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Wife's Depression

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Tavis

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I don't know what to do. I don't know how much more I can take. Seems like every other week my wife is depressed and its making life so hard for me. I love her, but I just don't know how much more I can take 🙁
 
Talk to her to see if you can figure out what's wrong. She might need to go see a psychiatrist.

Try to be there for her as much as you can. If she is depressed, there is a reason, and she needs all the support she can get.


: ) Amanda
 
She's got to go to her doc. He can refer her to a specialist if necessary (IE - Psychiatrist). Other than being supportive and trying to get her to seek help, there is nothing you can do.

🙁
 
is she able to exercise...this is a fundamental key in treating depression and often overlooked....if it is truly is chronic ( over a period of six months, suicidal ideations, feelings of worthlessness, and of course the vegetative signs either extreme weight gain or loss), then i recommend immdediate counsleing accompanied by exercise, and some anti-depressants

JC
 
yep medication and counseling, there are alot of couples that go through this, seek assistance from a peer group if she isnt interested in counseling.

good luck.

question: why is it every other week she seems depressed? my wife battles depression but it doesn't manifest itself one week and then the next week she is fine. Then again, everyone is different....

 
She's already on medication and she's already seen psychiatrists. She's been through about 5 different meds and none of them are helping. Just makes me want to cry.
 
I had symptoms of depression until I took some sleeping pills at night.

Needless to say, it helped tremendously. What a world of difference a good, deep, QUALITY (not quanity) night's sleep makes. It's night and day for me now (No pun intended). 🙂
 
Originally posted by: Tavis
She's already on medication and she's already seen psychiatrists. She's been through about 5 different meds and none of them are helping. Just makes me want to cry.
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It's hard to believe that a psyche doctor hasn't been able to treat her condition by now......maybe depression isn't the problem but a symptom of something else?


 
Originally posted by: Tavis
She's already on medication and she's already seen psychiatrists. She's been through about 5 different meds and none of them are helping. Just makes me want to cry.
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How long has she been on them? Typically it takes 4-6 weeks to start working.

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Depression is tough on the person who has it and anyone close as well, either it is complety a mental disorder (god forbid) or there is a reason she is depressed and needs to determine what it is and how to fix it. May be a long shot but maybe she might want to consider trying hypnosis, I'm not one to be quick to belive in these type of things but I have known people that swear it has helped them.
 
Originally posted by: Joeyman
sex, lots and lots of sex (I'm not joking)
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You're talking out of your a$$. Sex is the last thing most depressed people want and forcing them to give in is not going to help them almost certainly make it worse.

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Depression is a difficult condition to treat because it varies so widely from person to person. Some people can do fine with therapy and coping mechanisms. Some need medication. It is often frustrating to try to find the proper medication. Most must be taken for more than a month (some 2-3 months) before they even start to make a difference. Dosages often have to be tweaked. What works for one person may not work for another (that is why there are so many different anti-depressants). Has she been diagnosed with depression (or is it possible it is something else - like Bipolar)? I know it can also be really difficult to find a good psychiatrist - one who is responsive to your needs and who you can get along with. I have known people that have struggled with depression literally for years before finding the right doctor/medication combo.

Try not to lose hope. As difficult as it is for you, it is probably worse for her.

Have you considered going to counselling to help you cope?
 
I doubt any of us can give you any advice being that she is already getting professional help. Has she tried a psychologist? It's a slightly different approach--no drugs. Do you yourself have people who can give you emotional support?

Someone very close to me suffered from clinical depression and eventually committed suicide, so I hope things improve for both of you.
 
Originally posted by: bernse
Originally posted by: Joeyman
sex, lots and lots of sex (I'm not joking)
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You're talking out of your a$$. Sex is the last thing most depressed people want and forcing them to give in is not going to help them almost certainly make it worse.

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I'm not talking about forcing a person to have sex (That's called rape) But the natural endorphins released during and after sex have very positive effects on a person. Not to mention it will usually make them feel wanted and intimate with one of the most important people in they're lives.

Light some candles, have a dinner, draw a bath, then do the nookie till the break of dawn.
 
Originally posted by: Joeyman
Originally posted by: bernse
Originally posted by: Joeyman
sex, lots and lots of sex (I'm not joking)
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You're talking out of your a$$. Sex is the last thing most depressed people want and forcing them to give in is not going to help them almost certainly make it worse.

rolleye.gif
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I'm not talking about forcing a person to have sex (That's called rape) But the natural endorphins released during and after sex have very positive effects on a person. Not to mention it will usually make them feel wanted and intimate with one of the most important people in they're lives.

Light some candles, have a dinner, draw a bath, then do the nookie till the break of dawn.
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You don't understand. People suffering from depression don't want to do things like that. If anything it makes them feel worse because then they think they're letting their spouse/S.O. down.

They don't want a romantic dinner. They don't want to take a bath together. Suggesting even the idea of it can make them break down.

Professional help is required. The most loving husband in the world is helpless with the depression demon.

If she has already seen a professional, my humble advice would be to get refered to another.
 
He mentioned it happens every other week. So its not a continuous state of depression, If medication and counseling isn't working then I say give some of natures methods of feeling good a chance. And of course he's going to have to romance her and all that jazz. Force her to go out to dinner and see a movie. Fawn over her, make her feel like the queen of the world. Everything she does is special, and don't give her a chance (not matter how bad she feels) to feel down about things.


And if all of these things don't work (and you sincerely tried) along with the medication and therapy..... well you might have to wonder if you should move on....

To the OP how old are you btw? How long have you been married?
 
I think sometimes people get this all wrong. I dont necessarily agree with joeyman's remedy (or whatever his name is) but I also dont think that you should just start pumping drugs into people and taking them to talk with people that they dont know. Yes it's a big deal but the easiest way to overcome something like this is to be with your closest loved ones and so on...joeyman is on to something, because no, professional help is not required.
 
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