YAGT - Asked someone out....now for the rest of the story!

[sixone]

It's only been three days...maybe she's being extra helpful to her mom/family, and hasn't had time to call. You know, some gals like to spend lots of time on the phone; maybe she wants to get to know you a little on the phone so that a face-to-face will be more comfortable. Don't give up yet.

 

[SaigonK]

So it is Tuesday and I am thinking I will call again tomorrow afternoon or evening. Like sixone said, why give up just because I have not gotten the call right away. Her mother did have surgery after all, and she does work.
Regardless, I will probably call again on Wednesday and that will most likely be my final attempt, if I get the machine then I am not sure if I should leave a final message or just not bother....

 

[JoeKing]

if it's the machine again say somthing like "hey bitch it's me I guess you're not home so I'll try calling you back later"... don't say anything else, just hang up. Don't explain yourself and don't start a conversation.

you should replace the word bitch with whatever you feel appropriate

 

[Xionide]

Where are the fvckin pics?

-Xionide

 

[gotsmack]

Update 4: 6-29-2004
No call as of Tuesday morning, but the girl who started this whole thing says i should call again, "what have I got to lose" is her thinking, she is probably right.[/quote]

Your dignity as a man.

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: SaigonK
So here is the deal...

My friend introduces me to someone she worked with like 5-6 years ago, she is pretty nice and cute.
A great smile and jovial to say the least, she seems very outgoing.

So my friend slips her my number while we are somewhere and tells her that I am interested...no big deal...the girl was busy today so i didnt get to see her, but now my friend is telling me I should call her tomorrow and ask her out...

So my friend is female, so maybe she has clue how a woman would react? But for me I feel like it is pushy to call her and ask her out when she and I know so little of each other and my friend has not seen her for a few years...

Thoughts?


UPDATE 1: 6/24/2004

I called her, but she wasn't in so I left a message saying who I was, that we had already met once, that if she wasnt busy maybe we could go out (tonight) for dinner and a drink. She has my number already, so if she wants to call then she knows what to do..

One of the people I am going out with knows her form doing some work togethor, so i thought that might make her feel more comfortable.


Update 2: 6/25/2004

Her mother had knee surgery on Wednesday, so she is probably busy, has not called back yet, and i can say i dont expect her to if she is busy. I did mention her mother and said that i hope she is doing well..never hurts to be thoughtful!


Update 3: 6-27-2004
And no call people! I am going to assume I am not getting one, thanks for playing
"Lets see if SaigonK get's a date" your prize is in the mail.


Update 4: 6-29-2004
No call as of Tuesday morning, but the girl who started this whole thing says i should call again, "what have I got to lose" is her thinking, she is probably right.

drop it you stalker

 

[bobbybe01]

I also suggest not leaving a voicemail this time. Keep trying untill you get to talk to her. A good idea would be a different parts of the day...not consecutively. Don't give up untill you talk to this woman yourself.

P.S. When you call, ask how her mother is doing. That'll be nice of you to ask that.

 

[PingSpike]

Ok, first of all...you should not have left a message. Its really easy to blow off a message or say "Oh, I didn't get it, my machine was broke" blah, blah, whatever. Messages are ok later on after you've laid some ground work, but on the initial cold call you're just setting yourself up for failure.

How many times total have you called her? You left the one message, that I know...did you call and talk to her a second time or was it just the one time?

If you've called and left messages twice or more, don't call again. Ball's in her court, you're done playing at least for the time being. You'll just start to look creepy after the second message.

If you've only made the one call with the one message...
I would wait until like thursday, call when you think she'll be home to try and catch her. Don't fvck around on the phone, say you hope her mom feels better and ask her if she's up for a drink this weekend. If she says sure, thats great. If she gives you some half interested jazz or says she's to busy or has plans or whatever, just say something like "Oh thats cool, well give me a ring if you feel like going out some time when you aren't busy." Then just get off the phone. And never call her again, balls in her court.

 

[DeafeningSilence]

Originally posted by: PingSpike

If you've only made the one call with the one message...
I would wait until like thursday, call when you think she'll be home to try and catch her. Don't fvck around on the phone, say you hope her mom feels better and ask her if she's up for a drink this weekend. If she says sure, thats great. If she gives you some half interested jazz or says she's to busy or has plans or whatever, just say something like "Oh thats cool, well give me a ring if you feel like going out some time when you aren't busy." Then just get off the phone. And never call her again, balls in her court.

This part is good advice.

 

[Tbirdkid]

I wouldnt call again. Screw it. Her loss. Move on man. There are more women out there.
Here is my theory... she recieved the message and felt uncomfortable calling you because she hardly knows you or you dont interest her. So, I say her loss. In these days, women are slick.... they will just act like they didnt recieve a message or a call from you knowing they did. Just go bbq alot and have some fun man.... it will eventually happen. Just get really close to the palm of your hand until it does.. haha

 

[SaigonK]

An update has been posted, I have a date coming up.

 

[sixone]

Yay! The 15-minute drive idea sounds like a good plan. As long as you don't get in an accident, or start screaming obscenities at other drivers.

 

[SaigonK]

I will try not to do that.
Just good to get a date, maybe it will go further, maybe it wont but either way its good to know someone is interested!

 

[SaigonK]

No call as of yet, I have fireworks to go to, so we shall see if she does in fact try to get ahold of me to set something up.
I am feeling pretty confident that she will...

 

[RagingBITCH]

She is politely blowing you off. Get over it and move on.

 

[Mo0o]

Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
She is politely blowing you off. Get over it and move on.

Well she said yes to dinner and drinks, seems like kind of a twisted way to blow him off. Maybe she really is busy with the mother. It wont be a good time for her to go out and have fun while her mother is still recuperating. I figure shes telling the truth.

 

[z0mb13]

good luck and congrats man!!

nothing beats first phase of dating a girl

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: Mo0o

Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
She is politely blowing you off. Get over it and move on.

Well she said yes to dinner and drinks, seems like kind of a twisted way to blow him off. Maybe she really is busy with the mother. It wont be a good time for her to go out and have fun while her mother is still recuperating. I figure shes telling the truth.

Exactly, so who knows the deal right? She might be having second thoughts or she might be busy...either way works for me, i just hate the "unknown".

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: z0mb13
good luck and congrats man!!

nothing beats first phase of dating a girl

Thanks man! I have to say it has been so long I forgot what all this was like!

 

[SaigonK]

update - she didnt call like she said she would...the girl who set us up told me I should call her again, but frankly i dont feel like doing that..if she is busy i dont want to bother her, and if she isnt busy and is just blowing me off then i dont want to call her anyway....

 

[bugoox]

You lose my friend. Tis unfortunate

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: bugoox
You lose my friend. Tis unfortunate

Yep! Sucky part is when I talked ot her she seemed really happy to go out for dinner.
I was sure she wasnt blowing me off, but what the hell do i know.

 

[mcveigh]

you stud!

you make the other people here sound like immature 13yr olds!!


....wait a sec!....never mind.

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: mcveigh
you stud!

you make the other people here sound like immature 13yr olds!!


....wait a sec!....never mind.

Nice...real nice....

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: SaigonK
update - she didnt call like she said she would...the girl who set us up told me I should call her again, but frankly i dont feel like doing that..if she is busy i dont want to bother her, and if she isnt busy and is just blowing me off then i dont want to call her anyway....

Yeah, don't call her again. If she calls, she calls.

Sorry SaigonK.