I'm sure others have written similar to what I'm about to but I read this topic earlier today and wanted to digest and think about it a while before replying, which is something I think we could all do more of.
1. You can't sell yourself as if you were a car. It just won't work.
2. You seem to have an inflated ego based on your income while your profession isn't impressive. Quite the contrary, some might say you get dumber and more dishonest every day you work this job, every year that passes that you are away from formal education where you had a learning regiment focused on things like facts. Yes I know the car sales business, lol. Rescue puppies or something.
3. You might be an intelligent person but it works against you. You're putting too much emphasis on meeting THE RIGHT LIFE PARTNER, instead of just meeting and having conversations, developing conversation skills, realizing that talking to a Hot Babe You Might Like To Bang, doesn't have to be some kind of acceptance or rejection choice. You can literally try to strike up an intelligent conversation with anyone, bangable or not (lol) and see where it leads.
4. Upon striking up such a conversation, it need not lead to are they single, have kids, profession, etc. Just enjoy what you are doing, talk about things relevant to the situation. Within a few seconds and some direct eye contact I can usually tell whether the opposite sex is interested in me, even if the person happens to be married (I mean unavailable) or in a relationship (unavailable unless I put some work into it), emotionally unstable, crack addict, psycho, etc. - there are all types out there and you won't know until a face to face conversation - online personas mean ABSOLUTELY NOTHING !!!!!!!!!!!!
5. If a gym or club doesn't work for you, why act like that's some impediment. Do you not realize there are lots of places on earth that aren't clubs and gyms? Literally, at a grocery store, ask some woman about a recipe with what they plucked off a shelf, or at a gas station, do they like their car, whatever so long as it's appropriate to the situation instead of a creepy I-want-to-get-with-you, vibe.
6. Times have changed. Women, men too, used to settle down and marry at an earlier age. They say 50 is the new 30, and people marry later in life if ever. That was a few years back and the situation is even more complicated with simple minds being too overwhelmed with all the internet has to offer, dating sites or not.
7. Don't pretend that "professional" means intelligent. An idiot can be a professional and be overwhelmed by the internet including lots of messages on a dating site. An intelligent person learns to sift through the noise and abandon dating sites if they aren't working out. If they are working out then either that person, with the same goals as you, already found a mate or just wanted to play the field.
8. Thus, dating sites to find someone with the same intentions as you, will require you to look for new members and not bother with those "aged" there which is never, ever, a good thing.
9. Get out more. If you just spent your free time roaming around any populated area, your odds of finding a good match would go up substantially compared to taking abuse from us.
10. I had to make 10, it's a rule. No offense meant but you seem to be blocking your ability to build conversation skills with adult women by setting high standards. That does not mean you have to settle lower than your standards, but it does mean it could be useful, and friendly, and just human to talk to a lot of different people. It could be that the more you talk to people, the more you start to realize that this ideal mate you want, isn't so ideal, that everyone has to spend their time developing one aspect of themselves at the expense of another and that ultimately, a hot babe with a professional career, spent time to get that life and is not looking to melt into your arms to be what you want them to be instead. I see that a lot, men or women who are young and ignorant, who say "she/he wanted to change me", oblivious to the fact that as she grew older she'd make the same changes either way, just being ignorant about how people mature over time, and the same for the male, not seeing that once you settle down that hot babe (or guy) will (often) not feel the need to try to keep him or herself up to be so attractive, which can be good or bad depending on how you look at it.
If you have read this far you entirely missed the point which is too much thought and not enough getting out there. Just be in public. You can't meet the perfect gal if she's standing around the corner but you're here reading this.
It's only awkward because you're on a mission instead of trying to just interact with people on a personal level.
If I were your age I'd steer clear of women your age and head for the mature ones.
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