what if my colleague says F*** word...

[Ruptga]

Mention it in passing, just whenever it comes up, tell him to relax or something. If he blows you off or something, mention it to a superior. If it's a discipline problem, tell them, but if it's just a lapse of professionalism, tell them that too.

Be sure not to be whiney etc. Cussing isn't bad because it's taboo, that's just a ridiculous self-fulfilling prophecy without any reason to back it up. Cussing is no good because people do it when they're freaking out, not in full control of themselves, or when they just feel like being disrespectful. Neither case is good, especially in the workplace, even if they're talking to/about another worker, the worker won't take their money somewhere else, but it's hard to work with people that you resent.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: bignateyk

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: withsmile
thanks for the sharing. a lot more to learn...

q]Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004

Originally posted by: withsmile
Occasionally (recently more often, 3 times a day), when he got pissed off, sometimes a little loud, most of the time murmuring to himself. I'm a girl just out of school, 30ish people corporate subsidiary environment, all male, but nobody is like him. We have good personal relationship, but when he says F-word, I still feel embarrassed, is that me or him? What do I do?

YYour 30, just tell him you don't like it. What's he going to do, report you for requesting he stop saying F***?

AS for professionalism, your bst off ignoring him. AS long as he doesn't swear in front of clients, it's not an issue and fairly common place to run into these people on occasion. I do, all the time but not till I know the people around me are comfortable with it.

I've had my slips and some embarrising ... never with a client near and usually in part due to a combo of to much caffiene and lack of sleep the previous night.

Anyways ... let it slide if you can, but don't be afraid to tell him to his face. That is the first step. NEVER go to higher-ups before talking to the person directly. This is common curtosy.

it's not your job to tell this guy anything,you are his work peer,not his boss,he might stammer out an apology in front of your face but he'll resent you for it...I'd go the route of bringing up the topic of professionalism and company policy regarding workplace behaviors/courtesy.If it comes from the boss as a generic reminder to all,it'll go over a lot better.It might also spur useful conversations about other behaviors ieeople coming in late,leaving early,not finishing work,leaving messes in break areas etc.

Professional standards for behavior is part of what makes the workplace tolerable.

you sound like a nazi

I guess our practice of lunchtime nerf-gun warfare in the cubicles would be frowned upon as well.[/quote]

there's a difference between a bit of fun that doesn't happen in front of clients and profane outbursts.


and there's a difference between "damn" or öh shiat" uttered when you slam the file drawer on your finger and wholesale use of the F word..

 

[Reckoner]

Apple girl, crawl out from under the rock. K THX BYE!

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Grow up.

ETA - If he wasn't saying it to you or about you, then get over it. Now on the other hand if he was cursing you out using foul language then report it.

Grown-up people cuss. As you said, you're fresh out of school and are getting used to this working environment. You can't honestly expect everybody to walk on eggshells around you just because you're some young female right? Oh wait. :roll:

It's things like this that make me ashamed to be a female at times.

:thumbsup:

Man uses F-bomb several times a day, film at 11!!!!1!!!11!!!!!1!!ONE!!111

 

[KaOTiK]

Wow, to think when I worked at a restraunte a couple of years ago, it was literally everything goes, slapping of the asses from both sides, titty twisters, and all the foul language and most inapproiate (sp?) things in the world were said. That was normal behavior there and everyone loved it. New people espeically lol

Leave the guy alone, unless hes directing towards you or saying it infront of clients it should be ignored, we all have lil quirks that annoy others.

Kao

 

[Schadenfreude]

Why not just tell him "Shut the fvck up"?

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Originally posted by: Schadenfreude
Why not just tell him "Shut the fvck up"?

Oh noes, you said a swear!

 

[Jeff7]

Originally posted by: withsmile
I'm sure it's not sexually related, just a way to show he's pissed off.

but I'm seriously not used to that word...

You should work at a grunt work, blue-collar kind of job. There, they don't use commas when speaking. They use the f-word instead. It becomes a noun, verb, adjective, adverb, anything. Sometimes they use it in place of "um."
I almost never use it myself, and I do get a bit anxious when someone around me uses it in anger (or is just angry at all), but for quite a few people, it's part of their casual language.
And some people just don't know of any other ways to express themselves.

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
it's not your job to tell this guy anything,you are his work peer,not his boss,he might stammer out an apology in front of your face but he'll resent you for it...I'd go the route of bringing up the topic of professionalism and company policy regarding workplace behaviors/courtesy. If it comes from the boss as a generic reminder to all,it'll go over a lot better.It might also spur useful conversations about other behaviors ieeople coming in late,leaving early,not finishing work,leaving messes in break areas etc.

Professional standards for behavior is part of what makes the workplace tolerable.

Resent - definitely. Everyone is perfect, and if anyone questions their behavior, well they're the ones who are crazy. Sadly that's what our society says, and the immediate option to retain peace is to conform to it. The other thing is, if you say something to him, depending on his attitude, you might get a considerate response, or you'll get the jerk response, and a lot heavier usage of the f-word, just to irritate you. My roommates know what things irritate me, and they are sure to mock me in those specific ways. :roll:

Geekbabe - I do not intend this attitude and rant about society to be directed primarily at you. I just don't like it when someone who uses unprofessional language around someone who is trying to be professional is told about his behavior, and the unprofessional one is judged by society to be "in the right."

At college, it's tough for me, because I like to maintain what I perceive as a reasonable schedule, to ensure adequate sleep (7hrs+ a night, 8 is ideal), and time to do homework, go to class, work, and even watch TV or play computer games. This isn't popular because everyone else likes to play loud music and yell until it gets really late. Am I the one in the wrong? It would seem so, because my ways aren't popular. But they do seem more professional, in my opinion. I'm burning a LOT of money on college so I can learn things to become more valuable in the workforce. If they all want to just d!ck around, they could do that for a lot less money than college is costing them.

 

[GeekDrew]

*Many* people have told me that I am extremely offensive, and that I swear like a sailor. I could probably piss off Mother Theresa.

I'm the only man in an office full of women. I'm the least profane person in my office. *That* was a shock, when I first started working there.

 

[Nik]

every fvckin day

 

[Kanalua]

Originally posted by: KLin
Report the fscking bastard to your HR department. :thumbsup:

If it were me, I'd talk to him. If you truly are the little new girl, then I'd definitely drop a line to HR...

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Originally posted by: withsmile
Occasionally (recently more often, 3 times a day), when he got pissed off, sometimes a little loud, most of the time murmuring to himself. I'm a girl just out of school, 30ish people corporate subsidiary environment, all male, but nobody is like him. We have good personal relationship, but when he says F-word, I still feel embarrassed, is that me or him? What do I do?

Is this a serious question?

 

[JS80]

if i had a penny for every f bomb at work or said "fvck you" to an employee i'd be riach you fvcking biatch!

 

[PHiuR]

First, it's not a big deal as long as it's not directed at you.
2. Talk to him about it...

 

[Trente]

Hell, I also use the F word at work, with friends... and they don't speak English where I live. It has become an international wording; at least for the Americanized.

 

[Mill]

I think you would have cried in my workplace. Cried long and hard.

 

[ScottyB]

You should hear the language that gets used in the teachers' lounge during lunch. Why, just Monday the phrase "cum on my face" was uttered by a teacher when telling a story.

 

[TallBill]

Originally posted by: PHiuR
First, it's not a big deal as long as it's not directed at you.
2. Talk to him about it...

Its not a big deal either way. ****** is such a stupid ****** word. And it doesn't make any sense why someone would be offended.

 

[Sable]

FAKE AS FVCK.

 

[DaTT]

You know what I say? "fvck the fvcking fvckers"

 

[theprodigalrebel]

Fvck is an offensive word?

I find moron/tool/idiot/stupid more offensive than 'go fvck yourself'. I take the former as a bigger insult.
People use f*** in a non-sexual/perverse way all the time. I f'ed up. The situation is f'ed up beyond repair. What the f? How the f did this happen? Sh!t. Damn. Hell. Fvck. Excuse me, while I fvckin' kill myself.

Who gives a fvck?

 

[thehstrybean]

Originally posted by: joshsquall
You would cry every day where I work. I think 50% of our conversations are offensive to someone.

Same here. It's either bashing some stupid faculty members who can't figure out jack sh*t or talking about pot smoking and being hung-over from a couple of weeks ago...

 

[ColdFusion718]

You don't get out much, do you?

 

[pontifex]

while i don't mind hearing swearing or even using it myself, i think its extremely unprofessional, especially in an office environment to use such words out loud.

i used to work at a help desk that did phone support and there was one guy that regularly swore, and out loud. i cringed every time he did it because there were people on the phone all around him.

 

[randomlinh]

Originally posted by: pontifex
while i don't mind hearing swearing or even using it myself, i think its extremely unprofessional, especially in an office environment to use such words out loud.

i used to work at a help desk that did phone support and there was one guy that regularly swore, and out loud. i cringed every time he did it because there were people on the phone all around him.

that's different. phone support is your client. we'd never do that on the phones... but if no one is there... it's an all out brawl. I think we've offend everyone and everything possible. If you can't take it all in light, there's no way you'd survive at the job.

Yes there are boundries, and yes, if you're a newb coming into that environment and aren't expecting it... it could be unsettling. But if that's the culture there, and you try to change it, you're giving yourself more grief than you need. You're better off just finding a different job.