Why are people more attracted to their own race?

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Darthvoy

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Originally posted by: Queasy
Originally posted by: irishScott
When I was hit with puberty, I felt attraction toward white females (I'm a white male) immediately. Attraction to to other races (with a few exceptions) took slightly longer to develop. I was raised in a very multi-ethic area (although my entire family is white), so culturally, I should be roughly equal on the attraction scale. However, I am still attracted to white females far more than any other race by instinct.

I was attracted to boobs myself.

I've always been attracted to women period. Doesn't matter if white, black, asian, or eskimo.

I married outside of my 'race'.

Same here
 

marulee

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Originally posted by: gamepad
It seems to me that most white men find white women more attractive, as with asians and so on.

What makes incest so bad is it limits the chromosomes, or something along those lines. Isn't procreation within the same race more "incest" than interracial?

Shouldn't people naturally be more attracted to other races to increase the gene pool for their offspring?

Or am I way off?

It is because they grew up with them. Check with the people who grew up with different race than what they were originally from.
 

Robor

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Way off for me. I'm white and my wife is Asian (Filipina). I'm not saying I would not have dated a blonde white girl but I've always been more attracted to women with dark hair and a dark complexion.
 

Fricardo

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Originally posted by: gamepad
It seems to me that most white men find white women more attractive, as with asians and so on.

What makes incest so bad is it limits the chromosomes, or something along those lines. Isn't procreation within the same race more "incest" than interracial?

Shouldn't people naturally be more attracted to other races to increase the gene pool for their offspring?

Or am I way off?

Biologically, that phenomenon is known as "positive assortative mating". There can be evolutionary selection for it if a more homozygous (2 copies of the same gene type (allele), as opposed to two different alleles) condition is favored. "Negative assortative mating, where individuals are more attracted to others who are different from themselves, can be selected for if the heterozygous condition (2 different alleles for a gene) is favored. This is often the case in nature. You've probably heard of "hybrid vigor", where hybrids are more fit than either parent, and that's the reason. This "outbreeding" basically has the opposite effects as inbreeding, which we all know to be bad.

Humans are actually quite genetically diverse as a species, even within a particular "race". My bet is that most of the sexual preference that we witness in humans is culturally based; humans are much more culturally influenced in comparison to other animals, which are much more governed by pure instinct combined with individual learning. Still, I'm sure genetics has at least something to do with whether you would rather positively or negatively assortatively mate. Who can say which is more beneficial? Anyone know of any studies on this? I doubt it, but they would be interesting.

Personally, I'm white and I'm mostly attracted to white women. I've definitely been known to go ga-ga for asians and some arabs too though. Mixes can be hot too (1/2 asian, 1/2 white is a good combo). To each his (or her) own.
 

mercanucaribe

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Originally posted by: MangoTBG
My father is Bolivian. He came to the states when he was 11 years old. He married my mother who is white (born in Georgia). If to almost completely negate your claim both my older brother and sister both married whites. I am the youngest of three and I've only had white girlfriends.

Your theory?

How does that negate your claim? You grew up with a white mother and a father who is probably at least part white.
 

Lurknomore

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I wonder if the topic assumes that we ( mostly male ) are doing the pursuing, that we actively choose our mate.

Perhaps it's really the female, regardless of race, that initiates the attraction process.
Whatever hint, bat, wink, smile, flirt or whatever, if an attractive female gives us the sign for that millisecond, we'll go along. Doesn't matter hispanic, asian, white, black- it's she who's initiating the process and making it seem we're doing the choosing.

So, I believe that at the getgo, we prolly start with ideals. But then the reality of the situation and opportunity take over, and we get taken along for the ride BY HER!:D
 

Gdepp519

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Originally posted by: Isla
Well, as a Latina, I have a bit of white, black, and asian in me. And I do find select members of all races attractive!

<---it's good to be me ;)


haha.. im the same..

I have spanish, black, native american, Jamaican.. and the list can go on...
my whole outlook is.. i don't descriminate.. i've dated german and
Tanzanian women.. if you're sexy then thats mostly all that matters :p

;) ;) ;)
 

purbeast0

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I'm actually the opposite. I'm white and white women are not the most attractive to me. I like what I don't already have and I like being around different cultures and learning about different cultures. Spanish chicks are definitely my favorite. Watch telemundo or univision for about an hour and you will see why.

I've only had 2 serious GF's and first one was half jamaican half russian, and my current one is full bread nicaraguan. I've been to Nicaragua before and it was one badass experience.
 

BillyBatson

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d00d wtf are you talking about? you are WAY off.
i am Armenian and i am NOT attracted to Armenian women. there are very very few i find attractive. I mainly go for Hispanic and white girls. Also i do not know where you live but here in Los Anegels most white men seem to be with other races especially hispanic (then again it could be cuz there are more hispanic ppl here than other races). Also more black men i see are with Asian women then anything else. My mom herself is dating a black man. My sister dates middle eastern guys for the most part int he last year but she has no preference. In the last year i have dated a Salvi girl, white girl, black/white/native american girl, and mexican/puerto rican girl.
very few people that i know purposely go after or are more attracted to women of their own race unless they were brought up to and told they are supposed to be with their own race.
 

fallenangel99

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I'm Indian Christian and my gf of 3 years is White (Russian) Jew (25 yrs old and 24 yrs old).

Needless to say, my parents are having a fit of me possibly marrying her. They keep on insisting to marry within myown race and that they will look on the internet for me.

Sigh, next few months are going to be painful :(
 

spittledip

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I am not particularly attracted to dark skin over light or vice versa. I do dislike pale skin- ghostly white. Any other color can be attractive to me. I don't think it is genetic, but it may be cultural. That said, I am white and my wife is black. Her skin color had nothing to do with us getting together- it was more that we are very compatible and think similarly and other non-aesthetic stuff. She is attractive though.

By cultural, I mean that media often tells us what is attractive via advertising or entertainment or otherwise. However, if you think about it, you will notice how many women the media says are attractive really aren't very attractive.
 

AbAbber2k

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I'm white and my GF is Japanese. Before her I dated a Puerto Rican. I think I've got something against white girls.
 

Aikouka

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I find Asian women quite delectable and I'm a Caucasian male :eek:.

Therefore, wrong! ... or something like that.
 

glutenberg

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Originally posted by: BillyBatson
d00d wtf are you talking about? you are WAY off.
i am Armenian and i am NOT attracted to Armenian women. there are very very few i find attractive. I mainly go for Hispanic and white girls. Also i do not know where you live but here in Los Anegels most white men seem to be with other races especially hispanic (then again it could be cuz there are more hispanic ppl here than other races). Also more black men i see are with Asian women then anything else. My mom herself is dating a black man. My sister dates middle eastern guys for the most part int he last year but she has no preference. In the last year i have dated a Salvi girl, white girl, black/white/native american girl, and mexican/puerto rican girl.
very few people that i know purposely go after or are more attracted to women of their own race unless they were brought up to and told they are supposed to be with their own race.

Race is no matter for you, they just have to have some issue. Married, crazy, etc. ;)
 

alkemyst

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I don't know about that.

Most guys I know actually pick someone outside their own race as their favorites...however; most end up with those within their race many times.

I just like women in general, any race can be beautiful, ugly, sexy, smart, stupid, boring, etc. Never slept with a black woman, but had one naked with me once. She didn't think it would be a good idea since we didn't have protection. She danced naked for me though and that was pretty awesome. She liked big black dudes though and came from a very traditional african-decended family. We met in school together, and even once I had something ready to go for the 'date'...she just danced around more. I finally told her I was not for her obviously and she should have just told me. We didn't stop talking to each other that term and surprising it was like business as usual in class. I don't know which class it was though :confused:, it was some cannon fodder you have to take though...none of my critical classes.

I have been married to a white woman (I am white), and now a Japanese woman. I have been with several asians prior to her (filipino, korean, vietnamese, taiwanese), a lot of hispanic/latina (considered an ethnic group and not race though, no mexicans or guatamanians) and white girls (I can picture most of the other women I have been with, but the white chicks sort of blend in together to me...some still haunt me though in great memories we had at the wrong time in our lives), but never any indians or those arabic/egyptian (although these people look very different to me, they are not considered a race) other than just dates and maybe a kiss although I find them beautiful as well...those I dated had striking faces and a great lower body.

I don't base my mates on what they were born into. I am not going to say it's only what's inside that counts (unless it's me ;)), and I am not going to say they have to be someone that would win every swimsuit contest either.

I like a fun and cute woman, someone I can talk to...someone that can be sexual and someone that can be practical as well.

If this relationship doesn't work out, I doubt I will re-marry. That's another topic though...there really is no upside in marriage other than those talked about in fairy tales which at least UNCLE SAM burns en masse. ;)

I hope one day race is something that gets discarded once everyone's genes mix. I am sure there will still be impoverished areas that will look different though.
 

skim milk

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I am attracted to girls of all races... mostly hispanic and asian. I will date white girls too if she's hot and the opportunity arises

When it comes to marriage, I will be marrying an asian one
 

vizkiz

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The asian chick I dated was only into white guys. She had told me she didn't find asian or black guys attractive, just white guys. I guess it helps that she is adopted and grew up in a white household.
 

alkemyst

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Originally posted by: vizkiz
The asian chick I dated was only into white guys. She had told me she didn't find asian or black guys attractive, just white guys. I guess it helps that she is adopted and grew up in a white household.

That is rare today...even hot famous asians have been associated with black men. I don't have a problem with it. Sometimes I wish my dad was more open-minded as well, but me being 35...he grew up programmed. Fortunately, he doesn't hate other races, but he thinks mixed marriages/dating is wrong.

There was a lady today from Thailand, that started a conversation with my me. My wife is Japanese so that was her starter. It got a little wierd though and my wife was not too happy. At the same time, I fight these battles alot. My wife is 100% FOB Japanese and I hate the FOB title used but she has been here 5 years. Her conservative-side vs my "let's see what pulling the knob off and trying to turn it more will do"-side is a good blend. I always have lunches and those moments I can get her to do stuff I want, I get interesting expressions/comments.