- Jan 23, 2002
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...knew that was going to get attention! There are pics, sorry, not naked though.
Profile:
Me: Asian, 23 y/o, just graduated college
Her: White, 21 y/o, entering her Senior year in college
Relationship Overview:
Dated Since: October 30th, 2002
Current Length: 2 years, 9 months
Situation Analysis:
We are back together and on good terms. Last night, we laid outside on the beach talking from 9PM-1AM about where we are heading and more or less understand each other's thoughts. It was a very constructive conversation. The dilemma in this relationship is this...
I started to date her my sophomore year of college, when she was just a freshmen. I got out the majority of that wanting to be "crazy and wild" during my freshmen year and was ready to settle down. She set out to find a good boyfriend entering college and got it. However, she was never single during college, and now the typical feeling has happened. The feeling that you may be missing out. It's her last year of college.
Paraphrasing her, she said, in a perfect world where she can freeze time, she would go out and just live it up so she can be ready to settle down with me. She doesn't want to do this because she loves me and knows she's throwing away a good thing. She knows I won't stop her either way because I want her to be happy, but she does realize she would be losing me in that process and does not want to do that.
It was a very mature conversation and we left it on a good note. She almost got too emotional and was about to cry at the end, but I cheered her up. Even said goodnight with a little beach oral action
(I'm tryign to emphasize it was a positive convo here!!!). She wanted me to think about what we discussed and I'm seeing her tonight to talk about it. I'm still a bit confused on how to handle this though.
So common... the single girls rant about trying to find a good guy and sick of being single; the taken girls wonder if there is more to life, blah blah
ATOT thoughts?
PICS
Model Pose
Bikini Shot
Serious Azurik w/ best friend, not gf, but HOT!)
Bedroom Smile
Me and her in May 2005
UPDATE #1:
So we talked last night. I basically said I love her, but if she has those feelings I can't do anything but let her go. She said she couldn't break up with me because she wants to be with me and knows she's being stupid in leaving something so good for something that is meaningless. She stated she was glad she was able to talk to me about it instead of holding it inside and that it helps talking to me about her thoughts instead of letting it bubble inside her. Helps her not feel that way anymore. In the end, she just described it as something you're not suppose to do so you felt like you want to. Like a kid not being allowed in the cookie jar. I remember she stated her intent was not to make-up or whatever with other guys, but having the option to was more in the line with what she was feeling.
Her biggest question was how this was going to work now that I will be home and working and she'll be at school. She said this could work out, and thought that during the weekday when she has her internship close by, she would sleep over a few days during the week. She'll also be able to hang out with the girls and have fun with them on the weekends, she said this was important because she doesn't want to miss out on last college memories with her girls. I told her I never cared who she hung out with or what she did, as long as guys are not involved past friendship, I couldn't care less. I don't have to hang out with her all the time, and I don't want to anyway. I have my brother who goes there too, I'll party it up with him in the weekend She said this can work out like this.
Anyway, so I did offer to part ways, and got rejected, haha. She also wanted to come over the next day (today).
ATOT thoughts?
UPDATE #2
She decided she wants to stay together and doesn't seem to be changing her mind. She actually seems rather happy on the phone now and was going to surprise me at my house with wine and a little sleep over, but I was busy playing poker with the boys and didn't have y phone around me.
Profile:
Me: Asian, 23 y/o, just graduated college
Her: White, 21 y/o, entering her Senior year in college
Relationship Overview:
Dated Since: October 30th, 2002
Current Length: 2 years, 9 months
Situation Analysis:
We are back together and on good terms. Last night, we laid outside on the beach talking from 9PM-1AM about where we are heading and more or less understand each other's thoughts. It was a very constructive conversation. The dilemma in this relationship is this...
I started to date her my sophomore year of college, when she was just a freshmen. I got out the majority of that wanting to be "crazy and wild" during my freshmen year and was ready to settle down. She set out to find a good boyfriend entering college and got it. However, she was never single during college, and now the typical feeling has happened. The feeling that you may be missing out. It's her last year of college.
Paraphrasing her, she said, in a perfect world where she can freeze time, she would go out and just live it up so she can be ready to settle down with me. She doesn't want to do this because she loves me and knows she's throwing away a good thing. She knows I won't stop her either way because I want her to be happy, but she does realize she would be losing me in that process and does not want to do that.
It was a very mature conversation and we left it on a good note. She almost got too emotional and was about to cry at the end, but I cheered her up. Even said goodnight with a little beach oral action
(I'm tryign to emphasize it was a positive convo here!!!). She wanted me to think about what we discussed and I'm seeing her tonight to talk about it. I'm still a bit confused on how to handle this though.So common... the single girls rant about trying to find a good guy and sick of being single; the taken girls wonder if there is more to life, blah blah
ATOT thoughts?
PICS
Model Pose
Bikini Shot
Serious Azurik w/ best friend, not gf, but HOT!)
Bedroom Smile
Me and her in May 2005
UPDATE #1:
So we talked last night. I basically said I love her, but if she has those feelings I can't do anything but let her go. She said she couldn't break up with me because she wants to be with me and knows she's being stupid in leaving something so good for something that is meaningless. She stated she was glad she was able to talk to me about it instead of holding it inside and that it helps talking to me about her thoughts instead of letting it bubble inside her. Helps her not feel that way anymore. In the end, she just described it as something you're not suppose to do so you felt like you want to. Like a kid not being allowed in the cookie jar. I remember she stated her intent was not to make-up or whatever with other guys, but having the option to was more in the line with what she was feeling.
Her biggest question was how this was going to work now that I will be home and working and she'll be at school. She said this could work out, and thought that during the weekday when she has her internship close by, she would sleep over a few days during the week. She'll also be able to hang out with the girls and have fun with them on the weekends, she said this was important because she doesn't want to miss out on last college memories with her girls. I told her I never cared who she hung out with or what she did, as long as guys are not involved past friendship, I couldn't care less. I don't have to hang out with her all the time, and I don't want to anyway. I have my brother who goes there too, I'll party it up with him in the weekend
She said this can work out like this.Anyway, so I did offer to part ways, and got rejected, haha. She also wanted to come over the next day (today).
ATOT thoughts?
UPDATE #2
She decided she wants to stay together and doesn't seem to be changing her mind. She actually seems rather happy on the phone now and was going to surprise me at my house with wine and a little sleep over, but I was busy playing poker with the boys and didn't have y phone around me.
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