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What goes around comes around, ex-wife got what she deserved

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Texashiker stuck to his argument because he had to. His wife wasn't living in reality unfortunately.

You can't control other people, alot of people saying you could have done X hoping for Y results in some kind of clever plan just doesn't realize you can't control other people.

He could do anything necessary for his kids to live with him and they can still make up their own mind. I think kids in a divorce tend to stay with their mom just because. If Texas was working and his wife was with the kids all the time its hard to win them over even if they would have a better start at life with Texas because their mom wasn't working much. Then their futures are really dictated by the boyfriend but at 15 or something, they don't know that.
 
My parents got divorced so I know about such things =p

Alot of people are showing how naive they are when it comes to how much control you really have over other people. Which is exactly none. All you can do in a bad situation where everyone disagrees is react.
 
Here is an example of not respecting opinions,

Wife starts giving 4 year old son cups made out of glass to drink from,
I ask wife please do not give the kids glass until they get older,
Couple of days later I get home from work,
Find out wife gave son glass, he dropped it while sitting at the kitchen table,
He leans over to look at broken glass, falls out of chair, lands on glass,
Blood everywhere,
Wife rushes son to emergency room,
Ribs stopped glass from puncturing lung,
Doctors stitch up chest,
Son has scar several inches long on chest for rest of life.

I am like, what the hell are you thinking?
 
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sjwaste said:
Uh, what you described already qualifies as "real bad" to pretty much anyone. Go get custody of your kids and do the parenting.
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sjwaste is right.


You're letting your kids live with an alcoholic and woman who sounds like she doesn't contribute much good to society.

Rescue those children.
 
preslove said:
Look up threads made by TexasHiker and you'll understand why everyone shits on him. I'm sure the response would be a whole lot different if it was a different OP...
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Oh, I've seen my share of the OP's postings here at ATOT! He and I seldom (if ever) come down on the same side of any issue. :\

Still, I suggest that few of us present a very complete picture of ourselves through our ATOT postings (at least I certainly hope not! 😀). IMHO we shouldn't automatically "shit" on an OP when a serious topic is being discussed just because of his/her posts in other threads.

My two cents...
 
oldsmoboat said:
Why is divorce so expensive?
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most of the time those with nothing much end up hiring the divorce law stars in their areas.

When I divorced, my wife hired a big time guy. She ended up getting a worse deal than I offered to just walk away, plus she was stuck with her attorney costs.

I just represented myself.

She forced selling our marital property to a relative at a loss...nothing I could really do. That was a $40k hit just in that...

Felt good to be able to start over.
 
oldsmoboat said:
Why is divorce so expensive?
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LOL, because lawyers want nice homes.

In a lot of cases the parents fight over the kids. In my case, I just wanted visitation, I wanted to disrupt the kids lives as little as possible.

People fight over retirement plans, the house, property.

In my case, my exwife would not agree to anything. She would not even talk about dividing up the property, such as the furniture. We had to go to court every couple of months because she refused to talk to her attorney about the property.

All of this could have been resolved through the lawyers. But instead of being an adult about it, she wanted to throw a fit.

The courts have better things to do with their time, such as murder and rape cases. These little civil dispute waste the lawyers and courts time.


Stifko said:
because it is worth every penny.

congrats to the OP. I know the news about your ex brings you some solace and feelings of vindication.
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Thank you.

As long as I lived with her, I would have lived a life full of debt and misery.
 
Texashiker said:
LOL, because lawyers want nice homes.

In a lot of cases the parents fight over the kids. In my case, I just wanted visitation, I wanted to disrupt the kids lives as little as possible.

People fight over retirement plans, the house, property.

In my case, my exwife would not agree to anything. She would not even talk about dividing up the property, such as the furniture. We had to go to court every couple of months because she refused to talk to her attorney about the property.

All of this could have been resolved through the lawyers. But instead of being an adult about it, she wanted to throw a fit.

The courts have better things to do with their time, such as murder and rape cases. These little civil dispute waste the lawyers and courts time.




Thank you.

As long as I lived with her, I would have lived a life full of debt and misery.
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Couldn't have said it better myself. Curious I didn't find this thread until now. If you've been in L&R you will see my thread on the awful divorce I've been going through with a similar crazy ex.

Luckily I didn't have kids.

My divorce is expensive as hell because she insists on fighting over every little tiny detail. Moreover, she is making it even more expensive by filing a civil lawsuit against me.

People going through divorces get really really crazy. Any bad traits they had before seemingly get multiplied 10 times overs. My ex like the OP was a very controlling, jealous, toxic, not wanting to settle on anything sort of person. I'll spare all the gory details. Needless to say in my case what goes around comes around as well. Her business was damaged by a fire beyond repair so she lost her business. And I stood there watching as her business filled with smoke. Felt kinda good. And no I didn't start it, was electrical short.

Anyways, to the OP glad you have found happiness with someone else. Gives me hope for the future
 
My Brother is married to a woman that sounds a quite a lot like your ex. The only difference is she hasn't changed after they got married or had kids...she was like that before hand. She's been violent towards him a few times and he's actually scared of her. Why he ever married her in the first place is completely beyond my comprehension. He just says you can't help who you love. She even cheated on him and a friend told me so I had to tell him and he still married her.

Like a few other people said before... you cannot control what other people do.

I hope your kids are OK... How old where the kids when you divorced? Could you not have got them out years ago?
 
Maybe you should take custody while that guy cleans up his act. Don't want your kids to be in the car while he's intoxicated. I had to go to dui court a couple of times as a witness. At least half the cases were repeat offenders.
 
Dude, move on. It's a hollow victory. If you want a real victory, become really successful and happy in your life.
 
TraumaRN said:
Luckily I didn't have kids.

My divorce is expensive as hell because she insists on fighting over every little tiny detail. Moreover, she is making it even more expensive by filing a civil lawsuit against me.

People going through divorces get really really crazy. Any bad traits they had before seemingly get multiplied 10 times overs. My ex like the OP was a very controlling, jealous, toxic, not wanting to settle on anything sort of person.

Anyways, to the OP glad you have found happiness with someone else. Gives me hope for the future
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My ex is also a control freak and having a child makes it much more complicated. We were married for only 8 months and after 3 years and 2 months of litigation, the divorce still isn't finalized. She has fired 4 attnys, 2 of which were free and court appointed. She insisted on being pro se. meanwhile I have given my lawyer a huge amount of money in legal fees. She was writing a memo a day to gov't agencies, including but not limited to the FBI, the office of the president of the USA, child protection svcs, NY State dept of State, various judicial disciplinary bureaus, the DA's office in 2 boroughs and 2 states, the governor's office in NY and NJ. All these memos had to be read and responded to. All of these memos were frivolous and baseless. She even went after our former marriage counselor. It is finally winding down now hopefully, but this thread gives me some hope. Maybe what comes around will go around for her too.
 
Stifko said:
My ex is also a control freak and having a child makes it much more complicated. We were married for only 8 months and after 3 years and 2 months of litigation, the divorce still isn't finalized. She has fired 4 attnys, 2 of which were free and court appointed. She insisted on being pro se. meanwhile I have given my lawyer a huge amount of money in legal fees. She was writing a memo a day to gov't agencies, including but not limited to the FBI, the office of the president of the USA, child protection svcs, NY State dept of State, various judicial disciplinary bureaus, the DA's office in 2 boroughs and 2 states, the governor's office in NY and NJ. All these memos had to be read and responded to. All of these memos were frivolous and baseless. She even went after our former marriage counselor. It is finally winding down now hopefully, but this thread gives me some hope. Maybe what comes around will go around for her too.
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That is pretty sad.

My exwife wrote a letter to the attorney general complaining about the judge, and how her and the kids were going to be thrown out on the street.

She refused to pay me for my half house of the house, so the judge ordered her to move out, the house to be sold and for us to split the money.

When the judge ordered the house to be sold, that is when she started writing sob stories to everyone should could think of.

The only reason why she and the kids had to move out was because she refused to agree to division of the property.

She was crying "what about the kids",,, well, she was the one that made them move out of the house.
 
Texashiker said:
When the judge ordered the house to be sold, that is when she started writing sob stories to everyone should could think of.

The only reason why she and the kids had to move out was because she refused to agree to division of the property.

She was crying "what about the kids",,, well, she was the one that made them move out of the house.
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Wow she is getting her just desserts now eh? Too bad if she loses the house but she refused to divide the property.

My wife is claiming poverty too. She is calling me the moneyed spouse which she might regret saying later. In NY the mother usually gets custody thought. I am a long shot at best. I will fight for my son until the end.
 
Texashiker said:
Here is an example of not respecting opinions,

Wife starts giving 4 year old son cups made out of glass to drink from,
I ask wife please do not give the kids glass until they get older,
Couple of days later I get home from work,
Find out wife gave son glass, he dropped it while sitting at the kitchen table,
He leans over to look at broken glass, falls out of chair, lands on glass,
Blood everywhere,
Wife rushes son to emergency room,
Ribs stopped glass from puncturing lung,
Doctors stitch up chest,
Son has scar several inches long on chest for rest of life.

I am like, what the hell are you thinking?
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That is horrible! I hope that is the worst thing she have caused damaged to your two kids, besides them possibly mimicking her behavior as adults.
 
All I have to say is holy shit @ divorce. How do government agencies respond to these batshit crazy memo's? Its really typical too. Its not surprising, but WOW...
 
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