Why do u choose to keep your virginity?

[rc5]

It's funny to see this thread.

Males don't have virginity at all.

Well, if you are gay, it's probably true.

 

[yakko]

I was supposed to save that. Damn! Does this mean I can no longer get a refund?

 

[T4NNER]

another bump for the "no willing partners" excuse.

 

[Isla]

I disagree.... males do have virginity, they just don't have hymens.

Virginity is a state of purity, nothing more, nothing less. A woman can be a physical virgin and not be pure at all...

I wasn't a virgin when I married my husband, but I have kept my own idea of purity, which is no sex without love. Sex without love hurts someone, sooner or later.

The #1 prerequisite for keeping virginity would ideally be love. Wait for it, or at least the closest approximation you can find...

It is really sad that is not the case more often.

 

[integlspwr]

Because, i'm responsible.

 

[kendogg]

thanks guys.. your ideas have helped out lots... 20min before i have to get to class...

 

[Ulfwald]

I agree with Isla, Sex with out love may feel good at the moment, a momentary thrill of the unknown, but deep inside, it leaves an empty feeling. I have had one night stands, and nothing good ever came of them. I jut felt like I had used someone, or had been used.

I was a wild child between 16 and 27, I tried to move in on every willing female I saw, then I had to back up and take look at myself. That is when i met my wife.

 

[xtreme2k]

sex without love will hurt if you take sex seriously

sex without love shouldnt hurt if you just take sex for its pure 'fun' and as a 'pressure releasing activity' then sex isnt too bad to have (not necessarily meaning one night stands)
in this way, you gain more than you loose
at least these are my opinions

 

[atomicbomberman]

great.. there are all these guys talkin about gettin laid, and there are all these other guys and Isla telling me to NOT get laid...

And since I'm a loyal Anand nerd.. LOL I'll take Mrs. Isla's advise

 

[BoberFett]

Do you really think for many people here that virginity is a choice?

j/k

For the record, I was a virgin until I met my wife. Sometimes I regret it, as she wasn't a virgin when I met her and especially since our sex life is suck. Sometimes I just ask myself "This is what I saved myself for?" Oh well.

 

[Isla]

bober

uh oh... You aren't really Mr Isla, are you? Seriously, spend more time communicating and things will get better.

edit: communicating *with her*


atomicbomberman

As long as when you do, it is an expression of love. That is what makes sex awesome! And of course, you should be responsible enough to handle issues such as birth control, STDs etc. May the right time/person be on the way soon!

Red Dawn

I know lots of guys who feel that way, but I haven't met too many women who do... of course, they are out there... but even all my wilder friends have said they wished they had not been so quick to give it away. Oh, well.

I don't think you have to be *married*, but mutual love is really the best way to go...

There is a psychological and physical price most women pay when it comes to casual sex. Not all, but many are hurt by it.

 

[kru]

"Why do u choose to keep your virginity?"

heh...do you think that most of the guys in here are virgins by choice?

 

[Slap]

Red is right on this one. Sex is sex and that is it. Now "making love" to someone is totally different. If you are young and feel the need to have sex, find a adequate partner and enjoy. Just always remember to be responsible. Sex was a normal thing for most everyone when I went to high school and college. What are you saving yourselves from......a good time? Just do it! You won't regret it.

Besides, you wouldn't buy a milk cow without first tasting the milk.

 

[alferret]

virginity whats that?:Q:Q

 

[Isla]

Guys...

Don't get me wrong... If the sex is mutually shallow, then by all means enjoy!

It's when one is hoping for something more than the other or believes something that is just an illusion that the damage is done.

Boo Hoo... Poor Isla loved someone very much and had sex with him, and he didn't love her back! I really thought he did, and I was wrong. My bad. He's one of you who thinks sex is okay for a good time. Well, maybe it is for some.... Just make sure both parties know the score. I still feel the pain, so forgive me if I feel the need to express my rather biased opinion here.

BTW... I've seen the tables turned before. I had a girlfriend who was devastingly hot and man, she would get guys to fall head over heels and then say "Oh, let's just be friends!". Watch out for her and her sisters.... they are out there...

 

[Mday]

i have no girlfriend.

i am not exactly saving myself for anyone "special".

i am not the type of person to envolve myself in a one-night-stand.

 

[EmperorNero]

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[IronMike]

Here is an idea I haven't seen posted Kendogg.
The fall of man (as described in many of the world religions) might be the result of the spirit's entanglement in flesh. So to release oneself from the flesh and let the spirit be truly free, the flesh must be overcome in either this life or somewhere in the eternal. If considered from that standpoint, virginity and celibacy might be a higher calling. One thing is for certain, damn few can actually accomplish it.

 

[EmperorNero]

red dawn, I'm not sure if that whole elite status got to your head or you always sported that fvcking arrogance and attitude in thinking your opinion on something so subjective must apply to everyone else. fine, you see sex as a casual thing so continue being the man-whore that you are. but at least I can make the person who I'll give my virginity to feel more special and exclusive as opposed to giving her something that has been inside anything that walks on two legs and has tits.

 

[Viper GTS]

Now how could I have missed this thread? I guess that's what I deserve for sleeping until 1:30. :|

Anyway...

Why have I kept my virginity? I actually didn't have any particular belief either way until about 9 months ago. I haven't exactly had a lot of "experience" with women, so up until then the opportunity had never arisen. Which was just fine with me, hell, I was only 17. 9 months ago, had I been physically closer (She's in PA, I'm in OR) to Sarah, I probably would have lost it. Both of us were to the point ehere we would have. Stupid, stupid, stupid. I still can't believe how close we came. Thankfully we both regained our senses, & nothing happened at all when I went to see her in June. I didn't even kiss her on the mouth, which we had agreed on prior to my visit.

Why do I hold myself to such high standards? Although I also believe it's wrong, that's not my primary reason. I've done plenty of things that were wrong/illegal, so that's never stopped me before. My biggest reason is that I view my virginity as a gift. A gift that was given to me when I was born, & that I have the responsibility to use wisely. People refer to "losing" their virginity, I'll never lose mine. Instead, I'll give it to the one & only person that I'll be having sex with - my wife. That's the best gift I can give my wife. The knowledge that she's the only one I've ever known, & the only one I will ever know, save for her death & my remarriage. I don't expect or demand that same in return, but if the woman I marry is a virgin as well, it's an added bonus. I don't have a lot to offer financially, I'm not the best educated or best looking SOB on earth, but I can offer that promise.

You are putting sex way to high on a pedestal...

I don't think you can put it on a high enough pedestal. Sex is not just about the pleasure & sheer fun of the physical activity. It's the ultimate expression of love & commitment between a couple, and it's not to be abused.

what happens if your 'other half' hates your 'fukin' style after you two got married

Again, you've missed the main point of sex. Sex is an expression of love. If the love is good, the sex will be even better. I have no doubt about that, & am not worried in the slightest that I won't enjoy sex with my wife.

I looked at like buying a car, you don't make a purchase without taking it for a test drive first

Many people take this attitude. The analogy fails quickly, though, if you consider that a car's primary purpose is to be driven. That's what they're made for. A spouse's primary purpose isn't sex. The companionship & love far surpass the pleasure of sex, which is just one of the added benefits. If you married someone just for sex, I pity you.

After saying all that, I'll say one more thing... I don't hold everybody to these standards. These are mine, & they will be the standards of the woman I marry. If you don't believe the same way, so be it.

Viper GTS

 

[qacwac]

For me it is only the command of God that keeps me from having sex.

 

[Imported]

I haven't had a need to have sex yet, and I'd rather try and not cause complications with my girl over it.

 

[Engine]

I've been in these discussions before, and it always ends up the same. Some of us think sex is something that should wait, and others don't. There's a lot name calling and finger pointing, and nobody changes their minds, but it's kinda fun to get all worked up over stuff

That said, I'll add my two cents, and I'll make it short and sweet. I waited for 23 years. I lost my virginity six weeks ago...when I got married. It was the best thing I ever did.

 

[CommunistParadise]

because nobody want me, i am ugly!

 

[Engine]

Well... of course. That's what newlyweds are supposed to do And actually, I don't consider it lost time, because I wouldn't have had it any other way. It's more... special, I think, than if we hadn't waited. I prefer to think of it as 'just getting started'