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What would you do - possibly moving in with my girlfriend.

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notfred

Lifer
Ok, right now, I live near Santa Cruz, CA. My girlfriend lives 3 hours away, in Sacramento. Recently, I've been accepted to California State University, Sacramento, as a transfer student. I will be moving to Scramento in January.

Now, I have 2 basic choices:

1) Live on campus in a dorm room

2) Live off campus, in an apartment, with my girlfriend.

Ok, here's the story: Tuition and rent are not cheap, and I have no job in Sacramento. My parents, however, are willing to help me as much as they can. My parents dont approve of me moving in with my girlfriend though, so if I live with her, I get less money (they'll cover tuition, but that's it). Living off campus would probably cost me about $1000/monthy (not including school expenses). Now, I don't know if I could afford this, I'll have to get a job ASAP and see how much I can make.
If I live on campus, most of my expenses would be covered. However, I'd have to share a tiny room with somone else. Likely an 18 year old freshman (I'm a 20 year old transfer student). I'd share a bathroom with 30 guys. I'd park my car who knows where (they do have parking, but I dont trust college students around my car). There are plusses to on campus housing too, however - I wouldn't have to commute, I save more money, etc.

If I live with my girlfriend - well you see the obvious benefit in living arrangements 🙂 However, I dont know if we can afford it, and I'd have to commute to school.

Either way, I'd have to find an apartment (with my girlfriend) by summer, since that's whenthe dorms close.


What would you do? Oh, and I'm a comp. Sci. major.
 
Living together is a HUGE commitment, are you ready for that?
I agree with Lethal--live on campus, crash at her pad, reap the cash benefits.
~robyn
 


<< Living together is a HUGE commitment, are you ready for that?
I agree with Lethal--live on campus, crash at her pad, reap the cash benefits.
~robyn >>



As far as the commitment issue: Yes, I beleive we're ready for it. We've been together for 2 years so far, and I love her more all the time.
 
the best idea would be for you to sublease my 13 x 13 living room from me 😉 i live in davis btw. it has been walled off with shelves, you have your own private bedroom 😉 only $325 a month 😉 hehe
 


<< As far as the commitment issue: Yes, I beleive we're ready for it. We've been together for 2 years so far, and I love her more all the time. >>

That's sweet. Living together isn't bad, it's just huge (or it was for me anyway). Hell, if you're going to move in together in the summer anyway, go for it...
good luck
~robyn
 
For love or money. How romantic. Well, on that note, I say move to the dorm, take M & D's money, save some of it and move in together in the summer. Maybe by next summer you'll have money of your own coming in.
 
I strongly advise AGAINST living with your girlfriend. That stats say that living together like that will probably hurt your relationship. Plus, it may be more distracting from your schoolwork to have her around all the time, but you know yourself better than I do. And like has been mentioned, you can always visit each other!
 


<< Bump for people to read when they're actually awake. >>




I'll get back to you on that 😉


zzzzz
 


<< As far as the commitment issue: Yes, I beleive we're ready for it. We've been together for 2 years so far, and I love her more all the time. >>


Awwww, that's the nicest thing I've read all day!

I agree with everyone else in this thread and say you should live on campus. It won't be awful sharing a tiny dorm when you will likely be spending most of your time at your gf's place. 😉 Hell my freshman year I shared a room with *4* other girls but it wasn't a big deal 'cause I was always at my bf's single. A potential problem that could backfire with that is you spend so much time there without actually living there (and helping with the rent) that you end up looking like a mooch. But then again, you make it sound like you and you're gf are really compatible so that probably won't be a prob.
 


<< Live on campus (so you can get the extra cash from the 'rents), but spend most of yer time at yer gf's place >>




This is probably your best option. Trust me, You can spend as much time with the lady as you want, you can even unofficially live with her, but you will always have your own seperate place when you need it.
 
i had the same choice, and moved in with my girlfriend. If anything, it has helped our relationship. We both work so expenses arent too bad. In fact, our savings account is going up.

Then again, you do not know someone until you live with them.
 
There are jobs out in sacramento. You just have to look for them. I know there are places in sacramento or near there that are relatively cheap to rent. If you get a 1 bedroom apartment, it shouldn't cost more than $800/month for the both of you. I know of people renting 2bd/2bth houses w/ 2car garage for under $1000/month. So just look around.

As for living expenses, start cooking. If both of you take the time and cook, you'll save alot of money. There are benefits with moving in but there are also cons.

Living with a GF is like taking that next step. In alot of cases, you start to get on each other's nerves and want your own time and space. Think it through before you do this. But seriously, there are plenty of jobs out there, just find something. I tell people that if it's easy, and it makes you money, just deal with it for now until you have the crediblity for a better job.
 
I'd rather stay at the campus since u got the $$$ to cover up.U mentioned that u got a car and u may see ur gf everyday without any prob. Staying too close with ur gf wun be good sometimes......
 
I don't know...

My gf went to school a couple hours away, and now she transferred down to UW Madison with me. Even though she's perfect, life changed a lot when you get to see her every day and you don't live with your folks anymore. Besides, living in the dorm and making some guy friends is pretty important. Even if you're going to be a couple years younger. Besides, when you are 21 and can buy them beer, they might affectionately call you "The Candyman" and that would be pretty cool.
 
Have your parents pay for your dorm/study/place to get away from your girlfriend occasionally...and shack up with her
 
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