Why do u choose to keep your virginity?

[kendogg]

Hehe i gotta write an essay i need some ideas..... thanks

ya im serious i gotta write an essay

 

[MegalodoN]

Dunno, I didn't, lost mine kinda early...I was 15

 

[Ulfwald]

You can choose to keep it for many reasons:

Threat of disease
Unwanted Pregnancy,
Want to save it for someone special
Too young
Haven't found anyone worth giving it to
Fear of being caught by parents
fear of being caught by your partner's parents

Others may come up more, but this is all I can think of this early in the morning

 

[glenn1]

you could always go for honesty points too (whether it's true or not)

"i haven't found a willing partner yet"

Who knows, some teachers might give you some credit for being willing to say that

 

[StageLeft]

glenn1's point is responsible for at least some

 

[kendogg]

hhehe this is what i get for procrastinating... due @ 11am

 

[eia430]

I don't think any of my friends including myself waited till marriage to loose it. There is a general concensus among all my friends both male and female. WE SHOULD HAVE. But you can't go back in time, such is life.

 

[Stallion]

I kept mine till I was 21 for fear that I would someone PG. I also was worried that my Parents would kick my butt big time as I was brought up in a religous home and it was a general concensus that it was wrong to sleep around. I waited till then but then I started to make up for lost time. I was a bad boy.

My Sister waited till she was married, she was 21. Our Boys Baby sitter is still a virgin also, she is 19. I can ask her why she has waited.

 

[Ulfwald]

I agree, I lost mine at 16, but I wish I would have waited. But since I didn't, I was always looking for someone else who hadn't either. After a while, I would not stay with anyone who didn't want to "play". Then I developed a mindset, I would not maryy anyone who did not "play" before marriage, why? because who want's to marry a dud in the sack, I looked at like buying a car, you don't make a purchase without taking it for a test drive first. But then I met my wife, who is so sweet, kind, loving, giving, supportive, understanding, and was still a virgin up until 6 months before we got married. We dated for 3 years.


She has known no one else but me, and now I wish I knew no one else but her.

 

[Isla]

My husband saved himself for marriage because of religion based fears. He felt that if he had sex before marriage, it would ruin the relationship... somehow doom it with sin. The idea is that having sex before marriage ruins the relationship's foundation.

(I was sort of like Stallion... I had been married before, but had become celibate and a 'new virgin')

If I had given in during our courtship, he would have broken up with me because the covenent would have been 'sullied'. I am smart enough to have seen this, so I held my ground.

I have seen other guys who have done the same thing.... They date a girl, plan to marry her, and when she gives in to their constant begging, they dump her! They don't talk about it and most won't admit it, but I've seen it happen again and again.

Mr. Isla and I have talked about this quite a bit, and I find it very interesting. I am going to teach my kids to wait until they are in a committed relationship, but I am not going to teach them that sex is evil/bad or can ruin a good relationship if it happens before marriage!

edit:clarity

 

[Stallion]

While I was not a virgin when I got married,and neither was my wife, we didn't sleep together till our wedding night so while we weren't virgins in the general sence we were to each other. The anticipation of the wedding night was awesome. And the wait was worth it. It was a very long 18 months though.

 

[Ulfwald]

Sex is neither right nor wrong, there is however a right and wrong time for it, and IMO, you should wait until you can afford to have sex, IOW, wait until you are adult enough to face the consequences if 1+1=3

 

[Isla]

ufwald

Amen! That is what I am telling my kids, among other things. Also that is a very precious thing you don't want to share with just anybody.

I agree that it should be taken seriously, but not viewed as 'bad'. The longer you wait to be with someone you love (or are learning to love), the better! Well, within reason.

 

[StageLeft]

stallion

That is weird that you both were not and waited till wedding night, geeze!

 

[xtreme2k]

but wouldnt it said if you kept yourself as a virgin for marrage but then at the end getting divorced because your 'other half' keeps fuking around with others

 

[Isla]

Nevermind

 

[Total Refected Power]

What's funny, I generally found that women wanted sex at a very early stage in the relationship. They were very agressive and I was conservative. Imagine that? This was in the mid to late teen years. Looking back I did not really respect these women but they did put a smile on my face at the time .

When I finally met my wife in college she was a breath of fresh air.

 

[xtreme2k]

also
what happens if your 'other half' hates your 'fukin' style after you two got married
isnt that too late?

'fuking' takes years of 'training/practise' to make it perfect

 

[Isla]

I think my other half really likes my, um, style....

The only problem is that there can be a tendency to imagine someone or something else is more perfect.

Dealing with reality can be a biatch for some people....

 

[Czar]

To late for me

 

[Stallion]

Skoorb, we just decided that that would be the best thing. We we're very much commited to doing the right thing by GODS standards and that meant waiting. Although we had had sex before we wanted to wait till we got married this time. We didn't even kiss for 3 months.

 

[xtreme2k]

actualyl the question ITSeLF is kinda dodgy

what happens if you already losted your virginity?

i mean if you have already lost, and they ask you that question, what are you supposed to answer?

 

[Isla]

Stallion

Your new icon is scaring me.

Yeah, Mr. Isla and I waited about 3 months to kiss. We met in March and kissed for the first time in May.... I about fell over when we finally did. It took another 6 months before we got engaged.... a total of about 18 months from meeting to marriage. I don't think we could have waited much longer.

I also made him call me first. Gosh, I must sound like some kind of freaky blast from the past, but he really appreciated the fact that I was more demure than the other girls he had met.

 

[Electric Amish]

Actually, I don't "try" to keep my virginity. I "try" to give it away at every possible chance I get.

amish

 

[Wangel]

My wife said she kept it because it made the other person that much more persistant. Sort of like a curiosity too.