(Jeez, now I know why religions don't allow pre-marital sex)
Oh darn... I really didn't want to get into such a debate, but I have to say something to those who are using the "it's their body" and "the government has no right to control someone's body even though it means aborting a child's birth" excuses. If this were true, why then are drugs and suicide illegal (yes, suicide is illegal, but in most cases psychiatric treatment is concidered "time served"😉? Both are done to only one's self and is a choice one makes for one's self, yet the gov. makes it illegal. That takes care of the "government can't interfere" argument, because they already are.
If you say that someone on drugs has thepotential of hurting and/or killing others, as many here are implying, then the argument "abortion is killing apotential life" becomes valid. It matters not, then, debating when a person becomes a person, since aborting a child is killing a potential child, just as someone using drugs has the potential of killing others.
Now, the whole thing about the woman not wanting the baby - well then she shouldn't have been doing something which sole purpose is procreation (and especially out of wedlock😉). And, it's not like you've never heard of "planned parenthood". The way I understand it and believe, making love is the act of a man and woman's pure, undeniable, and unconditional love for one another. The baby, then, becomes the product of that love. This is why even though I oppose abortion in general, I believe it is okay in cases of rape, abuse and incest - unless, and I know this is sick, if it were consensual. (No, I don't condone this, but if that's what they want...).
Ultimately, in cases of pure "choice", IMO the woman is just trying to get out of her "consequence". If she thinks she is old enough or is able to make her own choices concerning sex, then she is old enough to take the responsibility of her actions. (I put "consequence" in quotes because I'd never veiw a child as a bad thing.) For those who are going to say, "it takes two to tango" and the like, well, "it takes two for it to be consensual". If not, that would constitute rape, and therefore abortion, in my view, becomes an option. Notice I said "becomes", she could always just give the baby up for adoption. Otherwise, she knew what she was getting into, and so does HE. Men shouldn't be having sex either unless he also is willing to accept responsibility of a child.
In cases of an "accident" ie. slip, tear, rupture of the condom, my position of "man and woman's love for each other" applies. You should'nt be having sex if you don't have feelings this deep in the first place, eventhough you're being careful. "Being careful" doesn't make it right, and shouldn't be used as an excuse.
Even if everything isn't "happily ever after" after having a child and you decide you are just horrible at being a parent, then just give the child up for adoption, to people who will be able to give the kid a better life. As I understand it, adoption services screen applicants very carefully, so it's better to do this than to raise a child up in a broken home. Doing that will definately kill or really hamper any potential a child has. If you do love your child, you will understand this would be the best to do.
