Wtf is the point of wedding registries?

[cpacini]

Originally posted by: Syringer

-Garlic Press-Slicer...it's called a knife!

No home should be without a garlic press, it's the single most used item in my kitchen.

 

[silverpig]

Originally posted by: cpacini

Originally posted by: Syringer

-Garlic Press-Slicer...it's called a knife!

No home should be without a garlic press, it's the single most used item in my kitchen.

Those things are gimmicks. A good knife will do the job. And besides most of the time I smash the garlic and don't mince it.

 

[NFS4]

My fiancé has us registered for some expensive china (well, $110 for one place setting sounds ridiculous to me -- and she has us down for 12). Her contention is that she has always wanted nice china and that relatives will likely buy the stuff on sale.

My thing is, the economy is in the shitter, no one wants to spend that much on plates, and I sure as hell don't want to complete the set if we only get three or four place settings.

But, whatever. I'm tired I arguing about it.

 

[AccruedExpenditure]

This is why i'm not going to said wedding
-AE

 

[LS8]

Originally posted by: Syringer
I just got my first "American" wedding invitation today, after having been to maybe 8 or so Asian weddings, which has no such tradition (generally guests just give money, which is 100x more practical)..but I've signed onto the registry site and it has the most absolute worthless things I can think of that I know for a fact that the people getting married here will never touch ever..e.g.:

-Garlic Press-Slicer...it's called a knife!
-Italian Tomato Press...WHAT
-Biscuit Cutters, Set of 5...see above two
-Electric wine opener?? http://www.williams-sonoma.com....cfm?needs=1&fromrgl=1

When did the world go insane..or rather, succumb to such great marketing?

When I get married I'm just rolling a paypal account for donations.

Don't rag on other people's culture.

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

They are saving the US by investing in the US economy. By not wanting to do that you are showing you are un-patriotic!

 

[IHateMyJob2004]

People in America are idiots. Unitaskers are a waste of money.

It's soemwhat of a tradition that people get their "Fine China" as wedding gift. That is the kind of thing that lasts forever unless you are ass hoels like my inlaws that buy new "fine china" every time they get bored it seems. So much for having meaning in your life.

Probably originated as a JCPenny ad.

 

[Babbles]

Originally posted by: NFS4
My fiancé has us registered for some expensive china (well, $110 for one place setting sounds ridiculous to me -- and she has us down for 12). Her contention is that she has always wanted nice china and that relatives will likely buy the stuff on sale.

My thing is, the economy is in the shitter, no one wants to spend that much on plates, and I sure as hell don't want to complete the set if we only get three or four place settings.

But, whatever. I'm tired I arguing about it.

Dude, I am totally with you My fiancee picked out some China that costs exactly the same (some Vera Wang pattern from Macy's) and wants 12. I do not understand why on Earth we need that shit - I hate to have stuff around just for the sake of having it, or otherwise it is one of those things we are "supposed" to be getting.

In all other aspects I do enjoy the idea of a gift registry; just can't stand that China shit and asking people to spend that much money is a bit crazy.

 

[MotionMan]

Originally posted by: Babbles

Originally posted by: NFS4
My fiancé has us registered for some expensive china (well, $110 for one place setting sounds ridiculous to me -- and she has us down for 12). Her contention is that she has always wanted nice china and that relatives will likely buy the stuff on sale.

My thing is, the economy is in the shitter, no one wants to spend that much on plates, and I sure as hell don't want to complete the set if we only get three or four place settings.

But, whatever. I'm tired I arguing about it.

Dude, I am totally with you My fiancee picked out some China that costs exactly the same (some Vera Wang pattern from Macy's) and wants 12. I do not understand why on Earth we need that shit - I hate to have stuff around just for the sake of having it, or otherwise it is one of those things we are "supposed" to be getting.

In all other aspects I do enjoy the idea of a gift registry; just can't stand that China shit and asking people to spend that much money is a bit crazy.

The wedding is not about the groom.

The bride gets what she wants. The groom gets what the bride allows him to get.

It is not right, but it is the way it is.

Topol: :music: Tradition :music:

MotionMan

 

[meltdown75]

i did have one. my wife wanted one. don't argue with your wife about such things.

we walked through The Bay with this little scanner thing and she scanned a bunch of crap. she started asking me for my serious opinion on shower curtains and towels and i got mad and walked to the electronics department, sat down on a couch and watched Star Wars.

oh and that night reminds me of the stupid "bone china" we got for our wedding, and how it is all stowed away in some ridiculously expensive cabinet that never gets opened and is worth more than my car.

 

[Turin39789]

Originally posted by: Babbles

Originally posted by: NFS4
My fiancé has us registered for some expensive china (well, $110 for one place setting sounds ridiculous to me -- and she has us down for 12). Her contention is that she has always wanted nice china and that relatives will likely buy the stuff on sale.

My thing is, the economy is in the shitter, no one wants to spend that much on plates, and I sure as hell don't want to complete the set if we only get three or four place settings.

But, whatever. I'm tired I arguing about it.

Dude, I am totally with you My fiancee picked out some China that costs exactly the same (some Vera Wang pattern from Macy's) and wants 12. I do not understand why on Earth we need that shit - I hate to have stuff around just for the sake of having it, or otherwise it is one of those things we are "supposed" to be getting.

In all other aspects I do enjoy the idea of a gift registry; just can't stand that China shit and asking people to spend that much money is a bit crazy.

Why didn't you just point out that you don't need a second "nicer" set of dishware that will only be used once every other year and will have to sit in a cabinet you have to buy expressly for that purpose the rest the time?

We ended up just getting a single set of locally made stoneware, that while it is pricey can be used everyday, is sweet, and is locally and responsibly made. Keeps money in the community. Dishwasher safe.

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: Babbles

Originally posted by: NFS4
My fiancé has us registered for some expensive china (well, $110 for one place setting sounds ridiculous to me -- and she has us down for 12). Her contention is that she has always wanted nice china and that relatives will likely buy the stuff on sale.

My thing is, the economy is in the shitter, no one wants to spend that much on plates, and I sure as hell don't want to complete the set if we only get three or four place settings.

But, whatever. I'm tired I arguing about it.

Dude, I am totally with you My fiancee picked out some China that costs exactly the same (some Vera Wang pattern from Macy's) and wants 12. I do not understand why on Earth we need that shit - I hate to have stuff around just for the sake of having it, or otherwise it is one of those things we are "supposed" to be getting.

In all other aspects I do enjoy the idea of a gift registry; just can't stand that China shit and asking people to spend that much money is a bit crazy.

I'd be happy with the Fiesta ware everyday plates she has on the registry (it wasn't my choice, but I caved and said we can go with the Fiesta ware -- it's a bit too "vibrant" for my tastes for everyday plates).

I mean, I understand why she wants fine china. Her mother has it, and her grandma has it, and she wants to have it. And she's always liked this pattern.

But I mean, honestly, how often are we going to use this stuff? My mom has a nice china set and I can only remember her using it once in 28 years -- and that's when my fiance and I were over for Thanksgiving last year (it was our first time having Thanksgiving with my parents). Any other time, it's just sitting in the damn china closet.

My mom offered up her wedding china to my fiance saying that we could have it as a gift to us both (she said this to me). My fiance told me, "That's OK, I want my Lenox Opal Innocence".

WTF, NO TO FREE CHINA? -- AND SOME NICE STUFF TOO. THIS AIN'T THE CHEAP STUFF!!!!!!!!!

But now I have the feeling that we're only gonna get a few pieces of that stuff and we're gonna have to pay to fill the rest of the set. I'd rather put that money to good use like new living room furniture, new bedroom set, etc.

Maybe it's just a guy thing -- I'm thinking of the practical/financial side of it for both us and for our families and she's thinking of the froo-froo "Oh look, it's pretty" and "well my mom did it" aspect.

Then again, if we do end up getting the full set, I will shut the FUCK up and not say another word, but I'm not holding my breath.

 

[JulesMaximus]

So you get what you want?

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: silverpig

Originally posted by: cpacini

Originally posted by: Syringer

-Garlic Press-Slicer...it's called a knife!

No home should be without a garlic press, it's the single most used item in my kitchen.

Those things are gimmicks. A good knife will do the job. And besides most of the time I smash the garlic and don't mince it.

Garlic press releases the oils, where mincing it doesn't. I agree that smashing and mincing does about the same thing, but I've never been successful at completely smashing a garlic clove.

 

[sswingle]

We just put useful stuff on ours that we actually needed. It worked for the most part, only a couple idiots were like, they want a knife set, I'll ignore the one they want and get a different one, so we got the one we wanted and a random second one.

 

[nageov3t]

some stores offer you a discount to buy stuff on your registry after your wedding that you didn't get?

in NJ, the usual wedding custom is just to give money [my rule of thumb is plate cost (x2 if I bring a date) + $X, wherein X is determined based on how much I like the couple and whether or not they make more than me]... wedding registries tend to be expensive stuff for the parents/grand parents of the bride to buy or for shower gifts.

 

[IEC]

My parents are still using some wedding gifts 23 years after marriage. Some of those things were quite durable

 

[Electric Amish]

We didn't have any place decent around here in 1992 that took registrations so we didn't register...and we received no less than 8 sets of glasses. :roll:

That is why you register.

 

[Babbles]

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: Babbles

Originally posted by: NFS4
My fiancé has us registered for some expensive china (well, $110 for one place setting sounds ridiculous to me -- and she has us down for 12). Her contention is that she has always wanted nice china and that relatives will likely buy the stuff on sale.

My thing is, the economy is in the shitter, no one wants to spend that much on plates, and I sure as hell don't want to complete the set if we only get three or four place settings.

But, whatever. I'm tired I arguing about it.

Dude, I am totally with you My fiancee picked out some China that costs exactly the same (some Vera Wang pattern from Macy's) and wants 12. I do not understand why on Earth we need that shit - I hate to have stuff around just for the sake of having it, or otherwise it is one of those things we are "supposed" to be getting.

In all other aspects I do enjoy the idea of a gift registry; just can't stand that China shit and asking people to spend that much money is a bit crazy.

I'd be happy with the Fiesta ware everyday plates she has on the registry (it wasn't my choice, but I caved and said we can go with the Fiesta ware -- it's a bit too "vibrant" for my tastes for everyday plates).

I mean, I understand why she wants fine china. Her mother has it, and her grandma has it, and she wants to have it. And she's always liked this pattern.

But I mean, honestly, how often are we going to use this stuff? My mom has a nice china set and I can only remember her using it once in 28 years -- and that's when my fiance and I were over for Thanksgiving last year (it was our first time having Thanksgiving with my parents). Any other time, it's just sitting in the damn china closet.

My mom offered up her wedding china to my fiance saying that we could have it as a gift to us both (she said this to me). My fiance told me, "That's OK, I want my Lenox Opal Innocence".

WTF, NO TO FREE CHINA? -- AND SOME NICE STUFF TOO. THIS AIN'T THE CHEAP STUFF!!!!!!!!!

But now I have the feeling that we're only gonna get a few pieces of that stuff and we're gonna have to pay to fill the rest of the set. I'd rather put that money to good use like new living room furniture, new bedroom set, etc.

Maybe it's just a guy thing -- I'm thinking of the practical/financial side of it for both us and for our families and she's thinking of the froo-froo "Oh look, it's pretty" and "well my mom did it" aspect.

Then again, if we do end up getting the full set, I will shut the FUCK up and not say another word, but I'm not holding my breath.

I know. . . it's just mind-boggling. I know we aren't going to use ours - well that being said if we actually get enough sets I will damn well use them every chance I can get so they do provide some sort of usefulness.
Anyhow, I don't know who in the hell is going to buy us more than one place setting.

 

[SirChadwick]

That wine bottle opener is ridiculous. $100+

Wow, people are lazy.

 

[Tobolo]

Originally posted by: AreaCode707

Originally posted by: ChaoZ
Has it always been a requirement to give gifts at American weddings? I know in Chinese weddings you don't give anything unless you're family.

It's standard custom now, yeah. Hypothetically it's good manners to give a gift that is at least approximately the worth of your plate at dinner (often $100ish per plate), but that's supposed to be an unspoken rule so that guests who cannot easily afford it don't feel awkward.

Whose weddings have you been going to???

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick
That wine bottle opener is ridiculous. $100+

Wow, people are lazy.

very ironic choice of avatar, given your comments

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: Tobolo

Originally posted by: AreaCode707

Originally posted by: ChaoZ
Has it always been a requirement to give gifts at American weddings? I know in Chinese weddings you don't give anything unless you're family.

It's standard custom now, yeah. Hypothetically it's good manners to give a gift that is at least approximately the worth of your plate at dinner (often $100ish per plate), but that's supposed to be an unspoken rule so that guests who cannot easily afford it don't feel awkward.

Whose weddings have you been going to???

$100 gift is minimum... if you are close friends or family it goes up from there. IMHO

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: Tobolo

Originally posted by: AreaCode707

Originally posted by: ChaoZ
Has it always been a requirement to give gifts at American weddings? I know in Chinese weddings you don't give anything unless you're family.

It's standard custom now, yeah. Hypothetically it's good manners to give a gift that is at least approximately the worth of your plate at dinner (often $100ish per plate), but that's supposed to be an unspoken rule so that guests who cannot easily afford it don't feel awkward.

Whose weddings have you been going to???

$100 gift is minimum... if you are close friends or family it goes up from there. IMHO

$100 minimum? What the hell? Remind me not to go to wedding in your family/circle of friends.

Most of our registry items are $50 or below (I'd say that about 75% are sub $30). We've also got more than a few sub $10 items (mostly kitchen gadgets/utensils) so people would be more inclined to get more than one thing from the registry.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: Tobolo

Originally posted by: AreaCode707

Originally posted by: ChaoZ
Has it always been a requirement to give gifts at American weddings? I know in Chinese weddings you don't give anything unless you're family.

It's standard custom now, yeah. Hypothetically it's good manners to give a gift that is at least approximately the worth of your plate at dinner (often $100ish per plate), but that's supposed to be an unspoken rule so that guests who cannot easily afford it don't feel awkward.

Whose weddings have you been going to???

$100 gift is minimum... if you are close friends or family it goes up from there. IMHO

$100 minimum? What the hell? Remind me not to go to wedding in your family/circle of friends.

Most of our registry items are $50 or below (I'd say that about 75% are sub $30). We've also got more than a few sub $10 items (mostly kitchen gadgets/utensils) so people would be more inclined to get more than one thing from the registry.

it's ok, internet people were not invited.