Why do married men NEVER have cash in their wallets?

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Instan00dles

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not married and very rarely have cash in my wallet, I buy stuff with my interac card and if a store doesnt accept interac I dont buy from there.
 

Ime

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I'm married and have cash in my wallet. I have no kids yet.

See, my wife doesn't need to take my cash... she already has my CC's! :Q
 

Nitemare

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I usually carry less than 5 bucks with me at any time (married no kids)

I rarely have need of cash. I bring my lunch every day along with snacks and bottled water. If I do stop at fast food places, maybe twice a month it is usually something off the dollar menu. I'm just a cheap mofo that uses my debit card for 99% of all purchases.
 

guyver01

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I'm not married, and i always carry cash with me... i use it for quickie purchases or food or stuff..
big purchases always go on the credit card.
 

tm37

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I hide all my money in a sercet pocket in my showe so my wife can't find it;)
 

AstIsis

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I rarely have more then some change on me since I pay with everything using my check card or a regular CC. My fiance does carry cash, but I would never take any without asking first.
 

SCSIfreek

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I'm not married and have cash in my wallet most the time. Although I tend to give most of it to my Fiancee. She hardly ever visits the ATM. We have a joint bank account and share most of our money. :)

--Scsi
 

Maverick

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I'm unmarried and I use my debit card...very rarely do I use cash. Cash burns a hole in my wallet...it doesn't stay there very long.
 

timmyG

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if i get married no one is ever gonna raid my cash without asking me first. that is just FUBAR
 

BruinEd03

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Originally posted by: dquan97
I'm married and I have [counting out] 1...2...4 dollars to last me for the month.

speaking of which...how was ur wedding? I remember seeing pre-wed. pics that u posted on ATOT :)

-Ed
 

LOL! I didn't know that a man having an empty wallet had everything to do with whether or not he was married. Uhmmmm. . . . This is totally new to me. :p Great, now I know how to find out if a man is really lying to me about his marital status. ;) :p
 

dquan97

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Originally posted by: BruinEd03
Originally posted by: dquan97
I'm married and I have [counting out] 1...2...4 dollars to last me for the month.

speaking of which...how was ur wedding? I remember seeing pre-wed. pics that u posted on ATOT :)

-Ed

oh yeah, here. I'll put the link on the original thread too!
 

Bryophyte

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Originally posted by: MichaelD
I just asked The Big Boss if he wanted to go have Chinese food for lunch. He said:

Yeah Mike, that sounds good...gotta stop at the ATM first though...I've got no cash.

He makes 5x what I do, yet he NEVER has money in his wallet. I'm not talking $100 or more...not even $5!

I have noticed this w/my boss, too, as well as most of the other guys in the office.

What do they have in common? All of them are Married With Children.

I understand they have bills and expenses. So do I. But they always open the wallet and say "Damn. My wife/kids/dog/cat raided my wallet again!"

WTH? Isn't your wallet "sacred space" or "off-limits?"

When I was cohabitating, my wallet was off limits as was her purse. You just don't go thru your wife's/GFs purse! It's private.

I'd be pissed if I thought I had money and my wallet was empty.

What's wrong w/you married guys?

My husband never carries cash. Why?
1) He doesn't want to handle the finances, I do that for both of us.
2) He doesn't want cash around because he'd blow it on overpriced crap at the cafeteria at work or fast food places (not good for the waistline).
3) He's cheap but doesn't trust his impulses.

He doesn't even know the PIN on his debit/ATM card. If he wants to buy something, he phones/IMs and says "which card do I use?" Sigh. This morning, I had to dig a couple bucks out of my pocket for him so he could buy his once-a-year lottery ticket. (Note: I rarely have more than five bucks cash myself.)

So, for him, it's just one whole area of life he doesn't have to stress too much about. He trusts that I am handling our finances responsibly.

And no, I would never (and my kids sure as hell would never) take money from his wallet without asking. That's just wrong. I mean, he rarely has any in there, and sometimes forgets it's there if it is, why deprive him of the joy of finding it later? Haha, actually, the real reason is that if either of us has cash, we usually have it for a specific purpose, and it's just rude to take it without asking and leave the other person without the cash they needed for whatever they planned on.

Money is family money, though. There isn't any of this "MY money, MY credit cards, MINE MINE MINE" crap. "Sacred space, off-limits"? No, that kind of secrecy is the kind of thing that breeds distrust. You ask first because it's *just common courtesy*. I don't ever use a purse, but I don't have anything to hide in my pockets/wallet. I just tell my spouse to dig around if he wants money or whatever. He always asks, and I never have a problem. And it has nothing to do with kids, we were the same way before the kids came along. Hell, from the day he moved in, long before we got married, he has given me the task of handling money. I didn't ask him to leave his balls at the door, if that is what you are implying about most married men.

Some people just don't care if their spouse takes money without asking, they have that agreement and if they have no problem with it, why would I care? I'm not intimidated by people doing things differently from me.

 

ElFenix

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my father carries around mad bills and hes married...
 

MichaelD

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Hmm, it seems I need to change the thread title to "How come all men are always broke?" ;)

Still, it was a different idea for a thread in OT. Thanks to all for playing. :)

Oh, Big Dan, you're female? :confused: Ya never can tell, sometimes!
 

Koing

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I carry at least £20 in my wallet and also £10 for emergency cash that I do not spend. That cash ALWAYS stays in for whenever I am out and need money for a taxi back home.

I'm not married but have a gf.
 

Bryophyte

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Originally posted by: MichaelD
Hmm, it seems I need to change the thread title to "How come all men are always broke?" ;)

Still, it was a different idea for a thread in OT. Thanks to all for playing. :)

Oh, Big Dan, you're female? :confused: Ya never can tell, sometimes!

Well, being the big, dumb gorilla seemed to be an easier way to start here. You can imagine how differently people treat women than men in adolescent male-dominated boards.

 

jjones

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Oct 9, 2001
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Originally posted by: MichaelD
I just asked The Big Boss if he wanted to go have Chinese food for lunch. He said:

Yeah Mike, that sounds good...gotta stop at the ATM first though...I've got no cash.

He makes 5x what I do, yet he NEVER has money in his wallet. I'm not talking $100 or more...not even $5!

I have noticed this w/my boss, too, as well as most of the other guys in the office.

What do they have in common? All of them are Married With Children.

I understand they have bills and expenses. So do I. But they always open the wallet and say "Damn. My wife/kids/dog/cat raided my wallet again!"

WTH? Isn't your wallet "sacred space" or "off-limits?"

When I was cohabitating, my wallet was off limits as was her purse. You just don't go thru your wife's/GFs purse! It's private.

I'd be pissed if I thought I had money and my wallet was empty.

What's wrong w/you married guys?
I'm married and have a two year old kid. To answer your question, I sometimes have cash, sometimes don't. If I don't have money that means I don't spend it. Sometimes it's just sheer laziness on my part to make my wife carry the money. I had money but it was confiscated by my wife when she ran out. I had money but spent it already.

I see no reason to make my wallet off limits. Hell I don't even carry a wallet, I just carry cash folded in half along with a couple of cards. At home it's just laying around on the bureau. If I need money and don't feel like going to the machine for more, I just pillage my wife's purse; likewise, when she's out she feels free to help herself to my stash.

We're comfortably married for the most part and things like this are just a part of how we live together.

 

Toasthead

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The way I think of it is IF I did have money in there it would be taken, so I keep none, therefore there is nothing to take.