Would you be upset if your girlfriend...

[glen]

I have never owned a woman, so I ahve never had the opportunity to "let" them talk to or nto "let" them talk to anyone.
I am not jelous.
I have dated around 100 women.
1 cheated on me by kissing anoer guy.
Trying to control who they talk to is a sign of weakness and lack of confidence, and in the end is more liekly to make them cheat.

 

[glen]

I date fantastic women. I can't imagine a guy who wouldn't want to "hit it" with one of mine, but so what? They aren't going to because of her, not because of me.

 

[glen]

You know what kind of women cheat the most?
The ones dating overprotective guys.

 

[Falloutboy]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt

Originally posted by: chrissyo4
I don't think the age is a huge deal compared to the bigger problem of this dude she's going out with.
The only you can do is talk to her about it and tell her what you've told us.
You're obvsiouly upset and I would be too.

Age most certainly is too an issue, though. What if she, being 21, went out with someone seven years younger? What if she took some 14yr old guy from her church out for coffee and just sat and talked about life? I doubt most guys woulud be as jealous of the 14yr old as the 28yr old.

unless your the husband of a flordia school teacher

 

[OulOat]

Originally posted by: Falloutboy

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt

Originally posted by: chrissyo4
I don't think the age is a huge deal compared to the bigger problem of this dude she's going out with.
The only you can do is talk to her about it and tell her what you've told us.
You're obvsiouly upset and I would be too.

Age most certainly is too an issue, though. What if she, being 21, went out with someone seven years younger? What if she took some 14yr old guy from her church out for coffee and just sat and talked about life? I doubt most guys woulud be as jealous of the 14yr old as the 28yr old.

unless your the husband of a flordia school teacher

OH SNAP

 

[BadNewsBears]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt
Considering my ex cheated on me with a 33yr old, if this were to happen any time soon I would be stark raving fvcking pissed as hell.

Isn't your ex a member (maybe an ex-member) of these forums?? I coul'd have sworn in like 2000 or 2001 you dated that one girl from here.

 

[LuNoTiCK]

Originally posted by: glen
I have never owned a woman, so I ahve never had the opportunity to "let" them talk to or nto "let" them talk to anyone.
I am not jelous.
I have dated around 100 women.
1 cheated on me by kissing anoer guy.
Trying to control who they talk to is a sign of weakness and lack of confidence, and in the end is more liekly to make them cheat.

Exactly, if you are trying to control them, and tell her what she can and can't do you'll be in for a surprise.

 

[StageLeft]

I had no problem until your third paragraph. That guy needs to buggar off, and if she is unwilling to tell him to buggar off, then I would have a problem. The age wouldn't bug me if it was purely platonic, but he obviously wants more. She needs to make it explicitely clear that it will not be happening.

 

[Zugzwang152]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
I had no problem until your third paragraph. That guy needs to buggar off, and if she is unwilling to tell him to buggar off, then I would have a problem. The age wouldn't bug me if it was purely platonic, but he obviously wants more. She needs to make it explicitely clear that it will not be happening.

This man is married, listen to him :thumbsup:

 

[Linflas]

Ahh for the days when a 7 year age difference was "so much older".

 

[Red]

Just make sure they don't call him Pecho.

 

[imported_nautique]

If you trust her then there shouldn't be any problem. At first there will be some jealousy and hate but hey once you know she is with you and only you then you get over it. Yea, he is just going after the tang, so hopefully she you are providing all the vital needs she needs.

 

[PingSpike]

Yeah, I'd be pretty pissed. The 28 year thing isn't as big as the fact he "used to" want to stick it in her. No one ever stops wanting to do that. At least men don't.

 

[MrChad]

If you trust her, why do you care if she meets or talks to other guys? Let me let you in on a little secret: if you find your gf attractive, then there's probably some other guy out there who does as well. It's really up to your gf how she responds to his advances (if he is even making advances).

 

[Lazy8s]

my g/f cheated on me with an older guy (well ex-g/f) I wasn't all upity about it, that stuff just happens. imho if you get all pissed and rant and rave you'll just make her wish it HAD been a date. Just be cool and ask her that next time she's a little bit more clear about it....and ask that she insists on paying for her stuff when she's out with guys, give her money if you want but letting them pay isn't real cool imo

 

[Lazy8s]

Originally posted by: Zugzwang152

Originally posted by: Skoorb
I had no problem until your third paragraph. That guy needs to buggar off, and if she is unwilling to tell him to buggar off, then I would have a problem. The age wouldn't bug me if it was purely platonic, but he obviously wants more. She needs to make it explicitely clear that it will not be happening.

This man is married, listen to him :thumbsup:

yeah, and his wife is beautiful and obviously loves him. I have a lot of respect for what he's got to say and I haven't even been on ATOT that long

 

[Megadeth]

One of my ex girlfriends did the same thing.... Lets see....
Oh yeah, she was working at the Library here in town and a contracted Networking company was out running cable... I happened to be there and my gf was telling me how this guy was asking some of the other girls there about her.. The other girls thought this guy was cute and stuff like that.... Lets see he was 27 and she was 21... Anyways, he had apparently bought her flowers ac couple times and brought them to work. Then one day (because the ex was super religious) was asking her about her church and then asked to have coffee with him to discuss the church in more detail because he wanted to be a part of it (Yeah right!)....

So anyways, I always drove her to our college class we had together, and on the way to class she said that she wouldn?t need a ride home because she was meeting a friend for coffee.... I asked who and she said Christina (The guys name was Chris by the way) and I was like Oh.... She was a horrible liar, or I'm just good at telling when people are lying. So after class got out I offered to stick around incase her friend didn?t show up so that she had a ride (pretty slick of me huh) and she got all paranoid and finally told me she was having coffee with Chris and that they were only going to be discussing her church and stuff....

Lets fast-forward a couple weeks to Valentines Day where the gf and I had plans and reservations and I had gifts and roses.... I tried calling her Cell phone and Home phone for a good part of the night and never got an answer.... I was stupid at the time and decided to go by her house and there she is with this guy making out in his car in her driveway.....

The next 2 girls I dated after that cheated on me with older guys as well... But those were like little one-month relationships if you can even call them relationships....

So it took me a while to trust my current girlfriend but we have been together for 2 and a half years and things are great. She has some guy friends, I trust her completely with them especially since I am invited to hang out with them and their girlfriends a lot of times.

Anyways, I don't want to make you paranoid or anything, but I think should be able to pick up on things if she is lying to you about things.... If you know her well enough then the signs should be there.

 

[cain]

Originally posted by: Stefan
Would you be upset if your girlfriend went out with some guy that was 7 years older than her "just to talk" and she haden't let you know he was that much older?

My girlfriend is 21 and went out with some guy who is 28 tonight "just to talk" about her trip to India that she is going on. Before she went out with him I was asking her about him. Apparently during the short conversation she told me he was 28. How naive would you have to be to think that I heard something like that and gave no reaction or acknowledgement that I heard what she said whatsoever? There is no way I want her going out with some 28 year old guy who obviously only wants one thing.

This guy tells her that he ?used to like her?, tells her that his friends were giving him a hard time (joking) about him going out with her, tells her that it?s great being able to talk to someone so mature, tells her it?s great that her boyfriend lets her go out with other guys, pays for her ice cream (that?s what they got while they were just talking), etc?

Now I have no problem with my girlfriend going out with her friends. I totally trust her and don?t believe for a second she would do anything wrong. I just don?t like her going out with guys who obviously are trying to get with her.

Would you be upset if your girlfriend said she was going out with ?a guy she knows from church? and failed to tell you he was a lot older?

holy sh1t, should have put your foot down and say no man. motherfvcker wants your girl to ride the choo-choo train and get some pie man.

 

[maziwanka]

it would definately bother me

 

[Shockwave]

Originally posted by: Stefan
Would you be upset if your girlfriend went out with some guy that was 7 years older than her "just to talk" and she haden't let you know he was that much older?

My girlfriend is 21 and went out with some guy who is 28 tonight "just to talk" about her trip to India that she is going on. Before she went out with him I was asking her about him. Apparently during the short conversation she told me he was 28. How naive would you have to be to think that I heard something like that and gave no reaction or acknowledgement that I heard what she said whatsoever? There is no way I want her going out with some 28 year old guy who obviously only wants one thing.

This guy tells her that he ?used to like her?, tells her that his friends were giving him a hard time (joking) about him going out with her, tells her that it?s great being able to talk to someone so mature, tells her it?s great that her boyfriend lets her go out with other guys, pays for her ice cream (that?s what they got while they were just talking), etc?

Now I have no problem with my girlfriend going out with her friends. I totally trust her and don?t believe for a second she would do anything wrong. I just don?t like her going out with guys who obviously are trying to get with her.

Would you be upset if your girlfriend said she was going out with ?a guy she knows from church? and failed to tell you he was a lot older?

This guy would find himself tied up and sold to the first slave ship to pull into port!! Either that or a dagger in his back!! But I digress, a man has bills.... I'd have to sell him I think.
As for the chic, I'd probably smack her around, tie her up and sell her to the gypsies.

 

[Zombie]

Originally posted by: Stefan
Would you be upset if your girlfriend went out with some guy that was 7 years older than her "just to talk" and she haden't let you know he was that much older?

My girlfriend is 21 and went out with some guy who is 28 tonight "just to talk" about her trip to India that she is going on. Before she went out with him I was asking her about him. Apparently during the short conversation she told me he was 28. How naive would you have to be to think that I heard something like that and gave no reaction or acknowledgement that I heard what she said whatsoever? There is no way I want her going out with some 28 year old guy who obviously only wants one thing.

This guy tells her that he ?used to like her?, tells her that his friends were giving him a hard time (joking) about him going out with her, tells her that it?s great being able to talk to someone so mature, tells her it?s great that her boyfriend lets her go out with other guys, pays for her ice cream (that?s what they got while they were just talking), etc?

Now I have no problem with my girlfriend going out with her friends. I totally trust her and don?t believe for a second she would do anything wrong. I just don?t like her going out with guys who obviously are trying to get with her.

Would you be upset if your girlfriend said she was going out with ?a guy she knows from church? and failed to tell you he was a lot older?

Age should not make any difference.
Are you going to tell your GF to only hangout with people between the age group of 20-25? If you really trust her try giving her the benefit of doubt.

 

[Zombie]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt

Originally posted by: chrissyo4
I don't think the age is a huge deal compared to the bigger problem of this dude she's going out with.
The only you can do is talk to her about it and tell her what you've told us.
You're obvsiouly upset and I would be too.

Age most certainly is too an issue, though. What if she, being 21, went out with someone seven years younger? What if she took some 14yr old guy from her church out for coffee and just sat and talked about life? I doubt most guys woulud be as jealous of the 14yr old as the 28yr old.

Are you drunk or just plain stupid ?

 

[slightlyhuman]

well turn the tables around, what if you were out with an older woman talking about "religion"?

it wouldn't fly with me just as well as it wouldn't fly with my gf.


gg double standards



gl:beer:

 

No, I really don't care.
Being in an open relationship for ~7 years made me appreciate her freedom of choice.

 

[Jzero]

The age wouldn't matter to me. Anytime some guy uses a crappy ruse to take my (now)fiancee out it pisses me off no matter how old he is.