• We’re currently investigating an issue related to the forum theme and styling that is impacting page layout and visual formatting. The problem has been identified, and we are actively working on a resolution. There is no impact to user data or functionality, this is strictly a front-end display issue. We’ll post an update once the fix has been deployed. Thanks for your patience while we get this sorted.

Women and getting their name changed after marriage

lokiju

lokiju

Lifer
The wife and I were told we need to mail in a money order of $5 in order to get a certified copy of our marriage license and that that will be needed for certain things to be updated for my wifes new last name.

We just don't know how many we'll need or what needs a certified copy to allow a name change.

We're thinking that to update her social security and drivers license but can't think of what else would require a certified copy and just wanna make sure we don't miss anything.


Anyone know that's been through the name change process themselves?

:beer:
 
As far as I know, you'll only need to present the copy of the license - not give it to anyone for them to keep. As far as I know, we got two copies when we were married, and still have both.

My wife told me the social security office was the biggest pain, just because of the lines.
 
Originally posted by: rivan
As far as I know, you'll only need to present the copy of the license - not give it to anyone for them to keep. As far as I know, we got two copies when we were married, and still have both.

My wife told me the social security office was the biggest pain, just because of the lines.
Click to expand...

Hum, thats good to know.

I need to find some official text on this or something.

No sense getting more than we need.
 
Social Security and Driver's License are the biggies. If you share any credit cards or bank accounts, change those too but they shouldn't require a marriage certificate.
 
Originally posted by: Queasy
Social Security and Driver's License are the biggies. If you share any credit cards or bank accounts, change those too but they shouldn't require a marriage certificate.
Click to expand...

You're in Fulton right? Do you know specifics at all?

I'm just not having much luck finding info online and don't know if it's specific rules per county or if it's just national rules that apply.

😕
 
I always thought it is ironic that most women in the U.S. change their last names although feminism is strong in this country, but women in Asia do not change their last names even though their feminism isn't as strong.
 
Originally posted by: lokiju
Originally posted by: Queasy
Social Security and Driver's License are the biggies. If you share any credit cards or bank accounts, change those too but they shouldn't require a marriage certificate.
Click to expand...

You're in Fulton right? Do you know specifics at all?

I'm just not having much luck finding info online and don't know if it's specific rules per county or if it's just national rules that apply.

😕
Click to expand...

I'm in Gwinnett. Have you been to the county marriage registration office? They could pretty much give you all the info you need there. That's what we did but that was over 5 years ago so I've forgotten pretty much all of the details. 🙂
 
Originally posted by: JS80
i will never marry a woman who keeps her last name or does the stupid dash thing
Click to expand...

i know one couple where the women refused to chang her last name. they were divorced 9 months later.

they really shouldnt have got married. waste of like $30k on the wedding.. but the open bar rocked!
 
Originally posted by: JS80
i will never marry a woman who keeps her last name or does the stupid dash thing
Click to expand...

My exwife refused to change her last name when we got married. And now that we're divorced, I realize just how much there was to read into something as simple as that. I also found out after the divorce, that the majority of my family and several friends didn't think too highly of her for not taking my name.

She had several personality/character traits that I consider to be very relevant to someone who would refuse to change their name.
 
Originally posted by: lokiju
Anyone know that's been through the name change process themselves?

:beer:
Click to expand...

Yup, and going thru it backwards, now.

I needed mine for drivers license, SS card, and bank accounts. They took copies, and gave me back the certified copy we got from the state.
 
Originally posted by: 49erinnc
Originally posted by: JS80
i will never marry a woman who keeps her last name or does the stupid dash thing
Click to expand...

My exwife refused to change her last name when we got married. And now that we're divorced, I realize just how much there was to read into something as simple as that. I also found out after the divorce, that the majority of my family and several friends didn't think too highly of her for not taking my name.

She had several personality/character traits that I consider to be very relevant to someone who would refuse to change their name.
Click to expand...
Like what?
 
Originally posted by: 49erinnc
Originally posted by: JS80
i will never marry a woman who keeps her last name or does the stupid dash thing
Click to expand...

My exwife refused to change her last name when we got married. And now that we're divorced, I realize just how much there was to read into something as simple as that. I also found out after the divorce, that the majority of my family and several friends didn't think too highly of her for not taking my name.

She had several personality/character traits that I consider to be very relevant to someone who would refuse to change their name.
Click to expand...

It'd be cool if you share with the class son.. That way we can avoid making the same mistake you did..
 
Originally posted by: goku
Originally posted by: 49erinnc
Originally posted by: JS80
i will never marry a woman who keeps her last name or does the stupid dash thing
Click to expand...

My exwife refused to change her last name when we got married. And now that we're divorced, I realize just how much there was to read into something as simple as that. I also found out after the divorce, that the majority of my family and several friends didn't think too highly of her for not taking my name.

She had several personality/character traits that I consider to be very relevant to someone who would refuse to change their name.
Click to expand...

It'd be cool if you share with the class son.. That way we can avoid making the same mistake you did..
Click to expand...


Look at all you pretending you talk to girls... hahaha!😉
 
My wife has not changed her name. Her primary reason for this is that she does not want to put in the effort. Having spent my fair share of time in DMV purgatry, I can't blame her....

Our son has my name.

Also, to those saying they wouldn't marry a woman who will not change her name, what if she has a career in which her name and reputation hold some value? What then?
 
Originally posted by: JS80
i will never marry a woman who keeps her last name or does the stupid dash thing
Click to expand...

So what you're saying is that you'll never marry a woman who is subservient to you, and one you can't own (she's giving up her name, and taking yours - it's like branding an animal - eh?).

It's an archaic practice, that served no other reason in the past than to confine and limit women, making them objects of ownership.
 
Originally posted by: 49erinnc
Originally posted by: JS80
i will never marry a woman who keeps her last name or does the stupid dash thing
Click to expand...

My exwife refused to change her last name when we got married. And now that we're divorced, I realize just how much there was to read into something as simple as that. I also found out after the divorce, that the majority of my family and several friends didn't think too highly of her for not taking my name.

She had several personality/character traits that I consider to be very relevant to someone who would refuse to change their name.
Click to expand...

So what you're saying is that she was a strong, independent woman, who didn't want to live in a relationship where there was a power struggle between you two? That's the only reason I can think of not changing one's name.

Can any of you provide a reason, outside of archaic cultural practice, why a woman should change her name when she marries a man?
 
Originally posted by: Ryan
Originally posted by: JS80
i will never marry a woman who keeps her last name or does the stupid dash thing
Click to expand...

So what you're saying is that you'll never marry a woman who is subservient to you, and one you can't own (she's giving up her name, and taking yours - it's like branding an animal - eh?).

It's an archaic practice, that served no other reason in the past than to confine and limit women, making them objects of ownership.
Click to expand...

Yeah, my wife is definately subservient to me. Damn her for taking my name!:roll:
 
Originally posted by: Feldenak
Originally posted by: Ryan
Originally posted by: JS80
i will never marry a woman who keeps her last name or does the stupid dash thing
Click to expand...

So what you're saying is that you'll never marry a woman who is subservient to you, and one you can't own (she's giving up her name, and taking yours - it's like branding an animal - eh?).

It's an archaic practice, that served no other reason in the past than to confine and limit women, making them objects of ownership.
Click to expand...

Yeah, my wife is definately subservient to me. Damn her for taking my name!:roll:
Click to expand...

If your wife asked you to take her name, what would be your response?
 
Originally posted by: Ryan
Originally posted by: Feldenak
Originally posted by: Ryan
Originally posted by: JS80
i will never marry a woman who keeps her last name or does the stupid dash thing
Click to expand...

So what you're saying is that you'll never marry a woman who is subservient to you, and one you can't own (she's giving up her name, and taking yours - it's like branding an animal - eh?).

It's an archaic practice, that served no other reason in the past than to confine and limit women, making them objects of ownership.
Click to expand...

Yeah, my wife is definately subservient to me. Damn her for taking my name!:roll:
Click to expand...

If your wife asked you to take her name, what would be your response?
Click to expand...

The same thing she'd tell me if I demanded she take mine. Go to hell.

Keep your entry-level sociology and psych classes in the classroom.
 
I told my wife she should keep her last name. Her's was short and succinct. Mine is long and hard to pronounce. She wanted to do it. I probably should have just had her committed right then.
 
Originally posted by: Ryan
So what you're saying is that she was a strong, independent woman, who didn't want to live in a relationship where there was a power struggle between you two? That's the only reason I can think of not changing one's name.

Can any of you provide a reason, outside of archaic cultural practice, why a woman should change her name when she marries a man?
Click to expand...

It's symbolic - just like wearing a wedding ring. Works for some people, not for others.

For someone who's all about personal choice, you sure are disrespectful of those who chose to take their husband's name. :disgust:
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

TRENDING THREADS

Back
Top