masterxfob
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It depends.
Am I enjoying an avergae sex life w/my average lookin wife ?
Or a extraordinary, and steamy sex life w/her?
Am I enjoying an avergae sex life w/my average lookin wife ?
Or a extraordinary, and steamy sex life w/her?
"i've got news for all you kids out their -
love can fade over time as well"
Exactly. I so agree with you, Heart Surgeon! I don't like that superficial statement of "as long as you love each other". Love fades too.
In my view though, if someone is beautiful, the "love" is likely to renew itself more often than the reverse. And again, domestic skills can be obtained or a maid can be hired at any time, since most men who marry trophies have the money anyway.
love can fade over time as well"
Exactly. I so agree with you, Heart Surgeon! I don't like that superficial statement of "as long as you love each other". Love fades too.
In my view though, if someone is beautiful, the "love" is likely to renew itself more often than the reverse. And again, domestic skills can be obtained or a maid can be hired at any time, since most men who marry trophies have the money anyway.
I'd rather have my wife, thanks. She's great-looking, can cook, is whip-smart (ask my male friends who have been the object of her ire 
), willing to help around the house on any of the various projects I have going, etc, etc. In short, she rocks.
So there: the best of both worlds, and she's mine dammit!
), willing to help around the house on any of the various projects I have going, etc, etc. In short, she rocks.So there: the best of both worlds, and she's mine dammit!
i like eakers answer, but i doubt i'd find a trophy wife, so i went with the average one instead
Originally posted by: luvly
Well, it's too late! I'm about to crucify you.
Sorry, but I'm a trophy to any man who gets me. He's got to know how to do the cooking and all. He'll be the one to do those things. Sorry. And I should add, maybe a man who gets such trophy is wealthy in the first place and can hire a maid. :Q
As a talk show host said long time ago, marry a woman who's beautiful. Looks are always there and you have much to talk about and adore with looks. Not everyone ages bad or adds weight. Stay young and beautiful. And yes, I do know that some men have cheated on their wives because some other woman had better domestic skills, especially cooking.
Seriously though, I think that you're creating a false dichotomy. There are very beautiful women who can also do those things.
And the best thing about being beautiful is, even if you ("you" refers to females) don't have those domestic skills, you can always learn it eventually. If you have a sweet significant other who knows to blend the two together, where he teaches you how to do most things whilst learning at the same time, it's perfect. An average looking woman who has domestic skills can't gain the beauty for the most part, except with major plastic surgery.
Umm how do you know you're a trophy? Cuz you think you're along or above what society dictates as beautiful?
It is a false dichotomy, but GoBadgrs was just wondering given only these two cases how ATOT would vote. I dont think
it deserves a crucifixion.
And sure there are very beautiful women who can do those things. Then it wouldnt be a stretch to say you're not one of those women since you would like the man in your life to do those things, but you can learn right? Im sure everyone here would like to teach their significant other about something they might know better. From hobbies like sports, playing an instrument, photgraphy,
to appreciation of fine wine, there are a myriad of interests and hobbies and skills one person can have. For them to teach their SO about a hobby or a skill their SO doesnt have or cannot appreciate to the full extent is part of being in a relationship.
Sure an average looking person, woman or man, like you said for the most part cannot gain beauty except with major plastic surgery. I would like to think beauty is not the deciding factor for two people to get into a long-term relationship. Ideally the
person on the inside should count. I think long lasting loving relationships where one half of the couple is significantly more
beautiful or handsome ultimately shows that its the person inside that counts. Society dictates such an emphasis on beauty
it ignores good character. Sure ideally everyone wants their SO to be beautiful and to be Super-SO but it doesnt work out that
way. It doesn't work that way, thats why you see combination of beautiful, above average, average, below average, and ugly
people getting married more for their "soul."
Im sure you already know what Im talking about. I honesty would hate to think that you've been burned once or once too many
to come that viewpoint. If not and thats your personality, then I think you're going to have an even harder time finding someone that completes you to your liking. If you do congrats.
With that post you've really ticked off a lot of members. Im sure they're looking for you to walk the walk if you're gonna talk the
talk. Me not so much since its just your view and your opinion.
Wow, Storm! Thanks for the constructive criticism. Without a doubt, that's simply my view. Everyone has their lives to live it as they wish. To tell the truth, people make up for what they lack in. If they lack in physical appearance, they make up for it with skills and character. There are different combinations in life. A trophy isn't a bad thing either, unlike the stereotype passed around.
"Im sure you already know what Im talking about. I honesty would hate to think that you've been burned once or once too many
to come that viewpoint. If not and thats your personality, then I think you're going to have an even harder time finding someone that completes you to your liking. If you do congrats."
LOL! All right. It's my view honestly. And I do know some people who had to deal with this issue in their lives. My sis and I discuss it sometimes. There's a friend for instance who got married to a woman who's a model. (He isn't bad looking though.) He was madly in love with her. But their marriage was almost torn apart and at the brink of divorce because of this subject. He wanted her to cook and do other house chores. He wanted to come home and see the food ready. But guess what? She wasn't about to put up with that. At the end, he reconciled with her and accepted it. He does the cooking without expecting her to be the one to do it.
And yes, there are men like that who'll do the world for you, admire you, worship the ground upon which you walk and always love your beauty. It's different for everyone. There are always ways to make up for things you lack in. Being privileged to have a beautiful wife should carry a lot of weight, in spite of skills she lacks. That's just my view.
"With that post you've really ticked off a lot of members. Im sure they're looking for you to walk the walk if you're gonna talk the
talk. Me not so much since its just your view and your opinion."
Well, I'm glad you don't take offence to my post, knowing that it's an expressed opinion. I didn't personalise it and speak of any members (with exception to the crucify comment, which I was half-heartedly teasing the other party about) in particular. I would suppose the original poster expects differing opinions!
Thanks a lot for the constructive reasoning. I appreciate it.
"Im sure you already know what Im talking about. I honesty would hate to think that you've been burned once or once too many
to come that viewpoint. If not and thats your personality, then I think you're going to have an even harder time finding someone that completes you to your liking. If you do congrats."
LOL! All right. It's my view honestly. And I do know some people who had to deal with this issue in their lives. My sis and I discuss it sometimes. There's a friend for instance who got married to a woman who's a model. (He isn't bad looking though.) He was madly in love with her. But their marriage was almost torn apart and at the brink of divorce because of this subject. He wanted her to cook and do other house chores. He wanted to come home and see the food ready. But guess what? She wasn't about to put up with that. At the end, he reconciled with her and accepted it. He does the cooking without expecting her to be the one to do it.
And yes, there are men like that who'll do the world for you, admire you, worship the ground upon which you walk and always love your beauty. It's different for everyone. There are always ways to make up for things you lack in. Being privileged to have a beautiful wife should carry a lot of weight, in spite of skills she lacks. That's just my view.
"With that post you've really ticked off a lot of members. Im sure they're looking for you to walk the walk if you're gonna talk the
talk. Me not so much since its just your view and your opinion."
Well, I'm glad you don't take offence to my post, knowing that it's an expressed opinion. I didn't personalise it and speak of any members (with exception to the crucify comment, which I was half-heartedly teasing the other party about) in particular. I would suppose the original poster expects differing opinions!
Thanks a lot for the constructive reasoning. I appreciate it.
LOL! All right. It's my view honestly. And I do know some people who had to deal with this issue in their lives. My sis and I discuss it sometimes. There's a friend for instance who got married to a woman who's a model. (He isn't bad looking though.) He was madly in love with her. But their marriage was almost torn apart and at the brink of divorce because of this subject. He wanted her to cook and do other house chores. He wanted to come home and see the food ready. But guess what? She wasn't about to put up with that. At the end, he reconciled with her and accepted it. He does the cooking without expecting her to be the one to do it.
He's not very bright when it comes to the modern day roles of men and women. Good to see he learned from it.
Being privileged to have a beautiful wife should carry a lot of weight, in spite of skills she lacks. That's just my view.
Sorry, but I'm a trophy to any man who gets me.
Now Im wondering what would you bring into a relationship? Your beauty since you said you're a trophy? Would you be
the bread-winner and have a career in with whatever degree you have? Would be to partners in breadwinning? If not
who is staying at home the person who is making less or the person that is more qualified to stay at home?
I dont know much about you nor do you volunteer a lot of info but you know what Im getting at? Or are you waiting for someone that meets your superficial requirements, personality reqs and well off monetarily. Or will it be best out of two?
For the sake of discussion lets consider: less than 50k, between 50k and 100k, more than 100k but less than 7 figures and
finally over 7 figures. You have peaked my curiosity since you're the only one to self proclaim herself as a trophy.
He's not very bright when it comes to the modern day roles of men and women. Good to see he learned from it.
Being privileged to have a beautiful wife should carry a lot of weight, in spite of skills she lacks. That's just my view.
Sorry, but I'm a trophy to any man who gets me.
Now Im wondering what would you bring into a relationship? Your beauty since you said you're a trophy? Would you be
the bread-winner and have a career in with whatever degree you have? Would be to partners in breadwinning? If not
who is staying at home the person who is making less or the person that is more qualified to stay at home?
I dont know much about you nor do you volunteer a lot of info but you know what Im getting at? Or are you waiting for someone that meets your superficial requirements, personality reqs and well off monetarily. Or will it be best out of two?
For the sake of discussion lets consider: less than 50k, between 50k and 100k, more than 100k but less than 7 figures and
finally over 7 figures. You have peaked my curiosity since you're the only one to self proclaim herself as a trophy.
Originally posted by: Eli
None of that really matters, all that matters is if you love eachother or not.
Spoken like a virgin.
You obviously haven't been married. You don't really know that your in love with someone untill 30 yrs down the road and your still together.
all this nonsense about romantic love is just hollywood and nonsense.
True love is a commitment and staying happy with that commitment. it requires effort. it requires the desire to start all over again every day.
it's not like you fall in love and you never wander, you have to make an effort not to wander.
Originally posted by: luvly
Wow, Storm! Thanks for the constructive criticism. Without a doubt, that's simply my view. Everyone has their lives to live it as they wish. To tell the truth, people make up for what they lack in. If they lack in physical appearance, they make up for it with skills and character. There are different combinations in life. A trophy isn't a bad thing either, unlike the stereotype passed around.
"Im sure you already know what Im talking about. I honesty would hate to think that you've been burned once or once too many
to come that viewpoint. If not and thats your personality, then I think you're going to have an even harder time finding someone that completes you to your liking. If you do congrats."
LOL! All right. It's my view honestly. And I do know some people who had to deal with this issue in their lives. My sis and I discuss it sometimes. There's a friend for instance who got married to a woman who's a model. (He isn't bad looking though.) He was madly in love with her. But their marriage was almost torn apart and at the brink of divorce because of this subject. He wanted her to cook and do other house chores. He wanted to come home and see the food ready. But guess what? She wasn't about to put up with that. At the end, he reconciled with her and accepted it. He does the cooking without expecting her to be the one to do it.
And yes, there are men like that who'll do the world for you, admire you, worship the ground upon which you walk and always love your beauty. It's different for everyone. There are always ways to make up for things you lack in. Being privileged to have a beautiful wife should carry a lot of weight, in spite of skills she lacks. That's just my view.
"With that post you've really ticked off a lot of members. Im sure they're looking for you to walk the walk if you're gonna talk the
talk. Me not so much since its just your view and your opinion."
Well, I'm glad you don't take offence to my post, knowing that it's an expressed opinion. I didn't personalise it and speak of any members (with exception to the crucify comment, which I was half-heartedly teasing the other party about) in particular. I would suppose the original poster expects differing opinions!
Thanks a lot for the constructive reasoning. I appreciate it.
Moral of story: Good looking people can get away with what the ugly can not.
Geekbabe
Moderator Emeritus<br>Elite Member
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Originally posted by: Eli
None of that really matters, all that matters is if you love eachother or not.
Spoken like a virgin.
You obviously haven't been married. You don't really know that your in love with someone untill 30 yrs down the road and your still together.
all this nonsense about romantic love is just hollywood and nonsense.
True love is a commitment and staying happy with that commitment. it requires effort. it requires the desire to start all over again every day.
it's not like you fall in love and you never wander, you have to make an effort not to wander.
It's true love if you're still there during the times when you're giving 150% and your partner isn't giving anything because they're ill or they're being torn apart by extended famnily or career issues. It's easy to be around for the good times and yes,love is a 50/50 proposition but sometimes that 50/50 balance gets skewed because shiat happens,even to good people.I don't know about the rest of you but I think it's easy to love somebody at their best, true loves see's and loves another when they are also at their worst.
A girl that's supremely hot to you might just be "regular" to other guys... esp if you're in love with her
I know a lot believe this "The two shall become one", but very few know what it takes because we are created in His image.
And that is Three in one. The spiritual mind must also be one.
I personally married for beauty. But I know how to cook, do housework, as well as everything else a "woman" knows how to do.
And personally think men can do those things better.
But what men can't do well or in the same way is give the love and compassion that a woman can give, to her husband, and children.
God commands a man to love his wife.
He commands a woman to respect her husband.
Each takes effort, as pointed out in some of these posts.
But you will surely never know the "love" a man and woman was intended to have unless each truelly knows what his spouse needs and fills that order. Whatever it takes for the health of their relationship, one must be sensitive to it continually.
It is especially important for the man to take leadership in knowing what the relationship requires and fulfill it so that he is respected by his spouse.
Only then will he enjoy her love completely, as well as her beauty.
It is nieve to believe that one can be a "trophy" wife and stay married for any length of time.
Unless the marriage is for something other than having a family.
How many of you would say about your mom that she is a "trophy wife".
She may be beutiful, but to be loved by her family requires her eyes to be off of herself.
My wife is beautiful, but she reminds me of the country/western song that says, 'and she don't even know it'.
Have been married for 30 years and will be 49 in October. 4 kids and it was not easy street all the way, but loved most of it.
It is good you are thinking of these things and do wish you find one who you too can spend the rest of your life with, in real love.
And that is Three in one. The spiritual mind must also be one.
I personally married for beauty. But I know how to cook, do housework, as well as everything else a "woman" knows how to do.
And personally think men can do those things better.
But what men can't do well or in the same way is give the love and compassion that a woman can give, to her husband, and children.
God commands a man to love his wife.
He commands a woman to respect her husband.
Each takes effort, as pointed out in some of these posts.
But you will surely never know the "love" a man and woman was intended to have unless each truelly knows what his spouse needs and fills that order. Whatever it takes for the health of their relationship, one must be sensitive to it continually.
It is especially important for the man to take leadership in knowing what the relationship requires and fulfill it so that he is respected by his spouse.
Only then will he enjoy her love completely, as well as her beauty.
It is nieve to believe that one can be a "trophy" wife and stay married for any length of time.
Unless the marriage is for something other than having a family.
How many of you would say about your mom that she is a "trophy wife".
She may be beutiful, but to be loved by her family requires her eyes to be off of herself.
My wife is beautiful, but she reminds me of the country/western song that says, 'and she don't even know it'.
Have been married for 30 years and will be 49 in October. 4 kids and it was not easy street all the way, but loved most of it.
It is good you are thinking of these things and do wish you find one who you too can spend the rest of your life with, in real love.
Thats true and sad.
Interesting post by one of ATOT's married members
Just who were you directing the post towards? Everyone?Because its got good advice for all...
Wow! Ameesh, for the first time ever, you sound cool to me. Hire the maids now, please!
Go Punk, that sounds familiar. It always cracks me up when people describe their significant others (or pets) as really beautiful when they're actually ugly. If all that matters is beauty within, then what's wrong with saying "she's (or he's) physically ugly, but. . ."? Why lie to people that they're beautiful when they really aren't?
"'Moral of story: Good looking people can get away with what the ugly can not.'
Thats true and sad."
Guyver01 and Storm, it's just a way of life. For things we lack in, we make up for. Being beautiful is a plus feature that not many have been privileged with in life. So, that should count as some points when measuring what two individuals have to offer each other. If anyone should complain, it should be a very good-looking man 'cuz then he reciprocated the looks of his significant other.
"'Sorry, but I'm a trophy to any man who gets me.'
Now Im wondering what would you bring into a relationship? Your beauty since you said you're a trophy? Would you be
the bread-winner and have a career in with whatever degree you have? Would be to partners in breadwinning? If not
who is staying at home the person who is making less or the person that is more qualified to stay at home?"
Haha! Good question, though a little tough. I do intend on having a career (e.g., a practicing attorney and perhaps financial analyst). I wouldn't be the bread-winner at any time though, except in the instance where the significant other and I conclude that it's important that one person stays at home and he should be the one to. I don't really see that happening, though. However, there might be other periods in my life where I'm not working. And even then, I expect him to be good to me. I try to be understanding. I would hope that he would teach me how those chores can become a fun part of life. I would hope that he wouldn't toss it upon me as some duty that I am obliged to fulfill. I want my man to know how to approach this subject in a subtle, respectful and spicy way. At the end I would subconsciously learn how to do these things, even if I'm not as good as other women in my skills.
"I dont know much about you nor do you volunteer a lot of info but you know what Im getting at? Or are you waiting for someone that meets your superficial requirements, personality reqs and well off monetarily. Or will it be best out of two?"
All elements are required: Physical, emotional, personality and financial status.
"For the sake of discussion lets consider: less than 50k, between 50k and 100k, more than 100k but less than 7 figures and
finally over 7 figures. You have peaked my curiosity since you're the only one to self proclaim herself as a trophy."
I shoot for the top. $150k or more. But a $100k bracket isn't that bad. As I said, a trophy with a guy with money isn't much of an issue, as he has enough money to hire a maid. The only time it might become difficult is if he lost his job and couldn't afford it anymore. In that case, she may have to work anyway if it's a terrible financial situation; and both would share the domestic duties, I would hope.
Don't kill me now for being honest about what I want. We set ourselves to a standard and get what we want. When we lower our standards, we live a life below what we ever hoped for.
Go Punk, that sounds familiar. It always cracks me up when people describe their significant others (or pets) as really beautiful when they're actually ugly. If all that matters is beauty within, then what's wrong with saying "she's (or he's) physically ugly, but. . ."? Why lie to people that they're beautiful when they really aren't?
"'Moral of story: Good looking people can get away with what the ugly can not.'
Thats true and sad."
Guyver01 and Storm, it's just a way of life. For things we lack in, we make up for. Being beautiful is a plus feature that not many have been privileged with in life. So, that should count as some points when measuring what two individuals have to offer each other. If anyone should complain, it should be a very good-looking man 'cuz then he reciprocated the looks of his significant other.
"'Sorry, but I'm a trophy to any man who gets me.'
Now Im wondering what would you bring into a relationship? Your beauty since you said you're a trophy? Would you be
the bread-winner and have a career in with whatever degree you have? Would be to partners in breadwinning? If not
who is staying at home the person who is making less or the person that is more qualified to stay at home?"
Haha! Good question, though a little tough. I do intend on having a career (e.g., a practicing attorney and perhaps financial analyst). I wouldn't be the bread-winner at any time though, except in the instance where the significant other and I conclude that it's important that one person stays at home and he should be the one to. I don't really see that happening, though. However, there might be other periods in my life where I'm not working. And even then, I expect him to be good to me. I try to be understanding. I would hope that he would teach me how those chores can become a fun part of life. I would hope that he wouldn't toss it upon me as some duty that I am obliged to fulfill. I want my man to know how to approach this subject in a subtle, respectful and spicy way. At the end I would subconsciously learn how to do these things, even if I'm not as good as other women in my skills.
"I dont know much about you nor do you volunteer a lot of info but you know what Im getting at? Or are you waiting for someone that meets your superficial requirements, personality reqs and well off monetarily. Or will it be best out of two?"
All elements are required: Physical, emotional, personality and financial status.
"For the sake of discussion lets consider: less than 50k, between 50k and 100k, more than 100k but less than 7 figures and
finally over 7 figures. You have peaked my curiosity since you're the only one to self proclaim herself as a trophy."
I shoot for the top. $150k or more. But a $100k bracket isn't that bad. As I said, a trophy with a guy with money isn't much of an issue, as he has enough money to hire a maid. The only time it might become difficult is if he lost his job and couldn't afford it anymore. In that case, she may have to work anyway if it's a terrible financial situation; and both would share the domestic duties, I would hope.
Don't kill me now for being honest about what I want. We set ourselves to a standard and get what we want. When we lower our standards, we live a life below what we ever hoped for.
Then its safe to say you're willing to be single for the rest of your life? Or you will bend some reqs if as you grow older
your view upon things change?
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