"Luvly, but what's your standard??"
What's my standard? They're too many to list. But part of it is what you have below.
"It sounded to me like your standard was finding a guy who you could be sure would always earn more than you?! If that's the case, then I'm certainly not doubting you - that's easy to do if you're even a resonably attractive woman."
Yeah, so what's wrong with looking out for specific conditions? I'm not sure it's an easy thing to do really. It can be done by many, but it takes something bigger than easy.
"But it's like me saying 'I would like to marry a hooters waitress.' I wouldn't say that though, because that's stupid. I would like to DATE a hooters waitress, and if she happened to be a great person, then maybe something serious would come out of it."
If you're looking for Hooter waitresses, nothing wrong with that. My whole point is that people have different standards or lack thereof in their lives. I say everyone should set a standard and go in search of it. There's nothing wrong if I choose to only look out for men in an exclusive organisation because I know that I am likely to find one of the calibre I'm looking for there.
"Objectifing a man for his wallet is at least as ridiculous as objectifing a woman for looks when it comes to a long term relationship. And saying that you expect to marry someone who earns $150k+ is a far cry from saying you'd want to marry someone who was financially responsible, or someone who had a good job/career, etc."
Well, I would agree if objectifying a woman weren't assumed for the most part in advertising and other media. The fact is women are objectified, so men should equally be objectified. But even if they weren't, I looking for a man who meets a certain financial requirement doesn't mean that's the only reason I was interested in him. For some reason, people engage in false causation. How could you tell that I didn't find something appealing about him besides his wealth? If it were all I sought, wouldn't I just go for this really old man who has only few years left on this earth but has riches left to will? And then I give him all of what he wants with the companionship, whilst he reciprocates it with material things? I know by all means that he would leave me his wealth, and I could easily find someone else when he leaves this earth. But I would never do anything like that. I want a guy who makes what I consider enough to live a certain standard I want to live by, but I am not going to marry one just for that one feature.
The time hasn't yet come for a permanent decision on the companion part.
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