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gigapet

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by the way.........this is why taking girls on dates does not work. Asking them to "tag along" when you are going somewhere is much more effective. You do not supplicate to them, you do not communicate that you are like every other pathetic chump whos only hope is to provide lavish dates for girls in the off chance the girl will feel sorry for them they will get laid.

Just be cool ask them to meet you out somewhere......heck tell her you need a female eye and go shopping .....but dinner dates are god awful and pricey and have very little chance of getting you anywhere unless the girl was already extremely attracted to you to begin with in which case you should have just skipped dinner altogether and cut to the chase.

General rule of thumb is don't spend more than 5 bucks when hanging out with a girl until you've secured the lay or that you are certain she is going to stick around for a while.
 
Whoozyerdaddy

Whoozyerdaddy

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"Still trying to get over this guy" is code for "I still sleep with him".

I'd leave the situation alone.
 
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spidey07

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Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
"Still trying to get over this guy" is code for "I still sleep with him".

I'd leave the situation alone.
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hahaha, yep.

Move on. Do not contact her and you'll probably find her calling you frequently. They freak when you ignore them.
 
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Accipiter22

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Originally posted by: Sentinel
"My question then; Do I tell her that I really do like her now, and that when she's over this guy I'll be around, or do I completely dissapear and then pop back up in a month or so if I'm still single? I just wanted to have a fun time with her and see what developed, if anything...now I'm not sure what to do.."

Sure tell her you like her, but don't say you'll wait for her. Rediculous! Unless you want to be walked on. It sounds like bs to me.

My vote: Tell her, then don't talk to her.
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thanks for all the help guys...I do like this suggestion, I say my part, then just let it be in her court. For the record I also go on dates with other girls, I just like this one best.
 
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elektrolokomotive

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Originally posted by: moshquerade
i would stop contact with her now. believe me, if you ignore her at this point you will find that she *will* contact you if she is interested.
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Mosh speaks the truth.
(she's so smart!!)
 
Kadarin

Kadarin

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Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
"Still trying to get over this guy" is code for "I still sleep with him".

I'd leave the situation alone.
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Which in turn is code for "I still get bent over and plowed doggy style by him".

Why mince words?
 
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iroast

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Originally posted by: moshquerade
i would stop contact with her now. believe me, if you ignore her at this point you will find that she *will* contact you if she is interested.
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kukyfrope

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If she's not over the other guy, don't waste your time. Because you will be wasting your time when this relationship ends because of it.
 
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KarenMarie

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if you wait a month and pop back up... what if the current guy is gone and a new one is there? you will kick yourself in the ass for not moving sooner.

be respectful. tell her how you feel and that there is no pressure because you see she is entangled. but that if she ever wants to give you and she a go, you are really interested in doing so.

but dont wait around forever.
 
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Shadowknight

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After getting jerked around a couple of times by someone you just started dating (anyone, not just this girl), you're better off dropping her and going out with someone else. Move on.
 
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Accipiter22

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Originally posted by: KarenMarie
if you wait a month and pop back up... what if the current guy is gone and a new one is there? you will kick yourself in the ass for not moving sooner.

be respectful. tell her how you feel and that there is no pressure because you see she is entangled. but that if she ever wants to give you and she a go, you are really interested in doing so.

but dont wait around forever.
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argh...maybe i'll just drop out of site for a couple weeks or a few weeks instead of a month...grr....
 
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EatSpam

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Originally posted by: DaShen
If she senses any neediness, you are screwed.
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Originally posted by: DaiShan
Don't wait around for her. Waiting basically tells this girl that you have no other prospects, and no woman wants a guy that can't get anyone else.
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What they said. Also, make the girl pursue you a little bit. If she doesn't, she's not interested, as is the case here.
 
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Lola

I didn;t read all the other responses, but don't tell her you'll be around because that leaves you as the "back up".

Let her get over the other guy, be careful what you talk to her about if you still stay in touch because that "friend zone" is a difficult place to get out of.

I would tell her that you enjoy her company and have a good time with her though.
 
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Compton

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Originally posted by: AdamSnow
Disappear for ever... She wants to bang the other guy for a bit longer.
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QFT. I would just move on, it sounds like she's just a waste of time.
 
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Accipiter22

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Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I didn;t read all the other responses, but don't tell her you'll be around because that leaves you as the "back up".

Let her get over the other guy, be careful what you talk to her about if you still stay in touch because that "friend zone" is a difficult place to get out of.

I would tell her that you enjoy her company and have a good time with her though.
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thanks. I voted for your margarita again.
 
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imported_bum

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Originally posted by: CraKaJaX
no one has asked for pics yet?!? PICS!
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Holy Christ, it's already the third page and only one person asked for PICS! Get on the ball OP, I need some visuals to give advice.
 
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ITJunkie

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Originally posted by: DaShen
Do whatever you feel like doing in that situation. If she senses any neediness, you are screwed.
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QFT...quit calling her and leave it at that. Right now it sounds like your rebound material and you don't want to go there.
 
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Accipiter22

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Originally posted by: ITJunkie
Originally posted by: DaShen
Do whatever you feel like doing in that situation. If she senses any neediness, you are screwed.
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QFT...quit calling her and leave it at that. Right now it sounds like your rebound material and you don't want to go there.
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word. I'm at work right now so no pics for now...I'm considering it...but I don't want it getting back to her that I put pics of her on a popular, creepy, internet message board
 
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Nutdotnet

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Originally posted by: moshquerade
i would stop contact with her now. believe me, if you ignore her at this point you will find that she *will* contact you if she is interested.
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Agreed.
 
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