Why do u choose to keep your virginity?

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Nutcase99

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I've kept mine because first off I haven't found the right girl. (Yes I know its the typical excuse but its the truth!!) Second I just don't think I want to right now, I mean I know sex isn't everything and I can live without it till I find a person that I really love.
 

Buttzilla

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i'm dating a 22 yr old virgin...i love her so much. i'm not going to push it. its all up to her.:)
 

Yeeny

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It all depends on the person. Some people choose to save it for their own moral or ethical reasons. Others choose to do what they want, and just enjoy the moment. And there is nothing wrong with either choice, as long as two consenting adults who are making the decision.

EmperorNero: You really have to re-evaluate your situation with your girlfriend. If you have such a major hang up over her making a mistake, then why are you with her? I am sure that she regrets enough her past errors, with out having to hear it from somebody else. If you cannot stand the thought of what she did, then that is your choice. But she cannot change it, and being with her when you feel this way, is only going to hurt you both in the long run. And I am not bashing your life choices by any means, if that is the way you want to be, then good for you! But getting mad at her over what she cannot fix is just not right. I lost my virginity when I was only 15 to a 21 yr old, and it was the worst mistake I ever made in my life. But I moved and learned from it, partly because I had supportive people in my life, and partly because I realized I was young and stupid. And I don't think I am a bad person for it, instead I think it helped me grow up, and realize what was important in life.
 

Isla

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Actually, Red Dawn, you have a good point there.

I knew how intensely my husband felt about me not being a virgin, so I did not tell him about the couple of boyfriends I had in between my first husband and him. As far as he knew, it was just him and my ex.

Finally, there came a point in time when I had to tell him the truth... I was very unhappy with not being able to be real with him.

OMG, the sh!t hit the fan!

And yet to me, it was like.... ????? I have a low count compared to most people! You should be glad! :D :D

I hope EmperorNero can forgive and forget his girlfriend's mistakes. Everyone will be happier for it!
 

hzl eyed grl

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Why do I choose to keep my virginity? Well, I was raised that it wasn't good to have sex before marriage. I haven't been in a relationship where I truly loved someone. So, I haven't really had the temptation even if they pressured me. I think that once I'm in a relationship where I am head-over-heels in love with someone....It will be a whole lot more difficult to remain this way. Ideally I would like to remain a virgin until I'm married. I cannot predict the future. I may be able to wait, I may not. But either way, I want to be sure to love the person. :)
 

Soybomb

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Listen to Red Dawn, you've got a problem if it bothers you that much Nero. Dont hold that over her head constantly, I'll bet your past isnt perfect either.

To answer the question I've known two girls who i can say I loved. I have no reason to regret my actions with either one. Its a healthy act, and an expression of love (at least for me, to each his own), I see no reason for us to deprive ourselves of that expression for years until marriage.
 

hzl eyed grl

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Red, I know that I may not marry my one true love. That would truly be a fairy tale though, huh? ;) Like I said...I may not last that long. I don't know. If I fell in love with someone, who knows how my resistance would be. But, I still want to try to do what I want to do. :)

Oh....You may act gruff, Red, but you're just a big ole softie. ;)
 

Shuxclams

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<< Why do u choose to keep your virginity? >>



Who said I did? :D



<< I knew how intensely my husband felt about me not being a virgin, so I did not tell him about the couple of boyfriends I had >>



Isla?
The truth is always the best policy, especially with the person you have commited the remander of your life to. IMO.


That goes for the rest of the BOYS that have a hang up about women having had experiances before they met them, its just plain stupid, a loving relationship only works if you are there to love and support the other person for who they are not what they have done.











SHUX
 

Isla

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<< The truth is always the best policy, especially with the person you have commited the remander of your life to. IMO. >>



I know SHUXS, you are right. But if he had known, he wouldn't have dated me. He was looking for the perfect virgin and I wasn't it. At the time, I didn't feel like he really needed to know about the others. I felt like he was being a bit ridiculous about what I should and shouldn't be, but I respected him and wanted him to like me. I was pretty young at the time (22), so once I realized my mistake, I came clean with it.

:(