Would you date an HIV-infected person?

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KarmaPolice

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It sounds bad...but I would have a really realyl hard time dating someone with aids....it would depend tho.
 

SoulAssassin

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If I was married and found out my existing wife contracted it through a blood donation or something innocent (ie she wasn't shooting h on the corner or getting it on w someone else) I might (emphasis on might) stay w her. If I was single and met a random girl at the bar and found out she had HIV I would run for the hills.
 

Yossarian451

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Thats a tough question. I mean just because someone has HIV doesn't in my mind mean that they should be doomed to be a pariah and suffer being alone. If the person had great qualities to themselves it would be hard for me to just throw them to the gutter. But at the same time the person has a death sentence for themselves, you couldn't ignore that fact. And after that relationship you would be starting at square one. That is to say most people who are in long term relationships never expect the other to die young, and it is thus a great tragedy when it happens. But to go into the relationship knowing it is a definite is a lot of pressure. To say the least it would be a taxing question on myself if I ever had to face it.
 

ultimatebob

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You're aware that you're NEVER going to be able to have unprotected sex and/or have children with this woman, right?

That sounds like far too limiting of a relationship to me.
 

ebaycj

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If this was 10 - 20 years in the future and HIV / AIDS was cured (or able to be vaccinated for), maybe. Other than that, no.
 

Special K

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Sooner or later, someone is going to come in here and say "All you guys who answer no are shallow and only care about sex, blah blah..."

;)
 

ultimatebob

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Originally posted by: Special K
Sooner or later, someone is going to come in here and say "All you guys who answer no are shallow and only care about sex, blah blah..."

;)

I'm more worried about dying a painful death because a rubber broke, thanks :)
 

amicold

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Originally posted by: Mo0o
I'd be their friend but not date them.

1. If you're looking for long term, well there's not really a long term
2. If you're looking for a fling, theres much safer flings out there

:thumbsup: We must have been separated at birth.
 

Journer

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hell no...if i'm going to die early its not going to be because of some stupid disease...
 

sao123

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Originally posted by: Flyback
Originally posted by: Izusaga
Err, no. This is almost similar to the HSV-1 polls, except with HSV-1 80% of the population already has it, and out of those 80% only 20% show symptoms.

Sure, neither have a cure.. but with HIV+, you friggen die.

Thats like playing Russian Roulette.

Thats exactly why I posted this (due to the HSV-1 thread). It made me wonder how much a negative assocation HIV has with most people. HIV is very much looked down on (death part of AIDS aside--its just not accepted much by mainstream society as something less than what slvts/manwhores, africans and homosexuals have), whereas something like HSV-1 is even more easily transmitted but due to its mainstream popularity people think nothing of it (because it is likely they have it ;)).

Keep in mind people, I asked if the dangers of catching it were more or less neutralized would you date the person (and they were healthy, ala Magic Johnson).


No... but not because I'd be afraid of catching it...

1)If she has it, chances are, our baby will have it... this is unacceptable, and not having children the natural way is unacceptable.
2)If she has it, chances are I will out live her largely... even if she lives long, she will be not very active, and often sick. Read: Not active enough life style, and too costly health care
3)The stigma of aids will prevent us as a couple from having large social groups... another thing very important to me.
 

naldo

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Helllllll No!

I think the modern day philosopher Calvin Broadus sums it up perfectly

"Ain't no pussy good enough to get burnt while I'm up in it" - from his dissertation "Nuthin' but a G Thang" circa 1992
 

PokerGuy

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Sounds like a rather bad proposition. Clearly no long term future, and every time you are intimate, you are literally risking your life. Nope, there are surely better ways to go.
 

sandorski

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Until there's a vaccine or cure, no fvkin way! You'd be an idiot to do so. Hang out with them, do stuff together, but no fvkin dating!!
 

hjo3

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Originally posted by: HamSupLo
Sure, a relationship shouldn't be based entirely on sex, you know ;)
I don't know if you're joking, but this reflects my sentiments (minus the winking smiley). If I found someone who was perfect for me (e.g. same sense of humor, similar interests, affectionate, etc.) but we couldn't have sex, I would still have a relationship with them.

EDIT: Of course, I'm assuming that for the purposes of the hypothetical I'm not currently attached. I'm not so disloyal that I'd leave my SO for another person.
 

mugs

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Originally posted by: KarmaPolice
It sounds bad...but I would have a really realyl hard time dating someone with aids....it would depend tho.

You don't have to preface it with "it sounds bad." It doesn't sound bad. It sounds normal to not want to have a sexual relationship with a person that has a deadly sexually transmitted disease.