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theNEOone

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Originally posted by: Moralpanic
Originally posted by: theNEOone
Originally posted by: Marshallj
Originally posted by: Semidevil
First of all, it is 2003. I"m not in a mafia. If beating up a guy could really solve the problem and not make it worse, then I would consider it. I mean, it's not the movies.



Second, the guy is like 100x bulkier then me, so beating him up would be kind of hard.

I mean, we are all adults right? not little kids that need to go to physical confrontation to get something done.

I have a feeling that if you were the one that's 100X bulkier than him, your opinion would be different and he'd be beaten up.


agree one hundred percent.


even though you're smaller you should still fight him. yah it's 2003, but honor and fighting for your woman are still ok in my book. this guy is basically spitting all over you and your relationship in front of your girlfiend. on top of that, your girlfriend feels threatened. are you seriously going to stand for that sh!t??!?!

Obviously you've never been in a fight before. It doesn't solve anything. You think he's going to backdown if he gets beaten? If anything, he's going to want revenge. You've been watching too much TV and not living enough reality.



obviously you've never properly intimidated anybody.
 

rgwalt

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It would help if she flat out told him that she doesn't want to speak to him again. Then, she should just ignor him when ever he tries to talk to her. Also, you should get in touch with him and tell him to fvck off. Tell him you know everything that has been going on, and you won't put up with him being an ass to her. If she tells him not to speak to her again, and he continues to do so, have her file a harrasment charge.

Also, have her keep a baseball bat under her bed just in case. You probably should, too. If it comes down to it, never bring a sword to a gun fight. Good luck.

Ryan
 

Marshallj

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Originally posted by: Moralpanic

ok toughguy
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What a brilliant post!

Maybe you should take your wisdom to the governments of the US and Britain and tell them that fighting WAS NOT necessary, and that they could have just talked their enemy out of power.
 

Looney

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Originally posted by: theNEOone
Originally posted by: Moralpanic
Originally posted by: theNEOone
Originally posted by: Marshallj
Originally posted by: Semidevil
First of all, it is 2003. I"m not in a mafia. If beating up a guy could really solve the problem and not make it worse, then I would consider it. I mean, it's not the movies.



Second, the guy is like 100x bulkier then me, so beating him up would be kind of hard.

I mean, we are all adults right? not little kids that need to go to physical confrontation to get something done.

I have a feeling that if you were the one that's 100X bulkier than him, your opinion would be different and he'd be beaten up.


agree one hundred percent.


even though you're smaller you should still fight him. yah it's 2003, but honor and fighting for your woman are still ok in my book. this guy is basically spitting all over you and your relationship in front of your girlfiend. on top of that, your girlfriend feels threatened. are you seriously going to stand for that sh!t??!?!

Obviously you've never been in a fight before. It doesn't solve anything. You think he's going to backdown if he gets beaten? If anything, he's going to want revenge. You've been watching too much TV and not living enough reality.



obviously you've never properly intimidated anybody.

Or maybe i'm living in the adult world.
 

Marshallj

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Originally posted by: Moralpanic
[Or maybe i'm living in the adult world.


No, most likely you are just a guy who wants to run your mouth but can't back it up, as we found out last night.
 

Marshallj

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Originally posted by: Moralpanic

You're in the wrong area.

No I'm not. You are claiming that violence is never the answer and that's it's immature. I'm claiming that sometimes violence is the ONLY answer, whether you want to admit it or not.

Surely nations, headed by the brightest teams of people, would feel no need for military force if it was such "common sense" that there is never a need for violence.
 

theNEOone

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Originally posted by: Moralpanic
Originally posted by: theNEOone
Originally posted by: Moralpanic
Originally posted by: theNEOone
Originally posted by: Marshallj
Originally posted by: Semidevil
First of all, it is 2003. I"m not in a mafia. If beating up a guy could really solve the problem and not make it worse, then I would consider it. I mean, it's not the movies.



Second, the guy is like 100x bulkier then me, so beating him up would be kind of hard.

I mean, we are all adults right? not little kids that need to go to physical confrontation to get something done.

I have a feeling that if you were the one that's 100X bulkier than him, your opinion would be different and he'd be beaten up.


agree one hundred percent.


even though you're smaller you should still fight him. yah it's 2003, but honor and fighting for your woman are still ok in my book. this guy is basically spitting all over you and your relationship in front of your girlfiend. on top of that, your girlfriend feels threatened. are you seriously going to stand for that sh!t??!?!

Obviously you've never been in a fight before. It doesn't solve anything. You think he's going to backdown if he gets beaten? If anything, he's going to want revenge. You've been watching too much TV and not living enough reality.



obviously you've never properly intimidated anybody.

Or maybe i'm living in the adult world.


or you have no balls. i take it that you wouldn't stand up for you girlfiend or loved one.

what a man.
 

Marshallj

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There are times when you reach a diplomatic impasse, and diplomacy fails. Diplomacy only works if both sides are willing to negotiate.
 

Marshallj

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Originally posted by: theNEOone

or you have no balls. i take it that you wouldn't stand up for you girlfiend or loved one.

what a man.

You're right.

It's no use talking to him, he's just going to continuously talk crap with absolutely no intention of backing it up in any way.

Basically he's a wimp who comes online to spread his views with no fear of any action against him. If someone were to try to take his girlfriend, he's probably let the guy take her and then try to justify it to the world saying it was the "adult" thing to do.

But the real reason is that in reality, he has no means to do anything but talk.
 

Looney

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Originally posted by: Marshallj
Originally posted by: Moralpanic
[Or maybe i'm living in the adult world.


No, most likely you are just a guy who wants to run your mouth but can't back it up, as we found out last night.

LOL being the ethug again huh?


or you have no balls. i take it that you wouldn't stand up for you girlfiend or loved one.

what a man.

When you finally enter the adult world you'll realize there are consequences to your actions.
 

BooGiMaN

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I dunno i dont think there is anything u can do...i mean from what you say it seems he is a gangster and your afraid to get beaten up ...and even if you do kick his ass he will come after you...basically you your either going to have to confront him or just put up with it til he gets tired or arrested or soemthing....and why listen to these "tough guys" on here unless they are going to be there and back you up...its all talk..its easy to be brave when your behind a monitor.

 

Marshallj

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Originally posted by: Moralpanic


LOL being the ethug again huh?

There's quite a big difference between being a "man" and being a "thug".

I'm a man, you are neither.



Originally posted by: Moralpanic
When you finally enter the adult world you'll realize there are consequences to your actions.

Yes, one of the consequences of being a man and sticking up for what you believe in is getting what you want. But you've never experienced that, so you'll just stay online and pretend that you're somebody.

As I said last night, I'm more than willing to meet you. I know that you are all talk, no action. You lack balls. You're a bitch. You'll talk and talk and talk, but nothing else.




 

theNEOone

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Originally posted by: Moralpanic
Originally posted by: Marshallj
Originally posted by: Moralpanic
[Or maybe i'm living in the adult world.


No, most likely you are just a guy who wants to run your mouth but can't back it up, as we found out last night.

LOL being the ethug again huh?


or you have no balls. i take it that you wouldn't stand up for you girlfiend or loved one.

what a man.

When you finally enter the adult world you'll realize there are consequences to your actions.


yes sir, almighty knowledgable sir! you must be right, sir! since you claim i'm not in the adult world, you must know me, sir!





realize that lack of action in many cases is much worse than not acting at all.

the lack of action you're proposing is a sign of weakness, indecisiveness and fear. he is being dishonored, and his girlfriend being threatened. words aren't going to get him anywhere with this guy.

 

GoingUp

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Originally posted by: DumbRedGuy
Originally posted by: ragazzo
Only way is to ask your GF not to talk to him and if she sees him, turn away. Cut off all points of contact. He'll get the drift eventually. If he doesn't, a restraining order is due.

Quoted for emphasis.

Quoted for emphasis of the quote
 

Marshallj

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Originally posted by: BooGiMaN
and why listen to these "tough guys" on here unless they are going to be there and back you up...its all talk..its easy to be brave when your behind a monitor.

It's not my fight.

But you're damn right that I'll put my ass on the line if it came down to it. I wouldn't be on Anandtech complaining about it, I'd be taking care of business seeing that the job gets done.


I can say with honesty that this situation HAS come up before (as it comes up with many people). And no, I did not sit behind a monitor and complain. I stood before the guy and told him what's up.

There are benefits of taking action. Complaining on an internet forum is NOT taking action.
 

Looney

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Originally posted by: Moralpanic


LOL being the ethug again huh?
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There's quite a big difference between being a "man" and being a "thug".

I'm a man, you are neither.

Awww, don't hurt my feelings please.


Yes, one of the consequences of being a man and sticking up for what you believe in is getting what you want. But you've never experienced that, so you'll just stay online and pretend that you're somebody.

As I said last night, I'm more than willing to meet you. I know that you are all talk, no action. You lack balls. You're a bitch. You'll talk and talk and talk, but nothing else.

I'm not the one hiding my location. But i won't meet you anywhere because i have nothing to prove... what? You want to beat me up because you can't compete with me with words? LOLOL

I'm sure we're going to have a Toronto ATOT meeting in the near future, so you can come on down then. But in the meantime, stop talking big... EVERYBODY here knows it's all talk, so you're not fooling anybody but yourself.
 

Marshallj

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Originally posted by: Moralpanic

I'm not the one hiding my location. But i won't meet you anywhere because i have nothing to prove... what? You want to beat me up because you can't compete with me with words? LOLOL

I'm sure we're going to have a Toronto ATOT meeting in the near future, so you can come on down then. But in the meantime, stop talking big... EVERYBODY here knows it's all talk, so you're not fooling anybody but yourself.

I have given you every chance to prove that you're a man. Yet you have proven beyond all doubt that you're just a pussy who can do nothing but talk.

How old are you, BOY?

 

GermyBoy

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Originally posted by: Marshallj
Originally posted by: GermyBoy
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Exactly. I'm dealing with this now. However, his car has seen better days, and about 3 sets of tires since he started stalking her.
So you go after his CAR because you're mad at him? What kind of pussy move is that?

Well it's better than going up against a ganster who never leaves his crew. Plus, he's not worth my time, but it is worth my time to make sure his ride won't be making that 4 hour drive to stalk her. I travel by there 2-3 times a month.
 

BooGiMaN

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Originally posted by: Marshallj
Originally posted by: BooGiMaN
and why listen to these "tough guys" on here unless they are going to be there and back you up...its all talk..its easy to be brave when your behind a monitor.

It's not my fight.

But you're damn right that I'll put my ass on the line if it came down to it. I wouldn't be on Anandtech complaining about it, I'd be taking care of business seeing that the job gets done.


I can say with honesty that this situation HAS come up before (as it comes up with many people). And no, I did not sit behind a monitor and complain. I stood before the guy and told him what's up.

There are benefits of taking action. Complaining on an internet forum is NOT taking action.


Was this guy hardcore and have nothing to lose?...i dont know the particulars from the original poster but it seems he is afraid this guy has backup that will seriously hurt him.....not just in a fight.....fighting someone and being afraid of getting jumped, shanked or shot in a drive by are two totally different things.
 

Marshallj

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Originally posted by: GermyBoy


Well it's better than going up against a ganster who never leaves his crew. Plus, he's not worth my time, but it is worth my time to make sure his ride won't be making that 4 hour drive to stalk her. I travel by there 2-3 times a month.

Well that's true. At least you did something about it.
 

Marshallj

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Originally posted by: BooGiMaN
[Was this guy hardcore and have nothing to lose?...i dont know the particulars from the original poster but it seems he is afraid this guy has backup that will seriously hurt him.....not just in a fight.....fighting someone and being afraid of getting jumped, shanked or shot in a drive by are two totally different things.

You are right about that, and I probably would not mess with someone if I thought I was going to get shanked or shot. I'm not a thug and I don't carry any protection against that so I couldn't defend myself.

But standing there doing nothing isn't an option.
 

Looney

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Originally posted by: Marshallj
Originally posted by: Moralpanic

I'm not the one hiding my location. But i won't meet you anywhere because i have nothing to prove... what? You want to beat me up because you can't compete with me with words? LOLOL

I'm sure we're going to have a Toronto ATOT meeting in the near future, so you can come on down then. But in the meantime, stop talking big... EVERYBODY here knows it's all talk, so you're not fooling anybody but yourself.

I have given you every chance to prove that you're a man. Yet you have proven beyond all doubt that you're just a pussy who can do nothing but talk.

How old are you, BOY?

LOL why do i need to prove myself for anybody? You're the one that's insecure enough to start calling people on a message board to meet you for a fight... that also includes it being recorded if i remember correctly? LOL it's all talk, and you know it. Like i said, my location isn't hidden. If you're a man of action like you say you are, then you would be coming up here instead of just talking words on the internet.
 

I agree with both sides. Fights usually clear the smoke. However, we know that there are consequences to fights. You could harm someone in a deadly way. Secondly, if you are not successful in defeating the other party, then you're owned.

So the best way to resolve it is to let the lady handle it by herself. First off, it doesn't make sense to me that she's constantly talking to him. I can understand in some way feeling intimidated and afraid if she stopped talking to him he would harm her. However, that's myopia. She has to be willing to take the risk to tell him off. If he still bugs her, then it's time to report to campus police. And it is soon time to put a restraining order. If she keeps talking to him and then come passing you all of the gospel as if she volunteered her time to him but is playing you by pretending to be scared, then it wouldn't help her cause.