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WTF... my g/f called and told me she is pregnant *update*

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Originally posted by: Flyermax2k3
There are several reasons why most religions preach abstinence - and this is at the top of the list. If you can't handle the responsibilities that come with engaging in intercourse you shouldn't be doing it.
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LOL, so whats your excuse for abstinence? 😀
 
This sounds rather bad. If you went ring shopping I'm going to make a huge stretch here and say that you have wedding plans in the near future. Now she's pregnant (I wonder if she knew before shopping?), but won't show you the test? What the HELL is that about? She says shes pregnant, but won't show a test...I mean really what's the test going to say? Positive or negative. So either she's telling the truth (in which case no problem), or is lying (which is why she won't show the test).

And even if I'm wrong there this is just weird. I'd a) Make damn sure she's pregnant and b) if she is make damn sure it's yours.

Also, if she's lying about being pregnant, regardless of what she says, dump her and never return to a relationship with her. Trust me.
 
:static: Houston, we have to Abort this mission 🙁 :static:

Please do us all a HUUUUGE favor, don't marry her if you don't love her. (you'll ruin your life on top it) If you do marry her.. PLEASE do not get a divorce and fvck up the kid. I don't want another social delinquint roaming the streets popping zoloft like it ju-ju beans.

I'm paying TOO many/much taxes to get through life. I don't want to support another single mom and her kid on WIC and food stamps. And don't get conned into marriage through a kid, most times it never works out.

Do the right thing FOR YOU-HER-Unborn zygote- AND US. 🙂

(use protection next time too)
 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
This sounds rather bad. If you went ring shopping I'm going to make a huge stretch here and say that you have wedding plans in the near future. Now she's pregnant (I wonder if she knew before shopping?), but won't show you the test? What the HELL is that about? She says shes pregnant, but won't show a test...I mean really what's the test going to say? Positive or negative. So either she's telling the truth (in which case no problem), or is lying (which is why she won't show the test).

And even if I'm wrong there this is just weird. I'd a) Make damn sure she's pregnant and b) if she is make damn sure it's yours.

Also, if she's lying about being pregnant, regardless of what she says, dump her and never return to a relationship with her. Trust me.
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Sound advice. At the very least you need a paternity test before going any further.
 
Originally posted by: Flyermax2k3
There are several reasons why most religions preach abstinence - and this is at the top of the list. If you can't handle the responsibilities that come with engaging in intercourse you shouldn't be doing it.
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Wow.... 3 minutes.
 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Also, if she's lying about being pregnant, regardless of what she says, dump her and never return to a relationship with her. Trust me.
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Speaking from experience there Skoorb? 😛
 
I adore her very much... we have a health relationship where we can trust each other... up till now at least...
love... um... i really have to define it first...
 
Originally posted by: aves2k
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Also, if she's lying about being pregnant, regardless of what she says, dump her and never return to a relationship with her. Trust me.
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Speaking from experience there Skoorb? 😛
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Thankfully no. In fact that, like most of my advice, doesn't actually come from experience.

I just don't see anything good coming from somebody who lies about being pregnant to try and solidify a relationship!

 
Originally posted by: CrazyPerson
I adore her very much... we have a health relationship where we can trust each other... up till now at least...
love... um... i really have to define it first...
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Love is based on trust.
 
Originally posted by: oniq
Originally posted by: Flyermax2k3
There are several reasons why most religions preach abstinence - and this is at the top of the list. If you can't handle the responsibilities that come with engaging in intercourse you shouldn't be doing it.
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LOL, so whats your excuse for abstinence? 😀
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Flyermax2k3 should be practicing abstinence from social intercourse... 😉
 
Originally posted by: KGB
:static: Houston, we have to Abort this mission 🙁 :static:

Please do us all a HUUUUGE favor, don't marry her if you don't love her. (you'll ruin your life on top it) If you do marry her.. PLEASE do not get a divorce and fvck up the kid. I don't want another social delinquint roaming the streets popping zoloft like it ju-ju beans.

I'm paying TOO many/much taxes to get through life. I don't want to support another single mom and her kid on WIC and food stamps. And don't get conned into marriage through a kid, most times it never works out.

Do the right thing FOR YOU-HER-Unborn zygote- AND US. 🙂

(use protection next time too)
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yeah, all kids of divorce are deliquints that run the streets popping pills to solve their problems...like to prevent pregnancy?
lot of strange issues cropping up in this thread.

i think you two should sit down and get some things worked out. i think the idea of pure abstinance is good in theory but...human beings dont work well in the bounds outside of theory. and waiting until marriage seems like a HUGE mistake. in fact, it seems like a worse idea now more than ever. which divorce so socially acceptable, waiting until marriage puts more social pressure on people to actually get married and for the wrong reasons.
but!
i think KGB has a good point: it is a bad idea to get married to someone you dont love. it will be pain for you and her, which is fine if thats what you want. but dont put a child through that.
abortion? maybe. obviously, this should be brought up when you two talk it out. you dont seem like you really want a kid right now..
but eh, good luck!
 
Originally posted by: GeekDrew
I would not believe a word that she's saying without seeing the test yourself. That coming from (indirectly personal) experience. A good friend of mine had a g/f pull that stunt... after he thought she was pregnant, he started thinking about marriage, he wasn't happy about having a kid, but he's a great guy and wanted to make the best of it. When he found out she was lying he dumped her.
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ask for the test. don't accept excuses
 
tell her that you want to take her to a doctor's office to make sure everything is ok inside of her.

that way you can see a test for yourself.

my guess is that she'll refuse
 
Originally posted by: Vic
Originally posted by: CrazyPerson
I adore her very much... we have a health relationship where we can trust each other... up till now at least...
love... um... i really have to define it first...
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Love is based on trust.
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if love is based on trust.. than no.. i dont love her... simply because she wont she me her test and i dont trust her until i see it
 
Originally posted by: iamme
tell her that you want to take her to a doctor's office to make sure everything is ok inside of her.

that way you can see a test for yourself.

my guess is that she'll refuse
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This sounds like a good idea and I'll bet iamme is right.
 
Originally posted by: aves2k
Originally posted by: iamme
tell her that you want to take her to a doctor's office to make sure everything is ok inside of her.

that way you can see a test for yourself.

my guess is that she'll refuse
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This sounds like a good idea and I'll bet iamme is right.
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i will give a try...
 
The absolute only reason she won't show you is because it never happened.

Plus add to that most first pregnacies and a high % of other ones end up terminated within 3 months due to natural causes.

I had a similar problem with me being a HS sweetheart of an ex. Her family was relocating to Minnesota (I am in Florida) and she wanted to be married...I wasn't ready.

That Christmas she surprised me by showing up at my families house (my mom and her talked, my parents are cool) to stay for a couple weeks. Not to get graphic, we practiced safe sex, but during one of the non intercourse events she let the stuff hit her stuff....sort of unnaturally but I didn't question it...we cleaned up and slept.

a couple days before she left she told me she took an EPT and she's pregnant and that we should get married. I told her I needed to think it out. My mother and I talked and everything just pointed at her wanting a marriage more than anything....the odds were highly unlikely.

My mom came home one day (she was a nurse) and told everyone she needed to test for Hepatitis, since she got exposed. The truth was she was drawing everyone's blood only to test my g/f for pregnancy....survey said negative.

I confronted her with my own EPT and said I want her to do it again...that I doubted the results and if it's positive I would marry her. She broke down crying and it's a long story after.

My guess is your G/F wants a wedding and thinks that equals happily ever after.
 
Originally posted by: CrazyPerson
she had me go wedding ring shopping with her few weeks back... now she is telling me she is pregnant... 😕 and she wont show me her test... 😕
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kranky
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Posts: 6903
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10/06/2003 10:20 PM


Two questions: are you having sex, and who is responsible for birth control?
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CrazyPerson
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Joined: Jan 2003
10/06/2003 10:22 PM


yes, i am responsible

 
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