When getting chewed out by your boss...

[jtvang125]

Of course assault and battery is way out of line but what about verbal abuse? How far can that go? Are F-bombs ok as long as it's not demeaning you or used as a personal attack?

And no this is not regarding me.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

I have seen and heard people dropping the fbombs all the time here.
Things like, "I am tired of all these f-ing excuses."

 

[AnyMal]

It's up to you to decide how far is "too far".

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Depends on the job.

- M4H

 

[2Xtreme21]

Usually the boss is just venting I think. I think something like "f*ck you" is out of line, but "why's it so hard for everyone to get their f*cking work done" is acceptable. Basically anything short of personal, not-related-to-the-reason-you-are-getting-yelled-at attacks is fine in my eyes.

 

[dainthomas]

The point where it ceases being instructive. Using that type of language either means you're out of control, or you can't think of a better way to make your point.

 

[Descartes]

I no longer have a boss, but I've never been chewed out by anyone in a professional setting. If someone had the audacity to do so, I'd likely walk out and never return. That's not something I'm willing to tolerate.

 

[leftyman]

Once had a coffee mug thrown at me, I ducked and it smashed on the wall.
It was fun watching boss clean up mess.

 

[Bryophyte]

Depends on the employer. Some large employers have absolutely no tolerance for supervisors losing their tempers. Some employers, it's considered a "hostile work environment" for a supervisor to say anything to the effect that an employee might get fired (only HR is allowed to discuss that.)

 

[Heisenberg]

To me it would be when it becomes personal or escalates to screaming/shouting. I don't mind the particular language (i.e. swearing) that much.

 

[JS80]

lol try working in finance.

 

[AreaCode707]

Are you asking where the line is that you could complain or the where the line is that you should be offended?

You could probably complain to HR about the cussing and they'd have to do some follow up. But honestly, do you feel that's really over the line? Some things you could complain about but on a regular basis it might be wiser to take it in stride.

 

[TallBill]

In my line of work, just about anything short of calling my mother a whore is fine.

However, if you can't handle some words, you shouldn't be in my line of work.

 

[ScottFern]

Originally posted by: TallBill
In my line of work, just about anything short of calling my mother a whore is fine.

However, if you can't handle some words, you shouldn't be in my line of work.

Gay porn industry really that rough?

 

[Nerva]

in my line of work, i get chewed out all the time. just the other day i got chewed out for changing the version number on a file without telling the managing director. f-bombs get dropped constantly in my office. it's just not a good environment.

 

[waggy]

We had one that would go off at the drop of a hat. she Would scream at people and call them names.I can't count the number of times i have seen her yell at someone so bad they ran off crying.

It got to the point that other managers would not send people into the office (computer room/IT department). they would call and gave the workers permission to hang up if she starts yelling.

Eventually the company fired her.

weird part is i was the only person she would not go off on. she was always nice ot me even when i had made a mistake. last i heard she got a job working for playboy in chicago.

 

[dainthomas]

Originally posted by: TallBill
In my line of work, just about anything short of calling my mother a whore is fine.

However, if you can't handle some words, you shouldn't be in my line of work.

I know how that goes. By the time I got back from a six month deployment in the navy, my vocabulary had become quite colorful. That's just how guys talk to eachother, especially with no chicks around to get all offended. Took a few weeks of adjustment to get rid of it.

 

[Al Neri]

Originally posted by: TallBill
In my line of work, just about anything short of calling my mother a whore is fine.

However, if you can't handle some words, you shouldn't be in my line of work.

what's that Bill?

 

[FoBoT]

if someone landed multiple F-bombs on me at work, i'd go to HR

 

[acid45]

whats wrong with fart bombs??

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: AnyMal
It's up to you to decide how far is "too far".

Yup

 

[JasonCoder]

Originally posted by: leftyman
Once had a coffee mug thrown at me, I ducked and it smashed on the wall.
It was fun watching boss clean up mess.

You put up with that? If that happened to me the only funny thing about it would have been how much trouble he'd have picking up the mug with my foot broke off in his ass.

You were assaulted... don't just sit there. Have a nice day :thumbsup:

 

[Stuxnet]

I've never really thought about it because I've never felt that I was even remotely close to getting "chewed out". But sitting here thinking about it, I doubt I would handle it well at all. I can handle (well-founded) constructive criticism, but personal attacks? There's no room in the workplace for that. I've found that nothing kicks your superior's ass harder than quitting. If I was attacked in the manners described above, I'd sit there, listen to it, and then start looking for a job. Fighting back can result in your firing, which is not something you need.

The damage you can do to that individual during an exit interview is infinitely worse than that one ass chewing he/she gave you. The trick to it all, of course, is that you need to have a reputation of high quality work product, professional demeanor, and a valuable asset to the company.

If you're known as a calm, collected individual who delivers quality, then you can bet your ass the company will listen when you explain that you're leaving because John Smith can't leave his anger problems at home and instead insists on verbally abusing his employees and coworkers.

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

Working in construction, sometimes it happens. You can't cross the line into personal attacks though.

 

[Patt]

If it isn't done professionally ... i.e. no profanity/personal attacks/physical contact etc., then I'm out of there. Has happened once, was physically threatened by a goon above me, and I quit and he was fired shortly thereafter.