YAGT: Am I overreacting? OLD THREAD

[MacGaven]

Why do you think girls go on "vacations" with other girls, or go to Europe, or the Bahamas, or to Cancun???

To have wild sex with total strangers with no strings attached and no one can call them a ho.

 

[TubStain]

Jesus why in all hell did this get bumped?

 

[n0cmonkey]

Uh, did she have sex with him? No? Then you are probably over reacting.

EDIT: D'oh, apparently I said almost the same thing when I first saw the thread. Ignore me.

 

[PatboyX]

Originally posted by: TubStain
My gf is in Miami with a bunch of her girl friends for spring break and I'm stuck here in the Midwest, coz I gotta work. She just called me and told me that she and her friends went salsa dancing last night and they danced with a bunch of guys. She was also honest enough to tell me that she "freak danced" with one of the guys for just a little bit, but that she did not initiate it.

We have a solid year and a half relationship, and that just kinda shocked me for a second, since we are completely devoted to each other. She doesnt drink either, so its not like she was under the influence. I just feel slightly hurt for some reason. I mean I know its spring break and she should have some fun going to the clubs and stuff. When I have gone to clubs in the past without her, I have been hit on by girls, but I just brush it off, since I'd rather not deal with the guilt.

Am I overreacting? I feel just a bit hurt for some reason, maybe moreso, coz we are so close.

i dont think you are overreacting. to suggest that you are is to suggest that you can control that you felt "hurt." its wonderful that she told you and that you can be honest with you. i personally dont see it as a bad thing that happened but i know that if i were in the same situation i would feel the same way. of course you can feel hurt! tell her that you do...she communicated what happened to you and, in the same way, you should communicate how that made you feel.
this is not a relationship-ending (or even damaging event, it seems) but to allow these feelings to exist without recognizing them to each other can later cause resentment and more trouble than it is worth.