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Why have kids?

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highland145 said:
Love my kid.
Dislike others, usually greatly.
If I had never had my kid, wouldn't know that I was missing out on a great gift. It's like life going from black and white to color.
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Yeah that's right, not to mention that you would die all old and alone when you don't have kids, then at least your grandkids will visit you.

Why the hell keep living without kids? What's the purpose?
 
I got married way too young. I was 24. I had a daughter with that first wife.
We got divorced when my daughter was 4 and the ex remarried. I saw my daughter almost every weekend. She grew close with her step father. At first I was a little jealous then I realized that it was good that she had two dads that loved her. He and I got along well. The ex, not so much.
The ex wife died about a month ago from lung cancer. She was a smoker. She was 54.
Last night, my daughter's step father went to the hospital because he was feeling ill. Thirty minutes later, he was gone. They're not sure why yet.
My daughter is upset. Some times it's hard being a parent.
RIP, Mitch.
 
Personally, I love kids. They provide perspective on life. My life could be going into the shitter and my relationship with my wife could suck ass, but my son will still want to play choo choos with daddy.
 
Kommander_Kink said:
Yeah that's right, not to mention that you would die all old and alone when you don't have kids, then at least your grandkids will visit you.

Why the hell keep living without kids? What's the purpose?
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Not to derail the thread, but some would say that the purpose of life is to create yourself. HOw you do that is up to you. Some have kids and build themselves by building a family. Others take a different path.
 
The best way I can explain it is, kids make your horizons expand and your love multiply.
 
Because no matter how shitty a day I'm going to have at work or how shitty a day I've had at work, saying hello/goodbye to my son who runs up shouting "daddy!" to me as I enter/exit the door makes everything worthwhile.

Now, ask me again in 13 years or so when he hates my guts for ruining his life, and I might say something different. But for now, best experience ever.
 
RU482 said:
- why have x number of kids...
cause only one is just fuckin creepy, and more than 2 is exponentially more work
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QFT. 2 kids is plenty of work. My poker playing buddies are all dads and the ones with 3+ kids always look ragged and are pretty jaded about life. I had a vasectomy just before baby #2 came along.
 
The problem with this thread IN this forum is that most of the posters are still kids themselves.

To the OP, congratulations on your new child.
 
oldsmoboat said:
I got married way too young. I was 24. I had a daughter with that first wife.
We got divorced when my daughter was 4 and the ex remarried. I saw my daughter almost every weekend. She grew close with her step father. At first I was a little jealous then I realized that it was good that she had two dads that loved her. He and I got along well. The ex, not so much.
The ex wife died about a month ago from lung cancer. She was a smoker. She was 54.
Last night, my daughter's step father went to the hospital because he was feeling ill. Thirty minutes later, he was gone. They're not sure why yet.
My daughter is upset. Some times it's hard being a parent.
RIP, Mitch.
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Holy shit man, that's frickin insane. Hope you're daughter is doing ok but fuck, fine to dead in 30 min is insane.
 
I think I'd be good at being a father, my young cousins are great and they love me. I don't think I'd want to be around all four of them everyday though.

Also 18 years is a long time and as we know, these days, there are plenty of us sticking around way past 18. Such a terrible financial burden.
 
Jeeebus said:
Because no matter how shitty a day I'm going to have at work or how shitty a day I've had at work, saying hello/goodbye to my son who runs up shouting "daddy!" to me as I enter/exit the door makes everything worthwhile.

Now, ask me again in 13 years or so when he hates my guts for ruining his life, and I might say something different. But for now, best experience ever.
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This ^ on all counts. I can't wait for the I HATE YOU screaming to begin, but luckily they are only 1 & 3 now so I got a bit yet to enjoy them.
 
I don't think anyone should have a child until they are fiscally responsible and financially stable, even though they require each other. I don't think I plan on having kids for at least six or seven more years and I am 24.

I barely make ends meet right now, can't afford an engagement ring, haven't started my career...so many reasons to NOT have kids. Although maybe someday...just not any time soon.

But that is just me! Others, I'm sure, have kids by the time they are 18, 19, or 20...
 
Jeeebus said:
Now, ask me again in 13 years or so when he hates my guts for ruining his life, and I might say something different. But for now, best experience ever.
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That's why you need to brainwash them into hating what you hate at an early age. If you don't want your son sleeping with retarded women who think they will make a living writing poetry, you need to constantly paint poets as being a bunch of lazy idiots.


I was brainwashed from an early age that going to university or trade school was a fact of life. I tried really hard in school without my parents directly telling me to try hard. It never crossed my mind that dropping out was an option. It also never occurred to me that it's possible to be successful with just a high school education.
 
Saint Nick said:
I don't think anyone should have a child until they are fiscally responsible and financially stable, even though they require each other. I don't think I plan on having kids for at least six or seven more years and I am 24.

I barely make ends meet right now, can't afford an engagement ring, haven't started my career...so many reasons to NOT have kids. Although maybe someday...just not any time soon.

But that is just me! Others, I'm sure, have kids by the time they are 18, 19, or 20...
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But who is to determine fiscal responsibility and financial stability? I know before kids, if my wife and I wanted, we got. We are in LESS debt now after kids than before. They help ground you and give you a better perspective on things in general. If it weren't for them we'd both still be wasting money instead of putting it back for college and etc.

I think it's the mindset that's required, not the money. People that have kids too young typically don't have the required mindset to make the better decisions.
 
OILFIELDTRASH said:
I guess everyone is different but having kids for me would be like a nightmare come true. I really have no interest in attending school parents meetings, doctor visits, cleaning up messes, changing diapers, etc.. Maybe I fail at life I don't know? Just sounds like a horrible thing to me. I'll be 30 in March and I'm set in this way of thinking. I'd rather enjoy life myself. If I want to go out there is no need for a babysitter. I have extra money for whatever I want to do. There is no guarantee you won't die a lonely old bastard even with kids. And I don't fear that anyways.
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This about sums me up as well except ill be 38 soon. I see no point. I dont fear being alone (which im not). I dont feel the need to bring anything into this already pretty shitty world we seem to be striving for.
 
Gillbot said:
This ^ on all counts. I can't wait for the I HATE YOU screaming to begin, but luckily they are only 1 & 3 now so I got a bit yet to enjoy them.
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My boys are 7 and 4 years old. They both still greet me in the garage with yells of "daddy!" and lots of hugs. It's great to have 2 good excuses to get games like Kirby's Epic Yarn too. 🙂
 
Saint Nick said:
I don't think anyone should have a child until they are fiscally responsible and financially stable, even though they require each other. I don't think I plan on having kids for at least six or seven more years and I am 24.

I barely make ends meet right now, can't afford an engagement ring, haven't started my career...so many reasons to NOT have kids. Although maybe someday...just not any time soon.

But that is just me! Others, I'm sure, have kids by the time they are 18, 19, or 20...
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Actually, I rather like the fact that I'll be young enough to really have a lot of fun with my boys as they also get older. There are pros and cons to having kids early.

I personally would wait until you're finished with whatever schooling you choose to undertake though. For a junior college that age might be 20, or a doctor might wait until they're in their early 30s.
 
Golgatha said:
My boys are 7 and 4 years old. They both still greet me in the garage with yells of "daddy!" and lots of hugs. It's great to have 2 good excuses to get games like Kirby's Epic Yarn too. 🙂
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My daughter doesn't like Hello Kitty. 🙁

I want these for my car still but everyone laughs at me:
hello-kitty-exhaust-pipe.bmp
 
Two reasons to have kids:
1. To blame for why your life hasn't turned out the way you wanted.
2. To brag that your life turned out the way you wanted.
 
I often wonder what's the point in having kids, at least in my case. I just can't seem to afford it, my wife and I have been struggling in this crazy economy just to survive, let alone have a kid.

Then again, my wife's biological clock is ticking, and so is mine, so the thought crosses my mind. It just seems like a huge hassle and there are already so many people in the world it makes me wonder what's the point?
 
If you read the reasons above Juddog, they're mostly selfish reasons.

"It makes me love more"
"When work sucks, my kids are toys that cheer me up"
"Other BS here"

no one thinks about what the kid is going to have to go through
 
CRXican said:
If you read the reasons above Juddog, they're mostly selfish reasons.

"It makes me love more"
"When work sucks, my kids are toys that cheer me up"
"Other BS here"

no one thinks about what the kid is going to have to go through
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You got to work a little harder to get your troll on.

One person loving more doesn't mean children love less. Frequently it means everyone loves more.
Kids and pets do cheer you up after a hard day. Doesn't mean they're equal or "toys."
Can't argue with the "BS here" part. 🙂
 
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