YAGT... bit of a dilemma between 2 girls

[jjones]

Originally posted by: ThisIsKimbO

Originally posted by: Semidevil
it would be right if you hang out with her because she is a cool friend, but it would be wrong for you to hang out with her to see if she is better then your girlfriend.....



what you are feeling w/ the new girl are just excitement since she is new, and different...dont let that get to your head(the top and bottom ones).

Everyone seems to be right on with their advice so far (Edit: except for the people giving advice on the threesomes ). If your intentions of hanging out with the new girl aren't purely platonic, then that's a big no no. And if you mean "on the side" as in, without your girlfriend knowing, that's a REALLY big no no and will blow up in your face.

And what part about having a threesome is bad advice?

 

[Semidevil]

Originally posted by: phreakah
well, this thing w/ my current girlfriend is my first long term relationship.. and i think i sort of just settled with her, in regards to my attraction towards her as a gf... i mean she's a really great person and really nice and all that, but sometimes i wonder why or how im still with her

maybe i'm just confused or affraid of thinking about this long term stuff?

becareful what you just said. Is this how you *really* feel? or is this something that you are saying as a kind of excuse......

 

[phreakah]

Originally posted by: Semidevil

Originally posted by: phreakah
well, this thing w/ my current girlfriend is my first long term relationship.. and i think i sort of just settled with her, in regards to my attraction towards her as a gf... i mean she's a really great person and really nice and all that, but sometimes i wonder why or how im still with her

maybe i'm just confused or affraid of thinking about this long term stuff?

becareful what you just said. Is this how you *really* feel? or is this something that you are saying as a kind of excuse......

it's not an excuse... i've felt this way even before our 1 year anniversary

i think i'm either affraid or don't want to think about spending a large portion of my life with her.. especially, like i said earlier, since this is my first long term relationship

she brings up things like saving up for a house or marriage down the line and it stresses me out.. those arent things i want to focus on right now, especially being only 21. i want to progress as far as i can in my career before i think about that.. i've told her that and she gets mad

 

[blackdogdeek]

you're obviously interested in dating other people. date the new girl but break up with your current gf first unless your current gf is cool with each of you dating other people.

 

[phreakah]

Originally posted by: ThisIsKimbO
also, where'd you meet this new girl? And was your girlfriend jealous at all when you guys were hanging out together before?

we met at a meeting... as stated earlier, my girlfriend isnt interested in the hobby that meeting was about, so she wasnt there

 

[Sex Smurf]

Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
if you are interested in pursuing other girls you need to break up with your gf

thats all there is to it

yep, dump her and be a free agent. you'll be much happier.

 

[Baked]

Thanks for proofing most guys are sleazy cheaters.

 

[Corn]

Originally posted by: ElFenix
is the new girl hot? cuz the old one isn't.

Ouch.....but not unexpected considering the following: YAGT, forum it's posted on, the type who frequents this forum, etc ad nauseam.........

 

[phreakah]

thanks for proving you can't spell

 

[eakers]

this will be the beginning of the end of your relationship.

dump your gf before you start "hanging out" aka "dating" this new chick.

 

[MidasKnight]

Separate from your current girlfriend. Then check the new girl out. Don't play it both ways. If the new girl works out ... then great. If she doesn't and you get your current girl back .. great. But be prepared to possible loose both situations.

 

[chowmein]

you should do a poll. i'm VERY curious to see what the answer would be, please update.

 

[amoeba]

don't keep your current GF as a fall back. That is the worst thing you can do to her.

If you don't feel the magic, break up.

 

[PricklyPete]

I'd watch out man. I know a lot of girls who will act like they are into whatever some guy they are talking to are into just to make the guy feel like there is a connection. The more you hang out with her, the more you may find she really isn't quite into what you thought.

If the feeling you are having persists (that you really feel that this girl is more "compatible" with you), then I would look at your current relationship and determine if it is really working...if it is not, you should break up with your girlfriend regardless of whether you get with this other girl. There is no sense in you stringing your girlfriend along if all you are looking for is another girl who better suites you.

 

[Semidevil]

yea, i mean, if you really did have feelings of breaking up w/ your gf, then you should do it first before you hang out w/ any other chick........

no point in making everyone not happy

 

[phreakah]

thanks for the info so far everyone... i got what i hoped to see, which was different points of view.. and the thread didnt surprisingly stray off to something else

added a poll for chowmein

 

[PingSpike]

PricklyPete made a good point. But honestly, if you aren't into you should just break up with her. I mean, this new girl just sounds like a catalyst or whatever.

 

[Sex Smurf]

You're only giving yourself 2 choices???

You forgot:

Break up with current gf and pursue ALL women!

Stay with current gf and wonder "what if?"

Break up with current gf, get together with new girl, break up wth new girl, get back together with ex-gf.

 

[chowmein]

Originally posted by: phreakah
thanks for the info so far everyone... i got what i hoped to see, which was different points of view.. and the thread didnt surprisingly stray off to something else

added a poll for chowmein

awesome!

 

[RegularK]

Originally posted by: phreakah

Originally posted by: ThisIsKimbO
also, where'd you meet this new girl? And was your girlfriend jealous at all when you guys were hanging out together before?

we met at a meeting... as stated earlier, my girlfriend isnt interested in the hobby that meeting was about, so she wasnt there

sorry...misread what you had written. i thought you all had hung out from the statement you had said about your girlfriend making it clear that she didn't have any interest in the things you and the girl talked about...

 

[phreakah]

Originally posted by: ThisIsKimbO

Originally posted by: phreakah

Originally posted by: ThisIsKimbO
also, where'd you meet this new girl? And was your girlfriend jealous at all when you guys were hanging out together before?

we met at a meeting... as stated earlier, my girlfriend isnt interested in the hobby that meeting was about, so she wasnt there

sorry...misread what you had written. i thought you all had hung out from the statement you had said about your girlfriend making it clear that she didn't have any interest in the things you and the girl talked about...

ah, yeah.. i see how that could have been confusing

 

[Semidevil]

Originally posted by: phreakah
and the thread didnt surprisingly stray off to something else

that other chick in the pic is pretty hot......


btw, what nationality is your current gf? and is the new insterest asian? if so, what natl?

 

[phreakah]

she is taiwanese.... the girl i met recently seems to be filipino mixed w/ somethin

 

[chowmein]

one part of me says you ought shoot for the other girl. 1.5 yrs isn't that long.

another part of me says you should keep a good thing going. (if it is indeed a good thing)

ahh the perils of choice.

 

[iversonyin]

who said you can't have both?:Q