Originally posted by: BigDan
Originally posted by: MichaelD
I just asked The Big Boss if he wanted to go have Chinese food for lunch. He said:
Yeah Mike, that sounds good...gotta stop at the ATM first though...I've got no cash.
He makes 5x what I do, yet he NEVER has money in his wallet. I'm not talking $100 or more...not even $5!
I have noticed this w/my boss, too, as well as most of the other guys in the office.
What do they have in common? All of them are Married With Children.
I understand they have bills and expenses. So do I. But they always open the wallet and say "Damn. My wife/kids/dog/cat raided my wallet again!"
WTH? Isn't your wallet "sacred space" or "off-limits?"
When I was cohabitating, my wallet was off limits as was her purse. You just don't go thru your wife's/GFs purse! It's private.
I'd be pissed if I thought I had money and my wallet was empty.
What's wrong w/you married guys?
My husband never carries cash. Why?
1) He doesn't want to handle the finances, I do that for both of us.
2) He doesn't want cash around because he'd blow it on overpriced crap at the cafeteria at work or fast food places (not good for the waistline).
3) He's cheap but doesn't trust his impulses.
He doesn't even know the PIN on his debit/ATM card. If he wants to buy something, he phones/IMs and says "which card do I use?" Sigh. This morning, I had to dig a couple bucks out of my pocket for him so he could buy his once-a-year lottery ticket. (Note: I rarely have more than five bucks cash myself.)
So, for him, it's just one whole area of life he doesn't have to stress too much about. He trusts that I am handling our finances responsibly.
And no, I would never (and my kids sure as hell would never) take money from his wallet without asking. That's just wrong. I mean, he rarely has any in there, and sometimes forgets it's there if it is, why deprive him of the joy of finding it later? Haha, actually, the real reason is that if either of us has cash, we usually have it for a specific purpose, and it's just rude to take it without asking and leave the other person without the cash they needed for whatever they planned on.
Money is family money, though. There isn't any of this "MY money, MY credit cards, MINE MINE MINE" crap. "Sacred space, off-limits"? No, that kind of secrecy is the kind of thing that breeds distrust. You ask first because it's *just common courtesy*. I don't ever use a purse, but I don't have anything to hide in my pockets/wallet. I just tell my spouse to dig around if he wants money or whatever. He always asks, and I never have a problem. And it has nothing to do with kids, we were the same way before the kids came along. Hell, from the day he moved in, long before we got married, he has given me the task of handling money. I didn't ask him to leave his balls at the door, if that is what you are implying about most married men.
Some people just don't care if their spouse takes money without asking, they have that agreement and if they have no problem with it, why would I care? I'm not intimidated by people doing things differently from me.
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