat's case, Yet Another Gimp Thread.

 

IceBergSLiM

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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: pontifex
Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Oh, name calling! How fun. Would you like to make a wager? I hooked up with a girl I posted a YAGT thread about last week and probably will hook up with one of them this weekend, thanks to some of the advice gained through here.

What I don't understand is, why you are proud of this? You sound like the type of guy who keeps score of how many girls he has "hit". The fact of the matter is, can you actually keep a decent, smart, and beautiful girl for more than sex? Get your mentallity out of High School, and try to attract a girl that you can actually spend more time with than just being a notch on your belt, and I think more people here would respect you and your threads.

The point is your threads tend to exploit these girls you want to get with by showing their pictures, and boasting how you groped/banged/copped a feel/made out with... That is just an asshole thing to do, and is totally about attention whoring and showing off what you think is "prowess" and what you think makes you more of a man. It doesn't. Sorry, but people who think differently will usually only end up divorced and alone and still trying to play the "game" when they are much older, or settling in a relationship that will only cause them misery. I am just laying it to you straight, dude. Take it as opinion, but if you take my advice and actually pursue a girl that you actually would consider bringing back to your parents, really spending time with, and someone you would be more than happy to treat like a real woman, I think you will be a better person for it. Good luck to you.

If you don't take this advice, that is your perogative, too, but don't act so surprised when people consider you a tool for doing this. Rationalize it all you want, but in the end these threads are more about your need for attention about the girls you can get, and not very much about an actual problem or trying to be a better person.

listen to DaShen. He speaks the truth. maybe if you concentrated on one girl for more than 10 minutes you could find a good one.

i never turn down good advice. I think you might have a point. After I broke up from a nearly 7 year long relationship I've been busy playing catch up, which lead to more frustration that I can deal with. One girl.. That's a novel idea. You're right, it's the mature thing to do and me trying to chase 5 or more girls at once is immature.. I accept that.

ideally you shouldn't be chasing any girls right now. You are mid 20's right? focus on yourself and your career. Girls will pop in and out from time to time make some room for them but certainly now is not the time to chase or get caught up in any girl drama. Just bide your time until your early thirties when you've got success, health and wealth. You will literally have to beat the girls away with a stick.
 

DaShen

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Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
ideally you shouldn't be chasing any girls right now. You are mid 20's right? focus on yourself and your career. Girls will pop in and out from time to time make some room for them but certainly now is not the time to chase or get caught up in any girl drama. Just bide your time until your early thirties when you've got success, health and wealth. You will literally have to beat the girls away with a stick.

Good advice. I wouldn't turn down the chance if the "right" girl (if there is such a thing) comes a long, but yeah, focusing on bettering yourself is a good way to attract the right type of women.
 
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Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: pontifex
Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Oh, name calling! How fun. Would you like to make a wager? I hooked up with a girl I posted a YAGT thread about last week and probably will hook up with one of them this weekend, thanks to some of the advice gained through here.

What I don't understand is, why you are proud of this? You sound like the type of guy who keeps score of how many girls he has "hit". The fact of the matter is, can you actually keep a decent, smart, and beautiful girl for more than sex? Get your mentallity out of High School, and try to attract a girl that you can actually spend more time with than just being a notch on your belt, and I think more people here would respect you and your threads.

The point is your threads tend to exploit these girls you want to get with by showing their pictures, and boasting how you groped/banged/copped a feel/made out with... That is just an asshole thing to do, and is totally about attention whoring and showing off what you think is "prowess" and what you think makes you more of a man. It doesn't. Sorry, but people who think differently will usually only end up divorced and alone and still trying to play the "game" when they are much older, or settling in a relationship that will only cause them misery. I am just laying it to you straight, dude. Take it as opinion, but if you take my advice and actually pursue a girl that you actually would consider bringing back to your parents, really spending time with, and someone you would be more than happy to treat like a real woman, I think you will be a better person for it. Good luck to you.

If you don't take this advice, that is your perogative, too, but don't act so surprised when people consider you a tool for doing this. Rationalize it all you want, but in the end these threads are more about your need for attention about the girls you can get, and not very much about an actual problem or trying to be a better person.

listen to DaShen. He speaks the truth. maybe if you concentrated on one girl for more than 10 minutes you could find a good one.

i never turn down good advice. I think you might have a point. After I broke up from a nearly 7 year long relationship I've been busy playing catch up, which lead to more frustration that I can deal with. One girl.. That's a novel idea. You're right, it's the mature thing to do and me trying to chase 5 or more girls at once is immature.. I accept that.

ideally you shouldn't be chasing any girls right now. You are mid 20's right? focus on yourself and your career. Girls will pop in and out from time to time make some room for them but certainly now is not the time to chase or get caught up in any girl drama. Just bide your time until your early thirties when you've got success, health and wealth. You will literally have to beat the girls away with a stick.

You know, proof positive that ATOT sometimes gives me good advice. I gotta lose weight, figure out my career, finish school, and shave my damn head. I can't cut this girl addiction cold turkey but, seriously, good advice. and i'll use it right away by hitting the gym!
 
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as far as tonight goes - I'm canceling. I'll see her on Friday, tonight I planned on finishing some errands but I was going to put everything aside for her. I have things to do, so I should do them.

Thanks for keeping me level headed.
 

NuAlphaMan

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Dude, you stay in the middle of some chick drama. I wish I could find your other YAGTs. make up your mind already! :laugh:
 

clamum

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I sorta like your YAGTs freedomsbeat. You don't write like a t0t4l 1d0t1 n00b!!!11 which is refreshing. Plus you post pics of pretty much every girl (most tend to be hot IMO). KEEP ER UP BUD! :beer:

EDIT: Plus your Ramones shirt gives you cred in my book.
 

IceBergSLiM

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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: xospec1alk
wait, where do you get $1 pitchers?!?!

that was my 1st thought too :p

Town Tavern, NYC (wednesday's beer pong night)

you want to get your life in order......stop going out 5 nights a week like your in college. on top of that you'll be amazed at how fast you can lose weight when you are not drinking beer like a frat boy on Wednesdays
 
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Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: xospec1alk
wait, where do you get $1 pitchers?!?!

that was my 1st thought too :p

Town Tavern, NYC (wednesday's beer pong night)

you want to get your life in order......stop going out 5 nights a week like your in college. on top of that you'll be amazed at how fast you can lose weight when you are not drinking beer like a frat boy on Wednesdays

I am in college! But you do have a point - I try to limit myself to twice a week. I have Wednesdays off and class at 1 on Thursday so I indulge at times, but your point is well taken.
 

Tobolo

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That chick is rough man. Please do yourself a favor and move on.

Oh and its def. a rebound thing.
 
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Originally posted by: kumanchu
hit 'n quit?

trying to take advice and not be immature, so i canceled. we're hanging out on friday with a group of my friends. I shall not hit it.. Instead, my neighbor and my roommates will watch American Idol together while eating pizza. Not as alluring but a bit more honest, I guess.

Ice and DaShen were right, I have a lot of sh1t to take care of. doesn't mean I shouldn't date, but I probably should seek out less girls and just let things happen.
 

MmmSkyscraper

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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Instead, my neighbor and my roommates will watch American Idol together while eating pizza. Not as alluring but a bit more honest, I guess.

Ice and DaShen were right, I have a lot of sh1t to take care of. doesn't mean I shouldn't date, but I probably should seek out less girls and just let things happen.

Yeah, watching American Idol for a start!!!11!!!11! That needs fixing in a big way.
 

SolMiester

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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: kumanchu
hit 'n quit?

trying to take advice and not be immature, so i canceled. we're hanging out on friday with a group of my friends. I shall not hit it.. Instead, my neighbor and my roommates will watch American Idol together while eating pizza. Not as alluring but a bit more honest, I guess.

Ice and DaShen were right, I have a lot of sh1t to take care of. doesn't mean I shouldn't date, but I probably should seek out less girls and just let things happen.

QFT....however please remember the one you turn dwn is the one you never catch-up....LOL

She may just want her tyre's rotated.
 
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Originally posted by: SolMiester
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: kumanchu
hit 'n quit?

trying to take advice and not be immature, so i canceled. we're hanging out on friday with a group of my friends. I shall not hit it.. Instead, my neighbor and my roommates will watch American Idol together while eating pizza. Not as alluring but a bit more honest, I guess.

Ice and DaShen were right, I have a lot of sh1t to take care of. doesn't mean I shouldn't date, but I probably should seek out less girls and just let things happen.

QFT....however please remember the one you turn dwn is the one you never catch-up....LOL

She may just want her tyre's rotated.

Hah, I honestly felt that canceling on her was not only the right thing to do but empowering - I'm not her little toy this time. Not saying I wouldn't date her if that is what happens, but I shouldn't just hook up with her and think of her just as a number. Where's that going to get me?

I'm not turning my back on her - I'm seeing her on friday. I just won't jump into things foolishly or try to chase her.
 

Shortcut

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well, as the grampa in little miss sunshine said :

"Listen to me, I got no reason to lie to you, don't make the same mistakes I made when I was young. Fvck a lotta women kid, not just one woman, a lotta women."
 

crystal

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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: bigrash
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Didn't you just post something about wanting to hook up w/ another one of your friends the other day? Get off ATOT and get laid dude! Geezz...

there are about 5 girls i'm feeling things out with. gotta play the averages game!

I guarantee you that you won't hit either of them. just cause you "feel" them doesn't mean that they feel the same way. Stop posting a thread everything you think a girl feels something for you. you're ugly and she don't like you that way.

Oh, name calling! How fun. Would you like to make a wager? I hooked up with a girl I posted a YAGT thread about last week and probably will hook up with one of them this weekend, thanks to some of the advice gained through here.

FYI: Freedomsbeat212's definition of "hooking up" is second base.

- M4H

haha, sorry for not being a whore - my new policy is to not sleep with anyone until i'm actually dating them. i did that a little too often last year.

Bold to show how much BS you spew.