whoa, this isnt good...

[HansHurt]

I'm sorry, I guess I was supposed to use my magical powers to know that you were calling a good guy like Stefan a pedophile "all in good fun."


Boooo! Did I call him a pedophile? NO!

 

[EagleKeeper]

Do not even go near the grey area.

It is to easy to "innocently" slip or the girl may mistake your intentions or create a situation of her own to bag a trophy. Your head would look perfect mounted above the fireplace!

The father will also be watching you. If problems/complaints arise, the law will treak the grey area in the girl's favor.

 

[kami]

well you basically did.

I said anyone who calls him one is an idiot then you make the comment about not letting me near your daughter. I'd say that's pretty close to just saying it.

 

[T2T III]

I have only one thing to say: 15 will get you 20.

I'd give her your number and say "call me in three years when you turn 18".

 

[y2kc]

You're a 19yo attracted to a 14yo that looks like a 17yo.....no biggie as long as you have the common sense to leave her be, and it sounds like you do, all is well . I know guys who could care less (guys older than 19) and try to take advantage of her youth and inexperience. Give yourself a pat on the back bud. You were honest with yourself, realized that you cannot act on the attraction, and vented. you did good. Maybe when she's 20 and you're 25...who knows, some girls are suckers for the "I really was attracted to you way back when" thing.....don't tell her when she was 14 though, say 17 or something.

 

[kami]

What do you guys think about younger guy, older woman relationships?

All the girls that I've been attracted to as a whole (instead of just physical) have been a few years older than me. They just seem so uncommon though. Like 99% of the time it's younger girl, older guy.

 

[HansHurt]

well you basically did.

I said anyone who calls him one is an idiot then you make the comment about not letting me near your daughter. I'd say that's pretty close to just saying it.

Agreed, I see where you are coming from Kami(my fault).....but some would draw the comparison very quickly w/o bothering to examine the situation carefully.
I personally WOULD call a man a pedophile(accurate or not) that was showing interest in my 14 year old daughter (Stefan excluded...now). I would want him to get the msg. pretty damn fast. I cannot imagine what the wife would do...but I assure you my actions would be kind in comparison.

Besides this thread almost guarantees comments like this.

So just so we are clear ,I see your point; my comment, even though I did not directly call him a pedo. does imply it(beating around the bush). But I thought it was harmless (error in judgement). Understand please, I do not know Stefan as you do.

 

[kami]

<< Agreed, I see where you are coming from Kami(my fault).....but some would draw the comparison very quickly w/o bothering to examine the situation carefully.
I personally WOULD call a man a pedophile(accurate or not) that was showing interest in my 14 year old daughter (Stefan excluded...now). I would want him to get the msg. pretty damn fast. I cannot imagine what the wife would do...but I assure you my actions would be kind in comparison. >>


Yeah, but if Stefan was the guy who was attracted to your daughter, you wouldn't even know! AFAIK, he is keeping this totally to himself, but is just expressing his concern here anonymously (well, almost) because he knows it's not RIGHT to have these thoughts. It's NATURAL, but definitely not right. He isn't acting on them, so there's no problem.



<< So just so we are clear ,I see your point; my comment, even though I did not directly call him a pedo. does imply it(beating around the bush). But I thought it was harmless (error in judgement). Understand please, I do not know Stefan as you do. >>


Yeah no hard feelings I don't know Stefan personally or anything, but from his posts &amp; PMs I know he's a good guy, even if he is a Devils fan :Q

 

[Rifter]

I slept with a 15 year old, but i was only 17 at the time 19 is a bit much

 

[pg22]

&quot;Kami, pedophile would only apply if there were action...that is what I was referring to.

14= Girl (not woman)
19= Man&quot;


14 = high school freshman
19 = high school senior

If I had a dime for every freshman girl that was going out with a senior guy when I was in high school (which was a wopping two years ago)....

....this website would have a new name, because I'd be able to buy it

It's still too big of a age difference for me personally, but just giving some people another way to look at it.

 

[gittyup]

19 = high school senior

Hmm. That seems off. I graduated from high school at age 17. 19 is more like a college freshman.

 

[kami]

19 = high school senior

......who flunked out a few semesters.

 

[HansHurt]

Recieved, acknowledged, and understood.



Yeah, but if Stefan was the guy who was attracted to your daughter, you wouldn't even know!AFAIK, he is keeping this totally to himself,


Oh, I would know...before he(whoever)knew himself, I guarantee you that one. I am a man, I know all the signs. I would be able to smell the phermones a mile away.

 

[Eli]

rofl.. Well, as long as you know you can't touch. There's nothing wrong with thinking young girls are cute. They are. Just don't touch.

 

[geno]

Try hanging out with some women youre own age, it'll get your mind off of the minor.

 

[Pabster]

ROFLMAO! The responses are kinda funny.

Seriously, you can't say you weren't ever attracted to someone a couple years your junior. I'm not condoning it, and I certainly would never do it, but don't think I've never had a passing (sub-conscious, of course) thought...

Stefan: Your best bet is to kindle a good relationship (friendship) with her for the next 4 years. REALLY get to know her, etc. Then make your move when it would be politically correct (and legal) to do so.

 

[kami]

<< Stefan: Your best bet is to kindle a good relationship (friendship) with her for the next 4 years. REALLY get to know her, etc. Then make your move when it would be politically correct (and legal) to do so. >>


But just beware of fathers like HansHurt who can pick up the pheramones 6 and a half miles away :Q

 

[kvelouria]

Everyone's saying &quot;get to know her,&quot; &quot;get closer and wait until she's older,&quot; but that's a real reach. It's unrealistic to think you'll still know her, be close, and have a shot at her in several years' time. The cold, hard truth is that she'll probably find someone closer to her own age if you have to wait that long.

Although, being on the other side of the fence, I wouldn't have seen anything wrong with going with a 19 year old guy when I was 14 1/2. I doubt my dad would've cared too much as long as the guy was respectable (as if I'd pick a loser guy, pfffft). Of course, my dad was always pretty cool about stuff like that. I wouldn't advise going after her, though.

- KVD

 

[Scrapster]

Everyone's saying &quot;get to know her,&quot; &quot;get closer and wait until she's older,&quot; but that's a real reach. It's unrealistic to think you'll still know her, be close, and have a shot at her in several years' time. The cold, hard truth is that she'll probably find someone closer to her own age if you have to wait that long.

Exactly! The realistic truth is if Stefan gets to know her better and hangs out with her his fantasy is going to get stronger and stronger. I suggest he cut ties completely.

 

[StuckMojo]

don't feel bad man. but it is a bad idea to act on it. very bad. plus it probably wouldn't turn out very well, as you would likely find her immature after a while.

i think many of you have forgotten about when you were that age. when i was just turned 19, i remember meeting this girl at a party...stacked out of her mind, looked to be about 18 or 19, but i could tell she was younger. figured she was like 16 or 17 and just looked older....turned out she was 14. but BELIEVE ME, NONE OF YOU would have been able to tell. she had monster boobs, dressed like a slut, looked of age, but you knew she wasn't...you just couldn't tell how &quot;wasn't&quot; she really was

anyway, that still doesn't make it right, or a good idea in general. the point im making is that there are lots of 14 yr olds who are VERY mature for their age, so don't condemn the kid for being tempted.

 

[dc]

someone been watching too much anime? j/k

 

[skywhr]

TMI

 

[troglodytis]

ok, i'll say it....

WHERE'S THE PIC?





stefan, now you know what to think of during quality alone time.

watch 'beautiful girls' and don't be her pooh.

 

[jcuadrado]

just for the record..my father met my mom when he was 30 and she was 17...they dated for 3 years...got married...had 2 children..and lived happily ever after for 42 years till he passed away last year..

they met and married in another country though..

 

[VisionsUCI]

you don't have to settle for anybody. don't go for the 14 year old, or at least wait. her personality and maturity isn't even close to developed, even if females develop faster. junior high, high school, college, and especially work are important experiences. get to know her, but don't pressure her or rush her at all. personally, i don't think you should tell her.

getting back to my comment about settling. if you would rather go out with her older sister, but you're not because you have no chance... then thats one good reason why you shouldn't go for the younger sister.