When to spank you kids?

[JTsyo]

When i come home and the living room looks like this:

haha I like how he's smiling like nothing is wrong.

When they are really young, just to stop them from hurting themselves. After 3 or 4 when they have an understanding of right and wrong, then you can give them a spank on the butt after a warning or two.
If you are really pissed off, it's best to not resort to a spanking until you can compose yourself. Kids should always feel like they are being disciplined not hit because of anger. Keep a level head and anger out of your tone. Tough like mentioned above, it might be OK for one or two times to get angry just so they realize not to piss you off :whiste:

 

[JEDI]

My view is the following, I am only 33. I remember how I felt prior to having children. I remember how annoying shitty parents are. My wife and I expect our son to behave in such a way that no one is bothered by him.

When we go out to dinner this is what I expect:
-Talk at a normal volume level.
-Sit on your butt in the chair until everyone is done and ready to go.
-Do not interrupt adults talking(this is a work in progress)

I do not care if my son eats his dinner. However, he will sit and wait for everyone else to eat even if he isn't going to eat.

I have been completely successful with these types of things without physical punishment. The worst thing we do to my son is timeouts. Want to see a child lose his shit? Watch my son when I tell him he is getting a time out. It is total meltdown. Why? Because there are so many ways to discourage inappropriate behavior. Timeouts are for especially bad things. Earlier this week, my son got angry at my wife and smacked her. Refused to apologize. His butt went to his room for a good while that night. When I was ready to let him out, I asked why he got a timeout. His reply, "I hit mommy". I replied, "That is right and we don't hit in this family". He walked into the living room and apologized to my wife. How could I say what I did to him if I actually spanked him? My son knows that hitting isn't allowed under any circumstances. This is a kid that technically turns three years old in 2 weeks. Kids are way smarter than people give them credit.

Like I said, most of parenting is setting expectations. Most people just don't set any clear rules for their children and it shows.

being sent to room:
wont he play w/his nintendo DS or computer or even his non-electronic toys?
or is just lying in bed staring at the ceiling?

 

[Codewiz]

being sent to room:
wont he play w/his nintendo DS or computer or even his non-electronic toys?
or is just lying in bed staring at the ceiling?

Well he is two weeks shy of 3 years old. So he doesn't have a DS or a computer. Or a tv. Or any entertainment outside of a rocking horse in his room.

He doesn't lay in his bed during timeout. It is typically him standing at his door crying to get out. Once he calms down and I can ask him why he got a timeout and he gives correct answers, then he gets out.

When he is older, he won't have a computer in his room. I don't have a computer in my room. During punishment he won't be allowed to use any electronics he might have. Pretty simple.