why do people bother getting married.

[czhang]

to save on taxes and fill out 20 more forms than you had to when you were single!
or i guess it can be love ...

 

[StageLeft]

hehehehe, yeah, I know that you two just bought that Nissan. Nice car! I don't mean that the car is everything. I really don't feel that way. It upsets me that so many people make a judgement about people based on their cars. We have a very upscale mall here where people drive very nice cars. When I had my 1986 Plymouth Reliant wagon, I would easily have driven it in there just because it didn't fit in at all. Now that I'm driving a Saturn, it is more embarrasing than anything.

I used that as an example. There are things that I'd like to do, that I can't let myself spend the money to do. I love to work on cars, and I've been wanting to buy another older car to play with. I wouldn't pay more than about $2500 for it. Yet, I can't let myself do that. I would feel too guilty owning an extra car. Somehow, my wife convinced me to buy a Seadoo last summer. I guess I was still on the high from the marriage at that point, because I don't think that I would ever be able to buy one now. I'd rather tell her that I'll give her the $60 to go rent one at the lake anything she wants to go.

WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME SKOORB??? I don't get it.

Don't look to me for help I'm pretty damn cheap as well. That car we bought only happened from having months to warm up to the idea. Too many people do guage others on their car, and that's why you can often see a cadillac or something nice like that in the ghetto. I know that when I get into the sentra sometimes and somebody is getting into their car ocassionally they may think "Poor guy that's all he can afford.", but really I don't care much. I get the best of both worlds: A nice car that I'm happy in, and another car that does nothing but get me around and does it well. If it had a big ole dent on the side I surely wouldn't get it fixed either. It's not about self-respect, it's about priorities and where you want to spend your money.

 

[radioouman]

hahahaha a cadillac in the ghetto!!! LOL!

Anyway, so it comes down to being cheap. All of my problems are with being cheap?

Oh well, I guess that there are worse things

 

[StageLeft]

Originally posted by: radioouman
hahahaha a cadillac in the ghetto!!! LOL!

Anyway, so it comes down to being cheap. All of my problems are with being cheap?

Oh well, I guess that there are worse things

No that isn't the route - being cheap is a smaller problem than being an overspender I think!

 

[amok]

I won't buy new clothes for myself, only for her. I won't buy a new car for myself, only for her. I don't buy anything for myself unless something breaks and I need a replacement. Does this mean that I don't have any self respect?

Lol, you sound a lot like me. I usually keep things going till they break/fall apart/die as well. The only place that I do splurge is on my car and my women .

 

[Aquaman]

Um.......... corrert me if I'm wrong but even if you are not married and are cohabitating for over a year then are you not considered common-law husband and wife? So if you split there will be some asset splitting like a real divorce.

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[Tung]

children are cool

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: Tung
children are cool

What did that have to do with the thread?

 

[dirtboy]

Originally posted by: weezergirl
if they are going to get a divorce anyways (at least half of them). does a ring and your names on a paper mean that much to you?
if people didn't get married they could break up instead of divorce, much nicer and easier! what's the difference between living with someone and actually being married to them?? you could even have kids together. people should just "go out" instead of get married.

why do YOU bother getting married?

Been married and divorced. I find it hard not to agree with you. Some valid reasons are: health insurance and retirement monies.

It does make me happy that my gf isn't interested in marriage!

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: Aquaman
Um.......... corrert me if I'm wrong but even if you are not married and are cohabitating for over a year then are you not considered common-law husband and wife? So if you split there will be some asset splitting like a real divorce.

Cheers,
Aquaman

I dunno about the US, but here in Sweden, a woman and a man who lives together (in a sexual relationship) are considered partners and that's almost the same as being married except for one thing, you will not automatically inherit eachother if one of you would die...

 

[bleeb]

I believe the people who get married and end up divorced either

1. don't truely know their partners well enough.
2. don't truely know themselves.
3. get married for the wrong reasons (Golddiggers, Sex, etc).
4. simply get married because society/family gives pressure to.
5. don't value marriage as sacred as it was meant to be.
6. some people just want kids.
7. Etc...


Anyways, I'm not married and don't plan to for a while.. so I can't say why I would get married.

 

I am too tired to read all of the responses to the original post. However, I will say this much:

I too have trouble understanding why people who shack up feel the need to get married even if there's every sign that it won't work out. I don't understand it at all. I am thinking it's totally a psychological thing where they want to fit in and feel good about themselves.

I do think that marriage is a great thing. What bothers me, though, is people who abuse the meaning of marriage. People who just operate by their feelings at one moment, rush in and rush out, etc. It no longer seems "sacred". It looks like the government's smart way to obtain money (i.e., with taxes).

I pray that if I ever get convinced to do what I always dreaded--get married, I would have made the right choice for a lifetime and feel confident about it. I would also hope that he would have made the right choice and feel confident about it. I would hope that he would cherish the meaning of a union, know what he is getting into, make efforts to keep the union strong, long-suffering, mean what he says, and say what he means.

Best of luck to the rest of you trying to understand this thing. It's certainly too complicated for me at the moment.

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: ThisIsMatt
Because once upon a time it meant something. It meant that you were there for your spouse. You could be counted on, you were committed. You decided that this person was the one person you could always trust, always talk to, always seek help from, and they'd be there. If you decided to have kids they would always have a mother and a father, because kids need both (and not one for weekends or one in another city). You shared the burden of raising children, since two heads are better than one in tough situations.

Now, people are more selfish. They're overly concerned with themselves and won't commit to anything meaningful. They don't trust each other, don't communicate, and look elsewhere for support. Kids are just an unfortunate byproduct of sex and are shrugged off onto one parent or another. Poor decisions are made by one parent without the other, meanwhile both parents are pointing the finger at the other, or even their pseudo babysitter, society, to avoid blaming themselves for not owning up to their responsibility.

Pretty much 100% truth.

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: WalMart1564

Originally posted by: BingBongWongFooey

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: Keego
It's that whole no sex until marriage thing

That's right. For marriage is a covenant unto the Lord God and our Savior Jesus Christ; engaging in sinful physical activity without the blessing of our Lord is abomination of the highest order, and punishable by eternal damnation in the fires of Hell. All God-fearing Christians have a duty to live lives of worship and duty, and to banish the Devil and his temptations of pleasures of the flesh. Only the pure love of the baby Jesus and our faith will overcome this evil.

amen my fellow god fearing good hearted christian!

christian ????? your the moron defending drunk driving and anti war
brush up on your bible AN EYE FOR AN EYE

Yeah and that was in the Old Testament smart guy.

 

[fastz28]

Because people get married for the wrong reason. If you are looking for someone to fill your needs, to make you happy, and to make your life worth living, you will be disappinted and discouraged with marriage.

But if you just be the person God made you to be, and give your life to her by meeting her needs and make her happy, you will find fulfillment, joy, and peace.

 

[ElFenix]

last i checked, and this was several years ago, there was only one state in the union that you could get a marriage in, and that was lousiana. every other state (and LA) you got something akin to marriage-lite

 

Wow! I'm amazed! An insightful response from you, This Is Matt. I really mean it. I pretty much agree with your post quoted a few posts above. I agree with you completely. Sorry I didn't read it earlier, but you did my work for me. I do believe that the thread that got deleted earlier today very much shows exactly why marriage means nothing. I was astonished but not at the same time in another sense suprised to see what some people posted and stood for. It surely represents the source of most divorces that we have today.

 

[MrsHoneybee]

People get married because they love each other. It's great to have someone to share your life with.