Worst was a huge amount of gifts we received from my 68 year old mother in law.
Since my father in law passed away of prostate cancer in 2004, my mother in law has gone totally off the rails batshit insane. She has refused to work, let two of her adult children live at home and leech off the $140k in life insurance money she got, and not even 3 days had passed before she went to online dating websites to find a new man.
Not surprisingly, she was defrauded of thousands of dollars by internet mystery men that claimed to love her but needed her to transfer some money here or there. Eventually she made a surprise trip to Idaho, met one of these men in real life, and returned to declare she was engaged, was selling her house, and moving to Idaho to be with him. We soon discovered this man had been married 4 times previously and all his ex-wives had nothing but terrible things to say about him.
My wife, the youngest of the three kids, begged and pleaded with her mother to not make these mistakes as each arose. The eldest child, my wife's half sister who herself is a pathetic, miserable failure at life, always encouraged my mother in law to "follow her heart" and "do what makes her happy." She followed the eldest's advice with predictable results.
As we expected, this new husband took my mother in law for a ride straight to financial ruin. He took the equity in her home and bought himself a new pickup. Convinced her to take out loans and then spent the money on himself. He was verbally abusive. She eventually left him and divorced, only to return and remarry him less than a year later.
Through all of this, my wife and I were the only voices of reason which only earned us scorn.
After she finally divorced this human parasite for good (he later accidentally killed himself in an insurance scam by purposefully blowing up his house by causing a natural gas leak and hiding in a refrigerator Indiana Jones style) she continued to make mistakes with her finances and routinely asked my wife and I for money. We refused to flat out throw money at her and instead offered to help her sell things she didn't need, find a job, or look for ways to reduce her monthly expenses. This was met only with anger. One time she wrote a long letter to my wife explaining that was betraying her father's dying wish to "take care of her" after he was gone. Another time she used the fact that my wife was molested by the mother in law's father as ammunition in an argument.
Oddly enough, my mother in law received a $50,000 settlement 4 months ago because her father (the child molester) was exposed to asbestos and there were funds for surviving children she wasn't aware of. My wife's older sister convinced my mother in law to "loan" her almost half of it to pay off payday loans and purchase a trailer home.
At a small Christmas gathering we find that the mother in law has spent nearly $2,000 on our family in gifts ranging from Red Lobster gift cards, a George Foreman outdoor grill, nail files, under shirts, $10 knife sets from Sam's Club, etc. to "make up" for previous holidays where she couldn't buy us much. We find out through my brother in law she has literally SPENT EVERY LAST DIME SHE HAS on these gifts and intends to leave the senior living income based apartment my wife vetted, toured, applied her for, paid her late rent on previous apartment to ensure that would not prevent her application from being accepted, etc., a $300/mo apartment, all utilities and laundry included, to moving into the dumpy trailer home with the eldest, pathetic sister instead.
Accepting these gifts feels awful. Even though we never asked for them nor want them, it feels terrible to have them, but we couldn't bring ourselves to flat out refuse them. Instead we'll return and sell what we can and have the brother in law somehow get the money to her in secret. Meanwhile, we expect the eldest sister to use the fact that the mother in law is living with her as a bargaining chip to ask us for money in the future. After all, if she can't pay her bills "mom will get thrown on the street!" Besides, we're just evil rich people anyway who have money falling out of our ears because we chose to make something of ourselves after being dumb kids that got pregnant not once but twice 16 years ago by putting ourselves through college, making good decisions, taking some risks, and getting ourselves to where we are today. But because the rest of the family made poor choices they are owed our success.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!