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What is the Indian "code" (skin disease or something?)

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Originally posted by: Siddhartha
"Indian code" sounds like another synonym for bigotry.
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no its just stupidity. My parents are Indians and what the OP said sounds like the type of sh!t my mother would say. They are making up some BS.

OP, you sound a little young though. Trust me, you'll get over her. To quote my hero, MichaelD,

"No matter how good she looks next to you, somewhere, some guy is tired of putting up with her sh!t."

:beer:😀
 
Originally posted by: Chraticn
It's not all dark skinned "low-caste" people, but you have to remember something important:

Althought most modern indians say that the caste system is no longer important, that's LIES. LIES. Every modern indian of a "higher" caste feels that they are better than the lower folks, although the lower folks are the people who are owning businesses and making their claim here in a completely different way from the upper class. That animosity is ALWAYS going to exist. You have to deal with it.

("upper caste", by the way, even though that's complete BS)
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Dont talk about something you have no experience in....the caste system has been abolished in Indian society. However there remains a basic caste system in society having to do with the amount of MONEY you have (so dont think that Indian people are intolerant...unlike you guys we have elected female presidents and presidents that have a different religion than that of the majority (only one catholic president in american history)
 
Originally posted by: Chraticn
Originally posted by: Eli
Oh for Christ's sake, tell your mom to mind her own fscking business and date anybody you please.
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oh yeah, that's Really going to work. :roll:

"Hey ai, mind your own fvcking business!"

*disowned* *penniless*
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If my parents were telling me who I could and couldn't date, that'd be fine by me.

Hell, I'd disown them first.
 
basically its because of the ethics of the american girl. What I told my other friend is that take indian girl pictures to your mom and ask her which one she likes, take 10 indian girl pictures and add in the american girl pictures at the end and see what she thinks.
 
Originally posted by: agentsmith101
Originally posted by: Chraticn
It's not all dark skinned "low-caste" people, but you have to remember something important:

Althought most modern indians say that the caste system is no longer important, that's LIES. LIES. Every modern indian of a "higher" caste feels that they are better than the lower folks, although the lower folks are the people who are owning businesses and making their claim here in a completely different way from the upper class. That animosity is ALWAYS going to exist. You have to deal with it.

("upper caste", by the way, even though that's complete BS)
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Dont talk about something you have no experience in....the caste system has been abolished in Indian society. However there remains a basic caste system in society having to do with the amount of MONEY you have (so dont think that Indian people are intolerant...unlike you guys we have elected female presidents and presidents that have a different religion than that of the majority (only one catholic president in american history)
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Are you blind? You've never seen people who are (or were, rather) higher in caste behave deriively to those of the lower caste? Money is always going to be a dividing line, race is not a concern in that aspect. If something has been a prevailing social institution for the majority of that society's existence, then it will always be lurking in that society.
 
I maybe 16, but I know that I'm not gonna get over her. Seriously she really is the only reason why I care to be alive. My life really does suck for me. I hate my life so much I've tried slitting my wrists before. I sit at home, noone to talk to no friendsno nothing. I go to school and everyone I know hates me. I don't talkto anyone online other than my gf and a few of her friends that had IMed me. My lifes always sucked my rents have screwed everything up for me. And hell this girl really has changed alot of my perspectives to life. But I guess to you guys I'm just a young kid that doesn't know what love is, but i've looked at every perspective of it and realized what it is. I've done this many different ways...but anyways, shes the only reason im alive right now seriously I would have died if it wasn'tfor her. I've litteraly slit my wrists...
 
Originally posted by: datdamkid
I maybe 16, but I know that I'm not gonna get over her. Seriously she really is the only reason why I care to be alive. My life really does suck for me. I hate my life so much I've tried slitting my wrists before. I sit at home, noone to talk to no friendsno nothing. I go to school and everyone I know hates me. I don't talkto anyone online other than my gf and a few of her friends that had IMed me. My lifes always sucked my rents have screwed everything up for me. And hell this girl really has changed alot of my perspectives to life. But I guess to you guys I'm just a young kid that doesn't know what love is, but i've looked at every perspective of it and realized what it is. I've done this many different ways...but anyways, shes the only reason im alive right now seriously I would have died if it wasn'tfor her. I've litteraly slit my wrists...
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*sigh*

I would post the standard M4H "crawling in my skin" response, but I'll refrain.

Your life is not as bad as you think it is - I'll leave it at that. I hope you realize that and get to feeling better. 🙂
 
Originally posted by: datdamkid
I maybe 16, but I know that I'm not gonna get over her. Seriously she really is the only reason why I care to be alive. My life really does suck for me. I hate my life so much I've tried slitting my wrists before. I sit at home, noone to talk to no friendsno nothing. I go to school and everyone I know hates me. I don't talkto anyone online other than my gf and a few of her friends that had IMed me. My lifes always sucked my rents have screwed everything up for me. And hell this girl really has changed alot of my perspectives to life. But I guess to you guys I'm just a young kid that doesn't know what love is, but i've looked at every perspective of it and realized what it is. I've done this many different ways...but anyways, shes the only reason im alive right now seriously I would have died if it wasn'tfor her. I've litteraly slit my wrists...
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:Q O boy... here we go...
 
Originally posted by: datdamkid
I maybe 16, but I know that I'm not gonna get over her. Seriously she really is the only reason why I care to be alive. My life really does suck for me. I hate my life so much I've tried slitting my wrists before. I sit at home, noone to talk to no friendsno nothing. I go to school and everyone I know hates me. I don't talkto anyone online other than my gf and a few of her friends that had IMed me. My lifes always sucked my rents have screwed everything up for me. And hell this girl really has changed alot of my perspectives to life. But I guess to you guys I'm just a young kid that doesn't know what love is, but i've looked at every perspective of it and realized what it is. I've done this many different ways...but anyways, shes the only reason im alive right now seriously I would have died if it wasn'tfor her. I've litteraly slit my wrists...
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Wow just wow. Listen to what people are telling you. You are an idiot. We all were at one time to different degrees. Hopefully you will come to to your senses and get over it. If not ..down not accross. "Trying" is BS.
 
Originally posted by: datdamkid
I maybe 16, but I know that I'm not gonna get over her. Seriously she really is the only reason why I care to be alive. My life really does suck for me. I hate my life so much I've tried slitting my wrists before. I sit at home, noone to talk to no friendsno nothing. I go to school and everyone I know hates me. I don't talkto anyone online other than my gf and a few of her friends that had IMed me. My lifes always sucked my rents have screwed everything up for me. And hell this girl really has changed alot of my perspectives to life. But I guess to you guys I'm just a young kid that doesn't know what love is, but i've looked at every perspective of it and realized what it is. I've done this many different ways...but anyways, shes the only reason im alive right now seriously I would have died if it wasn'tfor her. I've litteraly slit my wrists...
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Tthe important thing is to realize that this isn't the end of things, and you will not throw yourself back into ruins if things cannot continue with her. Nobody is suggesting that you disregard everything that you've shared with her up until this point. You just need to trust in the fact that another girl or two or three will come into your life and you will be just as happy with her down the road.

Even if you are really in love, there is no love more valuable and irreplacable than that of your family. It is honestly better to smooth things over with your parents and look elsewhere at this point than to stubbornly pursue it under the table. You can always wait until you turn 18 to do whatever you want, there's still plenty of time left in your life. By that time, if you guys are still madly in love with each other, why not? But you'll have to see if those feelings persist until then, because as many people who have gone through what you have will gladly tell you, love is a fleeting thing during our teenage years...
 
Originally posted by: Citrix
ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you, Norman and his mother Mrs. Bates.
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:laugh:

...but I feel sorry for the OP. American society is very hard to deal with if you are an emotionally needy person.

And to the other poster ranting about caste-system...get a grip. You are probably generalizing based on personal experiences. While it is a crime to ignore the problems of the caste-system, mindless generalizing like you just did is even worse.

Gawd, there should be a minimum IQ requirement before people are allowed to get on the internet :roll:
 
Originally posted by: datdamkid
I maybe 16, but I know that I'm not gonna get over her. Seriously she really is the only reason why I care to be alive. My life really does suck for me. I hate my life so much I've tried slitting my wrists before. I sit at home, noone to talk to no friendsno nothing. I go to school and everyone I know hates me. I don't talkto anyone online other than my gf and a few of her friends that had IMed me. My lifes always sucked my rents have screwed everything up for me. And hell this girl really has changed alot of my perspectives to life. But I guess to you guys I'm just a young kid that doesn't know what love is, but i've looked at every perspective of it and realized what it is. I've done this many different ways...but anyways, shes the only reason im alive right now seriously I would have died if it wasn'tfor her. I've litteraly slit my wrists...
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Ha ha, puberty's a bitch isn't it? Dude, you have NOT looked at things in every perspective. The problem is that you lack perspective. Have you looked at it from the perspective of a college student? maybe a full-time working man in the real world? you can't. If this girl's the only reason for living, then you are gonna be royally disappointed in a couple years at most. You can't rely on others as crutches.... especially not girls you meet when you're 16. Dude... make some friends... get a hobby. Although I don't know your lifestyle, it's entirely possible that the only reason you're so incredibly depressed is that you have nothing to do. When people have nothing to do, they start thinking about stuff; and that's always a bad idea. Go join some sports; do some chores; get a job; make some friends. Whatever keeps you occupied and gets you going long enough to realize that the only reason you're so hung up on this girl and you're so depressed is a little thing called hormones; it's the same thing that grows your hair and drops your balls... kinda silly isn't it? Like my idiot of a physics teacher used to say: "hear me now and believe me later." In a couple of years you're gonna feel real stupid about all the stuff you've done and are gonna feel even more stupid posting about it here. 😀

P.S. Yes I have fallen "madly" in love with pretty girls while doing my time (middle/high school) and thought I couldn't possibly live without them. Now, I laugh about it and try to just pick up some hot ass (and fail). Trust me, it's all about keeping yourself occupied... and for God's sake dude, please please please get some porn. Jeez, you could use a damn good wank job.
 
Perhaps your mother is threatened by your interest in this girl. Like someone above posted, maybe the skin thing is just a convenient excuse, but a lie.
Maybe your mother is afraid of losing control of you. Can you get some counciling about this?
 
BTW, the OP's feelings are real and to suggest that he shouldn't take his feelings seriously is to suggest that what he thinks and feels is not important. At what point in his life should he take his feelings seriously? A person learns by experience--why deny them that?
 
Originally posted by: db
BTW, the OP's feelings are real and to suggest that he shouldn't take his feelings seriously is to suggest that what he thinks and feels is not important. At what point in his life should he take his feelings seriously? A person learns by experience--why deny them that?
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Its time to cut the soap opera short with a little reality when he starts talking stupid.
 
heh i skipped the cliff notes and read the whole thing. Big mistake.
update notes to mention you are indian!
If you are indian why would your mom be upset that you are dating another indian girl, is it not encouraged? or were you promised to some girl when you were born and so she doesn't want you getting attatched?
As for the skin thing if your gf herself doesn't actually have it then don't worry about it and if she does then find out more like at www.webMD.com look up skin blotching or something. I wouldn't worry about it through!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Stay with your gf, help her out if she needs it, ignore your mother! (about this subject anyway)
 
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