Would you marry someone who had a "fake" marriage?

[Azurik]

Scenario: You are in a relatively new, but serious relationship with someone that you truly love. You recently learned that:

(a) That person had in the past a fake marriage, in order to bring a family member overseas to here.

(b) That person has plans to bring a family member here.

Their intention is to sponsor the person here, and divorce once that person can legally stay here.

Disregard who the male or female is in this relationship. Would you break up with this person because of this situation or would it have serious repercussions on your relationship with them?

I never realized how prominent a situation like this is, especially for families who a generation or two ago lived outside of the United States.

Discuss.

 

[sixone]

I'm torn.

I think it's very kind of That Person to be willing to go to such lengths to help someone out.

But if That Person is violating the law to bring in someone who can't get in legally, I have a problem with that. Unless the person is in immediate danger where they are, they should follow the law.

 

[ConwayJim]

A friend of mine was in a similar situation. They stayed together for a few years and then they separated.

 

[leper84]

Run run run.

If they can be that deceptive for the 'greater good' of their family... what are they going to do to you?

I.e. Child support, Alimony, wiping out your credit, ect.

You never know if you're getting played. Too many fish in the sea to pick one with some sizable baggage.

 

[etrigan420]

Run. To. The. Hills. D:

Shady and clandestine people tend to be shady...and clandestine.

 

[Hugo Drax]

Dont let your small head do the thinking for the big head. Maybe she gives a mean BJ and can suck the chrome a a bumper, has an ass so tight you can bounce a quarter off of it, A vagina that can crush aluminium cans but that does not make her marriage material.

Shady begets more shady. She has it in her. I would say enjoy the ride and get off the horse, but dont buy the horse.

 

[mikeymikec]

Absolutely not.

I would probably keep an eye on my wallet too.

 

[AznAnarchy99]

Not a big deal to me but Id get a prenup. Fake marriages happen a lot in the Vietnamese community.

 

[Itchrelief]

1)They're willing to break or at least severely bend the laws to get what they want. 2)Even if it's a sham marriage, they're down with marrying family. Hopefully not very immediate family. I guess they're not really the "sanctity of marriage" type of people

I'd lean toward no, but not being in the situation, I can't say for sure.

 

[classy]

Thats a tough one. You are also treading on legal issues too. I would probably pass, if a person has and is planning to lie along those lines how can you be sure they aren't lying to you.

 

[SunnyD]

Is a prenup and lots of hot sex involved? If so, I'm in.

 

[darkxshade]

All marriages are fake anyway

 

[NetWareHead]

I knew a guy like this that "married" a girl from Colombia to get her in the country. I didn;t ask if he hit it or not but supposedly she was hot. They had a script worked out for the both of them where they had to go and do paperwork together, file taxes, get marriage license and all sorts of BS-legal work. This guy got paid 20K, half before and the rest after their "divorce"

 

[ponyo]

heck no. more potential mouths to feed? he/she is a leech.

 

[gorcorps]

I'm torn.

I think it's very kind of That Person to be willing to go to such lengths to help someone out.

But if That Person is violating the law to bring in someone who can't get in legally, I have a problem with that. Unless the person is in immediate danger where they are, they should follow the law.

Such lengths? It's paperwork.

 

[halik]

Scenario: You are in a relatively new, but serious relationship with someone that you truly love. You recently learned that:

(a) That person had in the past a fake marriage, in order to bring a family member overseas to here.

(b) That person has plans to bring a family member here.

Their intention is to sponsor the person here, and divorce once that person can legally stay here.

Disregard who the male or female is in this relationship. Would you break up with this person because of this situation or would it have serious repercussions on your relationship with them?

I never realized how prominent a situation like this is, especially for families who a generation or two ago lived outside of the United States.

Discuss.

You're not a husband, but family INS fraud vehicle. Pass.

Also i know you're fairly well off and I presume the potential bride is not, given these shady deals. How do you feel about splitting your net worth with her and her newly-american relatives? Can't imagine she wouldn't want half, given her regard to immigration laws.

 

[sixone]

Such lengths? It's paperwork.

Not exactly.

 

[Krazy4Real]

Nope.

 

[Kadarin]

I would discontinue involvement with that person, as it's totally unethical.

 

[BurnItDwn]

I believe our immigration laws in the USA are retarded, so I would consider it.
If somebody is willing to work hard any earn a quility life, I think I would do what I could to help, possibly even if it made me an accomplice into something "illegal."

 

[TecHNooB]

Dont let your small head do the thinking for the big head. Maybe she gives a mean BJ and can suck the chrome a a bumper, has an ass so tight you can bounce a quarter off of it, A vagina that can crush aluminium cans but that does not make her marriage material.

Shady begets more shady. She has it in her. I would say enjoy the ride and get off the horse, but dont buy the horse.

wow, now i'm torn. imagine if you passed on this girl and she genuinely wanted to be your wife

 

[The_Dude8]

You're not a husband, but family INS fraud vehicle. Pass.

Also i know you're fairly well off and I presume the potential bride is not, given these shady deals. How do you feel about splitting your net worth with her and her newly-american relatives? Can't imagine she wouldn't want half, given her regard to immigration laws.

i thought the OP only dates white women? and he's not ready for marriage; he's a millionaire, and he's the only one on here that has the AX black card.

 

[Matthiasa]

Depends.. now that I reread what you typed.

I really can't say, she could do that again and with each divorce they are gaining assets of the ones they were with. (And her lawyers are getting better at it as well)
I would have definite issues trusting here with that being the case, as they had already started a new relationship while still married.

 

[SKORPI0]

Happened to a stupid cousin of mine. Red flags were all over, he ignored all warnings.

Met this "lady" in the a bar overseas, he was in the Navy. They got married, bought a house under her name. Lady was able to petition and bring parents to the USA, then divorced him after about 10 years of marriage and 2 kids. Found out later on that she had a new boyfriend. She ended up owning the house. Cousin ends up broke and homeless.

 

[Svnla]

OP,

Is this person still in the fake marriage and the spouse is ok with the soon to happen termination?

If he/she is still in the marriage, then you better not touch it.

On a side note, if you are decent look, tall, have a US college degree, go back home and there are tons and I mean tons of good looking and unattached girls want to marry you. Why would you want potential troublesome spouse now?

<<<---is picking and choosing several candidates.

And the arrange or "fake" marriage is real and widespread (at least in Asia). Guys can get pay in tens of thousands USD just to pretend to be married for a few years.