Would you be upset if your wife wanted to sell her wedding ring?

[40Hands]

Originally posted by: Queasy

Originally posted by: Amused
I'd tell her to stop being a silly, trendy activist and grow up. She already has the ring, selling it won't make a difference. I could understand not wanting to buy more, but selling it is pointless.

How is selling it pointless? (as long as you can get a decent amount of money) The ring serves no real purpose. Yes they already bought it but maybe it means something to her to get rid of the diamond.

I for one will never support the diamond industry.

 

[Al Neri]

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: mrrman
is this based on Blood Diamond

She was aware of that stuff before the movie, but I think it sparked her interest to do some more research in the area. So I guess yes, but not directly.

This is why Propoganda films work !

Propaganda FTW!

 

[BKLounger]

people get exploited everywhere. It is a cold hard fact of life. I just think that if they are going to get rid of something expensive. Since he bought it how about replace it with something expensive both of them can enjoy.

 

[ForumMaster]

Originally posted by: Amused
I'd tell her to stop being a silly, trendy activist and grow up. She already has the ring, selling it won't make a difference. I could understand not wanting to buy more, but selling it is pointless.

pretty much. it won't do help if she sells it. although get her a regular silver or gold ring instead.

i doubt i'd actually buy a real diamond ring. maybe a synthetic but even then maybe not. i just don't think the diamond industry is ethical. but once the ring has been bought, selling it won't make a difference.

 

[Damn Dirty Ape]

she values that ring waay too much to get rid of it.

 

[djheater]

We got married with $40 wedding bands of white gold.

Knew about the diamond industry then...

I have bought her a couple of pieces with diamonds in them... but they're recycled, and it was only because it was the other stone (amber\Peridot) that I was interested in...

Anyway...

I'd be happy to have an activist wife that was concerned with issues, though a little bothered that she'd be willing to destroy a symbol of shared commitment to do so...

meh.. we used disposables 'cause we're lazy though, so maybe you're more hardcore...

 

[Amused]

Originally posted by: 40Hands

Originally posted by: Queasy

Originally posted by: Amused
I'd tell her to stop being a silly, trendy activist and grow up. She already has the ring, selling it won't make a difference. I could understand not wanting to buy more, but selling it is pointless.

How is selling it pointless? (as long as you can get a decent amount of money) The ring serves no real purpose. Yes they already bought it but maybe it means something to her to get rid of the diamond.

I for one will never support the diamond industry.

It's pointless because it will do nothing to hurt the diamond industry. She already bought it, the damage is done. What would help is not buying any more. Putting it back on the market is pointless.

If she truly had the courage of her convictions she would throw it away so she does not contribute to the diamond trade. Though that would still be pointless, as it would do nothing to hurt them.

If you're going to prptest something, do it in a constructive way. She's just doing this to make herself "feel" better. She needs to grow up and get a grip on reality.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

It's not what you change, it's what you do that makes you who you are.

Vegetarians won't change the meat industry, but they don't have to be a part of it.

 

[ryan256]

Um... ok. Would it make a difference to her if it was a Canadian Diamond instead of African?

 

[engineereeyore]

Originally posted by: ForumMaster

Originally posted by: Amused
I'd tell her to stop being a silly, trendy activist and grow up. She already has the ring, selling it won't make a difference. I could understand not wanting to buy more, but selling it is pointless.

pretty much. it won't do help if she sells it. although get her a regular silver or gold ring instead.

i doubt i'd actually buy a real diamond ring. maybe a synthetic but even then maybe not. i just don't think the diamond industry is ethical. but once the ring has been bought, selling it won't make a difference.

Yeah, she's got a little silver band that she still plans to use, so it's not like she's asking to go without a ring. She just bothered by the way the diamond industry works and doesn't want to be associated with it.

 

[iamwiz82]

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: ForumMaster

Originally posted by: Amused
I'd tell her to stop being a silly, trendy activist and grow up. She already has the ring, selling it won't make a difference. I could understand not wanting to buy more, but selling it is pointless.

pretty much. it won't do help if she sells it. although get her a regular silver or gold ring instead.

i doubt i'd actually buy a real diamond ring. maybe a synthetic but even then maybe not. i just don't think the diamond industry is ethical. but once the ring has been bought, selling it won't make a difference.

Yeah, she's got a little silver band that she still plans to use, so it's not like she's asking to go without a ring. She just bothered by the way the diamond industry works and doesn't want to be associated with it.

You already supported it. It sounds to me that she is a fair weather humanitarian.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: ForumMaster

Originally posted by: Amused
I'd tell her to stop being a silly, trendy activist and grow up. She already has the ring, selling it won't make a difference. I could understand not wanting to buy more, but selling it is pointless.

pretty much. it won't do help if she sells it. although get her a regular silver or gold ring instead.

i doubt i'd actually buy a real diamond ring. maybe a synthetic but even then maybe not. i just don't think the diamond industry is ethical. but once the ring has been bought, selling it won't make a difference.

Yeah, she's got a little silver band that she still plans to use, so it's not like she's asking to go without a ring. She just bothered by the way the diamond industry works and doesn't want to be associated with it.

hahah a little late now for that aint it?

 

[iamwiz82]

Originally posted by: ryan256
Um... ok. Would it make a difference to her if it was a Canadian Diamond instead of African?

The amusing part about Canadian diamonds is that they are more expensive than Debeers diamonds. So people say diamonds are overvalued and then want to spend even more to get a Canadian one. 😕

 

[desy]

They pluck those Canadian diamonds just a couple hrs north of me 🙂
A few yrs ago nobody knew what the h3ll a kimber pipe was, now we all know!

 

[engineereeyore]

Originally posted by: djheater
We got married with $40 wedding bands of white gold.

Knew about the diamond industry then...

I have bought her a couple of pieces with diamonds in them... but they're recycled, and it was only because it was the other stone (amber\Peridot) that I was interested in...

Anyway...

I'd be happy to have an activist wife that was concerned with issues, though a little bothered that she'd be willing to destroy a symbol of shared commitment to do so...

meh.. we used disposables 'cause we're lazy though, so maybe you're more hardcore...

Me hardcore? No. Her? Yes. She did a lot of research into disposables and how bad they are for the environment, so went with cloth. Maybe I should feel bad that I don't really care, but I don't. I love her to death and I think it's cute how upset she gets over things like that.

As for the sign of commitment, I've got 3 of those little things running around all day calling me 'Daddy'. So the rings really just don't mean that much to me.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: Amused
I'd tell her to stop being a silly, trendy activist and grow up. She already has the ring, selling it won't make a difference. I could understand not wanting to buy more, but selling it is pointless.

That's my wife though, and part of the reason I love her.

Of course, it's also the reason we use cloth-diapers, and I'm not a big of a fan of that. Though it is nice to not have to spend the money on disposables.

Thus the origin of the term "smelly hippies" 😛

Ask her how much you're saving on cloth diapers when the water bill comes.

- M4H

~$30 a month, especially for newborns. We calculated it out because I had the exact same question.

I'd rather
1. Be able to drop the offensive-smelling package directly into the garbage
2. Not have to wash the fabric containing said offensive-smelling package in the same washer that cleans my work clothing
3. Not have to spend the time performing step #2

IMO, $30 for all three of those is money VERY well spent.

- M4H

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: iamwiz82

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: ForumMaster

Originally posted by: Amused
I'd tell her to stop being a silly, trendy activist and grow up. She already has the ring, selling it won't make a difference. I could understand not wanting to buy more, but selling it is pointless.

pretty much. it won't do help if she sells it. although get her a regular silver or gold ring instead.

i doubt i'd actually buy a real diamond ring. maybe a synthetic but even then maybe not. i just don't think the diamond industry is ethical. but once the ring has been bought, selling it won't make a difference.

Yeah, she's got a little silver band that she still plans to use, so it's not like she's asking to go without a ring. She just bothered by the way the diamond industry works and doesn't want to be associated with it.

You already supported it. It sounds to me that she is a fair weather humanitarian.

That's rather unfair. It's possible she reevaluated her position on the matter and feels compelled to divest herself of any connection to diamonds.

Though if that's the case, SELLING it and thereby profiting on the continued perception of diamonds as valuable as foisted by the diamond industry is somewhat hypocritical.

 

[iamwiz82]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: iamwiz82

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: ForumMaster

Originally posted by: Amused
I'd tell her to stop being a silly, trendy activist and grow up. She already has the ring, selling it won't make a difference. I could understand not wanting to buy more, but selling it is pointless.

pretty much. it won't do help if she sells it. although get her a regular silver or gold ring instead.

i doubt i'd actually buy a real diamond ring. maybe a synthetic but even then maybe not. i just don't think the diamond industry is ethical. but once the ring has been bought, selling it won't make a difference.

Yeah, she's got a little silver band that she still plans to use, so it's not like she's asking to go without a ring. She just bothered by the way the diamond industry works and doesn't want to be associated with it.

You already supported it. It sounds to me that she is a fair weather humanitarian.

That's rather unfair. It's possible she reevaluated her position on the matter and feels compelled to divest herself of any connection to diamonds.

Though if that's the case, SELLING it and thereby profiting on the continued perception of diamonds as valuable as foisted by the diamond industry is somewhat hypocritical.

That's what I mean. Like Amused said, if her position really has changed, destroy the diamond and sell the band. Don't go buy a TV made with underpaid and overworked labor somewhere else.

 

[Amused]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: iamwiz82

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: ForumMaster

Originally posted by: Amused
I'd tell her to stop being a silly, trendy activist and grow up. She already has the ring, selling it won't make a difference. I could understand not wanting to buy more, but selling it is pointless.

pretty much. it won't do help if she sells it. although get her a regular silver or gold ring instead.

i doubt i'd actually buy a real diamond ring. maybe a synthetic but even then maybe not. i just don't think the diamond industry is ethical. but once the ring has been bought, selling it won't make a difference.

Yeah, she's got a little silver band that she still plans to use, so it's not like she's asking to go without a ring. She just bothered by the way the diamond industry works and doesn't want to be associated with it.

You already supported it. It sounds to me that she is a fair weather humanitarian.

That's rather unfair. It's possible she reevaluated her position on the matter and feels compelled to divest herself of any connection to diamonds.

Though if that's the case, SELLING it and thereby profiting on the continued perception of diamonds as valuable as foisted by the diamond industry is somewhat hypocritical.

Yep, as I said, if she truly had the courage of her convictions she would throw it away so she does not contribute to the diamond trade.

By selling it she just joins the trade herself.

 

[engineereeyore]

Originally posted by: waggy

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: ForumMaster

Originally posted by: Amused
I'd tell her to stop being a silly, trendy activist and grow up. She already has the ring, selling it won't make a difference. I could understand not wanting to buy more, but selling it is pointless.

pretty much. it won't do help if she sells it. although get her a regular silver or gold ring instead.

i doubt i'd actually buy a real diamond ring. maybe a synthetic but even then maybe not. i just don't think the diamond industry is ethical. but once the ring has been bought, selling it won't make a difference.

Yeah, she's got a little silver band that she still plans to use, so it's not like she's asking to go without a ring. She just bothered by the way the diamond industry works and doesn't want to be associated with it.

hahah a little late now for that aint it?

I don't think so. True, she already bought the diamond. But every time she goes out and people see it, she's promoting it. And that is what she doesn't like.

If you didn't want to be associated with someone, wouldn't you sever ties with them? Or would you just say, "well, it's too late now because I already know them, so I might as well keep the connection with them."

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: waggy

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: ForumMaster

Originally posted by: Amused
I'd tell her to stop being a silly, trendy activist and grow up. She already has the ring, selling it won't make a difference. I could understand not wanting to buy more, but selling it is pointless.

pretty much. it won't do help if she sells it. although get her a regular silver or gold ring instead.

i doubt i'd actually buy a real diamond ring. maybe a synthetic but even then maybe not. i just don't think the diamond industry is ethical. but once the ring has been bought, selling it won't make a difference.

Yeah, she's got a little silver band that she still plans to use, so it's not like she's asking to go without a ring. She just bothered by the way the diamond industry works and doesn't want to be associated with it.

hahah a little late now for that aint it?

I don't think so. True, she already bought the diamond. But every time she goes out and people see it, she's promoting it. And that is what she doesn't like.

If you didn't want to be associated with someone, wouldn't you sever ties with them? Or would you just say, "well, it's too late now because I already know them, so I might as well keep the connection with them."

By selling it she's asking to profit personally by the diamond trade. She can't do that without being a hypocrite.
Put the ring away as a keepsake.

 

[Amused]

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: waggy

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: ForumMaster

Originally posted by: Amused
I'd tell her to stop being a silly, trendy activist and grow up. She already has the ring, selling it won't make a difference. I could understand not wanting to buy more, but selling it is pointless.

pretty much. it won't do help if she sells it. although get her a regular silver or gold ring instead.

i doubt i'd actually buy a real diamond ring. maybe a synthetic but even then maybe not. i just don't think the diamond industry is ethical. but once the ring has been bought, selling it won't make a difference.

Yeah, she's got a little silver band that she still plans to use, so it's not like she's asking to go without a ring. She just bothered by the way the diamond industry works and doesn't want to be associated with it.

hahah a little late now for that aint it?

I don't think so. True, she already bought the diamond. But every time she goes out and people see it, she's promoting it. And that is what she doesn't like.

If you didn't want to be associated with someone, wouldn't you sever ties with them? Or would you just say, "well, it's too late now because I already know them, so I might as well keep the connection with them."

Her problem is she hates the diamond instead of the trade and abuses. She is taking her protests out on an inanimate object.

Her owning a diamond does nothing to promote the trade. Her SELLING a diamond does.

 

[engineereeyore]

Originally posted by: iamwiz82

Originally posted by: djheater
That's rather unfair. It's possible she reevaluated her position on the matter and feels compelled to divest herself of any connection to diamonds.

Though if that's the case, SELLING it and thereby profiting on the continued perception of diamonds as valuable as foisted by the diamond industry is somewhat hypocritical.

That's what I mean. Like Amused said, if her position really has changed, destroy the diamond and sell the band. Don't go buy a TV made with underpaid and overworked labor somewhere else.

Good point. To be honest, I don't know what she plans on doing with it. I guess I just assumed selling it because we paid for it. I wouldn't put it past her to grab my hammer at some point in time.

EDIT: I think the only reason she'd want to sell it is because she feels bad that I spent the money and doesn't want me to suffer because of it. I don't personally love the diamond industry, but don't see the 'need' to destroy it, so it's a good middle ground for both of us. But if left to her, I have little doubt she'd destroy it or just put it away somewhere.

 

[engineereeyore]

LOL. Wonder what she'll do after I hit 2000 post and become a 'diamond' member? 😕

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: engineereeyore
LOL. Wonder what she'll do after I hit 2000 post and become a 'diamond' member? 😕

You're gonna die :scared;

- M4H