What's the point of engagement?

[KeithTalent]

ftfy

You ok down there man? Just saw there was a 7.6 magnitude earthquake off the coast of NZ.

KT

 

[AstroManLuca]

I was only engaged for six months before getting married. It takes some time to plan a wedding. Most of the planning was done in the month leading up to it, but some stuff had to be arranged well ahead of time, like the venue.

If you're both in a situation where getting married quickly could be a problem (such as a long distance relationship or one/both people are in grad school or something), then I guess it's a good way to signal that you're serious about the relationship and not just sticking around because it's comfortable.

 

[uli2000]

I think it goes back to the time that most marriages were arranged. It gave the couple time to court and get to know each other before getting married.

 

[Squisher]

Future Mrs. Squisher, "Hey, we've been living together for three years, are you going to marry me or what?"
"No set date? Yeah, sure. When do you wanna go for the ring?" *whew, dodged that one*

Six weeks later, "I think I'm pregnant"

Got married a month later.

 

[Kadarin]

exactly. just another excuse to buy a ring she will put in a box and never wear.

Oh, she'll wear it all right.

To a woman, the size/quality/cost of the ring is a beacon that displays her social status. If she's got a great ring, that raises her status in the eyes of her friends/peers because it states that she was able to ''land" a man who can buy such a ring.

The purpose of engagement as a whole is for her to be able to show this off.

 

[ShawnD1]

Screw the engagement, what's the point of marriage?

Its an important legal contract. My gf is not covered by my health insurance because we are not married.

 

[Baked]

You're all entitled to your opinion on the subject. I'm just telling you mine in the OP. If you like the traditional way of doing things, more power to you. If you like to keep it simple, that's cool too. /shrug

 

[pmv]

Surely this system needs still more levels? A ring to signal your commitment to later get engaged, for starters. Then still more levels of graduated commitment can be added. Each with their own ring.

De Beers would doubtless love that.

Then repeat the process at the other end - at a minimum, a disengagement ring to signal the intention to later get a divorce (or, would that logically come _after_ the divorce?).

 

[Ronstang]

I'm sure glad that there is an "engagement" period. If not I would be in jail for killing the psycho bitch.

 

[Bignate603]

ftfy

You do realize that the divorce rate in New Zealand isn't that different than the US, right?

 

[Ronstang]

Its an important legal contract. My gf is not covered by my health insurance because we are not married.

More importantly she can't take half your stuff when you finally kick her out either. There really are no compelling reasons to get married these days if you are a man, unless you are not that successful and thus have nothing to really lose.

 

[brianmanahan]

That's the problem with internet forums. Everyone is on 'equal footing' behind monitors.

So many idiots and young'uns posting crap like this and we have to entertain it.

lol zeze, you're what, 28? and you act like you're 78.

 

[Mike Gayner]

More importantly she can't take half your stuff when you finally kick her out either. There really are no compelling reasons to get married these days if you are a man, unless you are not that successful and thus have nothing to really lose.

LOL @ childish ATOT cynicism. You'll grow out of it.

 

[gevorg]

Wait, I thought engagement is a license for premarital sex?

 

[Ronstang]

LOL @ childish ATOT cynicism. You'll grow out of it.

I'm 48 you twit, I earned my cynicism the old fashioned way. I also had a very high net worth by my mid 20's so I know all about gold diggers.

 

[Mike Gayner]

I'm 48 you twit, I earned my cynicism the old fashioned way. I also had a very high net worth by my mid 20's so I know all about gold diggers.

I didn't say you were a child, I said you were childish. This is self evident. Good to know you're a typical ATOT millionaire though.

 

[Absolution75]

Excuse for couples with semi-religious families to move in together without blowback?

 

[dennilfloss]

Is an engagement no longer still a 'promise to wed'?

 

[FancyTurtle]

The usual excuse given is "we need time to plan for the wedding" but really, it's more like "we need time to think about whether we should really do it."

If you found that someone, why not just head over to city hall and get a marriage license and be done with. All the wedding, party planning, honey mooning can be done later if you're serious about hooking up with somebody for the rest of your life. No? What is there to think about?

So next time, instead of getting somebody an engagement ring for proposal, just get a marriage license form and ask the other party to sign next to the Xs.

um no its really just so you have time to plan the wedding they take several months of planning that said if you just want to go get your marriage license and be done with it you probably shouldn't be with the other person because you obviously don't give a shit about anything much less them Everyone knows this

 

[TallBill]

Its fucking retarded. I'm having lunch with a chick on monday who has been engaged for over a year and just set her wedding date for next august. I hope she wants to fuck cuz she's insanely hot.

 

[Mike Gayner]

Excuse for couples with semi-religious families to move in together without blowback?

MY atheist family gets on with her atheist family no problem. So no.

 

[Mike Gayner]

Its fucking retarded. I'm having lunch with a chick on monday who has been engaged for over a year and just set her wedding date for next august. I hope she wants to fuck cuz she's insanely hot.

Yeah but isn't your life just one big failure after another?