Scarpozzi
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If you notice, I accidently got the no and yes backwards in relation to the question.
Really, as far as both goes, these days I wouldn't be surprised what people would do. I never really understood plastic surgery. There is sooo much risk with that stuff. I wouldn't ever want my SO to go under the knife for anything unless she had to.
Dr. Detroit
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If it would significantly decrease the amount of time we spend together, it might make me question the relationship. Basically the SO would be saying: "I'd rather work a second job so I can pay for my boob job and impress other people than spend time with you."
Jeff7
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I think money spent on regular cosmetics is a waste.
The only cosmetic surgeries I am in favor of, off the top of my head, are reconstructive surgeries following some serious illness like cancer, or maybe following an accident, and breast reduction surgery. The latter seems less a matter of cosmetics and more of a health issue, concerning back pain and fatigue, and just inconvenience of having two large skinbags of fatty tissue in the way. (I know, it sounds so lovely when I put it like that.)
Getting a second job? Eesh, I hated the time lost on just one full time job. I have yet to want anything badly enough that I'd take on a second job to pay for it. College is the closest thing to a second job I've ever had in terms of time requirements, and it's simply a means to an end, so that I can hopefully have an easy job once I'm done here, which will allow me to spend as much time not working as reasonably possible. I've got almost 2 months left till my second year is finished, and all I think every day is, "Oh god I want this to be over."
The only cosmetic surgeries I am in favor of, off the top of my head, are reconstructive surgeries following some serious illness like cancer, or maybe following an accident, and breast reduction surgery. The latter seems less a matter of cosmetics and more of a health issue, concerning back pain and fatigue, and just inconvenience of having two large skinbags of fatty tissue in the way. (I know, it sounds so lovely when I put it like that.)
Getting a second job? Eesh, I hated the time lost on just one full time job. I have yet to want anything badly enough that I'd take on a second job to pay for it. College is the closest thing to a second job I've ever had in terms of time requirements, and it's simply a means to an end, so that I can hopefully have an easy job once I'm done here, which will allow me to spend as much time not working as reasonably possible. I've got almost 2 months left till my second year is finished, and all I think every day is, "Oh god I want this to be over."
How much time do you think married people actually spend doing things together?
Btw, would your answer be different if the person working the second job were doing so to benefit the other spouse say by buying them an expensive car or paying off their school debts?
Between jobs, commutes, and keeping friends, probably not much. However, if one of them were to take a second job, they would probably be spending even less.
Paying debts is a necessity of life. Cosmetic surgery really isn't a necessity unless there's some kind of disfigurement. As for the buying of gifts, doing something for yourself (such as cosmetic surgery) is really not the same as doing it for someone else. Sometimes I guess it could be mutually beneficial, but it certainly isn't a selfless act.
All that being said, if a girlfriend/wife/whatever told me she wanted cosmetic surgery, I'd much prefer for her to be willing to make sacrifices herself (like getting a second job) than to expect me to make them. Working a second job would prove you really want it more than asking for someone else to help pay for it.
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Depends on a couple key factors. If you still have young children that require two parents, no. If it's an empty nest(or close to it) no problem with it really.
Also, It really depended on how many extra hours it took. My wife can pick up a 4 hour shift for about $300. One or two of those a month and it can add up to a pretty good chunk of money fast without adding up too much extra time.
But if you are putting in another 20 hours a week and only banking an extra couple hundred bucks...well...bigger cans aren't worth the extra wear and tear on your body. You'll have to start a third job to fix the bags under your eyes and added wrinkles.
Also, It really depended on how many extra hours it took. My wife can pick up a 4 hour shift for about $300. One or two of those a month and it can add up to a pretty good chunk of money fast without adding up too much extra time.
But if you are putting in another 20 hours a week and only banking an extra couple hundred bucks...well...bigger cans aren't worth the extra wear and tear on your body. You'll have to start a third job to fix the bags under your eyes and added wrinkles.
The next question is how many hours are involved in the second job? Does it entail working every free day/night/weekend that you would normally be off from your regular job, or just a few hours per week?
Whatever you do, please carefully check out the surgeon & hospital. Every surgery involves risk, and cosmetic surgery means unnecessary risk. Heck, look at the Charlie Weiss malpractice case. The guy was morbidly obese & had some very nasty complications. He's very lucky he survived & recovered.
So you're getting a face lift, or breast implants? Or is red finally getting that mug shot face taken care of?
I think that if you need to get a second job in order to pay for an incredibly frivolous action such as plastic surgery, you should just skip it.
I think that if you need to get a second job in order to pay for an incredibly frivolous action such as plastic surgery, you should just skip it.
Originally posted by: SampSon
So you're getting a face lift, or breast implants? Or is red finally getting that mug shot face taken care of?
I think that if you need to get a second job in order to pay for an incredibly frivolous action such as plastic surgery, you should just skip it.
I'm just getting tired of wantingsome things fixed and am finally thinking of mustering up the energy to go get the extra money to do them.I'm fairly high up on the senority chain and can probably grab a fair amount of OT,it would have to be time limited though as my primary job is pretty intense.A second job might pay less but might actually be a relaxing change.
I think that as long as the two ppl concerned and affected agree that it is what they BOTH want .. then it really is not much of anyone else's business.
Do what you need to do.. of course, the husband and you are the ones that need to decide, but i understand wanting something so badly that you will do almost anything (legally ) to get it.
I feel for you and i am in the same situation sort of right now... so go for it, just make sure you are ok with taking on the extra work.
I will be honest, i got a p/t job at Hooters and thought it would be easy... not too difficult, but it was tiring. REALLY tiring.
Anyways, i could not handle that and my full time job and other things that i had going in my life.
I am going to try again, doing something else because of personal reasons.
Go do what you need to do. YOU have to make yourself happy. Do it!!! :heart:
) to get it.I feel for you and i am in the same situation sort of right now... so go for it, just make sure you are ok with taking on the extra work.
I will be honest, i got a p/t job at Hooters and thought it would be easy... not too difficult, but it was tiring. REALLY tiring.
Anyways, i could not handle that and my full time job and other things that i had going in my life.
I am going to try again, doing something else because of personal reasons.
Go do what you need to do. YOU have to make yourself happy. Do it!!! :heart:
What type of surgery are we talking about? A simple eye lift? Tummy tuck? Full on face lift with remodeling of the structure? My ex-gf (and still good friend)'s mother gets eye and some face work done every few years. It does put her out of action for a few weeks. I think she could be back to work sooner, but she doesn't want the world to see her all cut up and such. So most likely some time off from your primary job is going to be required, so take that into account.Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: SampSon
So you're getting a face lift, or breast implants? Or is red finally getting that mug shot face taken care of?
I think that if you need to get a second job in order to pay for an incredibly frivolous action such as plastic surgery, you should just skip it.
I'm just getting tired of wantingsome things fixed and am finally thinking of mustering up the energy to go get the extra money to do them.I'm fairly high up on the senority chain and can probably grab a fair amount of OT,it would have to be time limited though as my primary job is pretty intense.A second job might pay less but might actually be a relaxing change.
I don't believe in the idea you need things "fixed". You're just unhappy with your body getting old, which is common place. I don't believe in plastic surgery that much, it just exudes insecurity. Though if my SO felt the need to go out and make money so she could get it done, I would have no problem with it. Hell, I'm sure I'd be more than happy with the results.
I don't mind at all LolaWiz. You see I've been married for 23 years, I have a great marraige and I love my wife. I want her to be happy, and don't mind putting some effort into that. On the other hand, she works hard at making me happy, it's one of those win win deals.
Very few of the people on this board will ever have good marriage, and most cover that lack by being a "tough guy", I don't care what they say, since I can turn around and look at my wife and see her smile, they can't do that. I kinda feel sorry for them.
I don't approve of cosmetic surgery to 'enhance' beauty.
Fixing a deformation or other anomaly is totally different.
Fixing a deformation or other anomaly is totally different.
I would want to have a say in what kind of plastic surgery they were getting. That means a lot less time with me, and if it's only because I want it and not for their own self-image, then I wouldn't want them to do it anyway. You should not get plastic surgery just to please others.
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In the end, do what makes you happy, and only you know best what that is. If you need to ask a forum of younger strangers what is best, that means you have some doubts. Listen hard to them inside yourself before deciding
Self-esteem is probably best found within, only the soul endures. On the other hand, this life within our bodies is also meant for JOY, and our farsighted forefather's benediction and legacy to us, the guarantee of the right of the "pursuit of happiness".
If changing your appearance brings you joy within, go for it. If you are doing it more to please someone else, well . . . there is just no pleasing some other people, you know?
Self-esteem is probably best found within, only the soul endures. On the other hand, this life within our bodies is also meant for JOY, and our farsighted forefather's benediction and legacy to us, the guarantee of the right of the "pursuit of happiness".
If changing your appearance brings you joy within, go for it. If you are doing it more to please someone else, well . . . there is just no pleasing some other people, you know?
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