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What goes around comes around, ex-wife got what she deserved

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Hugo Drax said:
Curious what made you marry the wise and beautiful woman?

I never understood how people marry someone like that. Its not like they do not give off warning signs. Yeah maybe she can suck the chrome off a bumper, but still. Curious to how you picked such a dud for a wife and to be the mother of your children.
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People change over time. She was not like that when we met.

I honestly think she developed some kind of mental illness (dont blame that on me) as she got older.

Maybe her life was not turning out like what she wanted?


Pr0d1gy said:
Have you been paying child support all this time Texas? Not judging you either way, just curious.
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Yes, paying child support, paying for medical insurance, paying my half of the medical bills, getting the kids when I am supposed to, taking them camping, hiking, fishing,,,.

My kids have their own steam accounts that we play games on. My daughter and I played several games of left 4 dead over the lan.

In fact, my daughter (she is 16) and I talked on the phone last night.
 
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Texashiker said:
My daughter is 16, she can move out of her moms house at 17.

I should go spend at least $10k or $15k for only a few months?

The ex-wife and the kids live in houston, it could take at least 6 months to even get a court date.

Sorry, but I am not going to drive myself into debt.




You know you enjoy my threads and post.
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If you need help at all, the 16 year old can stay at my place. :awe:
 
lxskllr said:
In America, the woman has to be found with needle hanging from her arm, and her meth lab going out of control while she's nodding off, to lose custody of children.
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I disagree from my experiences. It usually stems from the guy being financially unstable.
 
alkemyst said:
yet the judge gave her custody?
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lxskllr said:
In America, the woman has to be found with needle hanging from her arm, and her meth lab going out of control while she's nodding off, to lose custody of children.
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Pretty much what lxskllr said.


alkemyst said:
I disagree from my experiences. It usually stems from the guy being financially unstable.
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Texas law says the children go to whichever parent they have spent the most time with.

The goal is to disrupt the children as much as possible.
 
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I suppose an argument can be made that the OP effectively "asked for it" by posting this in ATOT and continuing to participate in the thread (not something all OP's do). Even so, some of the responses seem to me to be far more judgmental then warranted based on the information available. As OP has said several times, there's plenty of blame to go around in any divorce.

Perhaps those who haven't been married should take this as a cautionary tale. No matter how much you think you know about your partner, you'll learn a lot more once you're married. It's also very true that both parties will change over time and that those changes frequently push them apart rather than pull them together. The bottom line: choose carefully and pray for luck!

My two cents...
 
So, YOUR children are in an environment which you've described as bad, if not dangerous, yet you won't do ANYTHING to help the situation, except bitch about it on ATOT, because you might incur a little bit of debt because of it?!

I'm sorry. First of all, it wouldn't cost $15k to try to get custody of your children. Second of all, if you truly believe that living with you would be a better environment for your children, then I can't imagine any loving parent not willing to take on minor amount of debt for the well-being of their children.
 
DrPizza said:
So, YOUR children are in an environment which you've described as bad, if not dangerous, yet you won't do ANYTHING to help the situation, except bitch about it on ATOT, because you might incur a little bit of debt because of it?!

I'm sorry. First of all, it wouldn't cost $15k to try to get custody of your children. Second of all, if you truly believe that living with you would be a better environment for your children, then I can't imagine any loving parent not willing to take on minor amount of debt for the well-being of their children.
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/this
 
DrPizza said:
So, YOUR children are in an environment which you've described as bad, if not dangerous, yet you won't do ANYTHING to help the situation, except bitch about it on ATOT, because you might incur a little bit of debt because of it?!

I'm sorry. First of all, it wouldn't cost $15k to try to get custody of your children. Second of all, if you truly believe that living with you would be a better environment for your children, then I can't imagine any loving parent not willing to take on minor amount of debt for the well-being of their children.
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Try more like $20k, exwife and kids live in Houston. By the time we go to court my daughter will probably be 17 and can move out on her own free will.

My son is 18 years old, there is nothing I can do about where he lives.

Talked with the exwife for about an hour yesterday, she is supposed to be finding a house, moving out and filing for divorce.

What am I supposed to do, fork out some major coin, only to let the case sit in the courts for 6+ months, then have my daughter say she wants to stay in houston?

The police have been out to the home several times. If the police let the children stay in the home, what makes you think I can win a court case?

Houston (harris county) courts are backlogged for months. The last time I went for a child support review, which was in 2011, I was served with papers 6 months before the actual court date.

Its easy to sit there and point the finger, but we are not talking abut 4 or 5 year old kids. The only one that could try to get custody of my is 16 year old daughter.

As much as I hate the situation they are in, there is not much I can do.

My son and the stepdad got into a fight about 8 - 10 months ago. My son moved in with me and my wife for about 6 months, turned 18, wanted to go back to his moms.
 
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Texashiker said:
Try more like $20k, exwife and kids live in Houston. By the time we go to court my daughter will probably be 17 and can move out on her own free will.

My son is 18 years old, there is nothing I can do about where he lives.

Talked with the exwife for about an hour yesterday, she is supposed to be finding a house, moving out and filing for divorce.

What am I supposed to do, fork out some major coin, only to let the case sit in the courts for 6+ months, then have my daughter say she wants to stay in houston?

The police have been out to the home several times. If the police let the children stay in the home, what makes you think I can win a court case?

Houston (harris county) courts are backlogged for months. The last time I went for a child support review, which was in 2011, I was served with papers 6 months before the actual court date.

Its easy to sit there and point the finger, but we are not talking abut 4 or 5 year old kids. The only one that could try to get custody of my is 16 year old daughter.

As much as I hate the situation they are in, there is not much I can do.

My son and the stepdad got into a fight about 8 - 10 months ago. My son moved in with me and my wife for about 6 months, turned 18, wanted to go back to his moms.
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I feel for you, that is a hard situation to deal with. Does it bother you that your son left and went back to your mom?

Don' let all the judgmental people here bother you. You could give them money and they will still complain about your actions.
 
JimKiler said:
I feel for you, that is a hard situation to deal with. Does it bother you that your son left and went back to your mom?
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Yes, it bothered me a great deal. But there was nothing I could do.


JimKiler said:
Don' let all the judgmental people here bother you. You could give them money and they will still complain about your actions.
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Its easy for people to sit back and point fingers.

I am not going into debt for something I will probably lose anyway. My daughter is 16 years old, as long as she is not being abused or neglected, no judge is going to remove her from the home.

I live 3 hours from my exwife. Moving my daughter would mean a new school, losing all of her friends,,,, it would devastate her.

Then add the emotional strain off seeing her parents fighting over her. The children were traumatized enough with a 2 year long divorce.

Sometimes things are best left alone, so that they can work themselves out in the end.
 
Texashiker said:
Try more like $20k, exwife and kids live in Houston. By the time we go to court my daughter will probably be 17 and can move out on her own free will.

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i doubt VERY VERY much its anywhere near 10k hell i would be shocked if its a grand.

the kids are OLD enough that all the judge is going to do is ask them if they feel safe where they are and IF they want to move in with you.

they have 99% of the say. not you or the wife.
 
Texashiker said:
If she would have respected the opinion of her husband, maybe none of the divorce would have never happened.
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Dude, we've all seen your opinions. They are usually pretty retarded. Aren't you the same guy who compared saving someones pictures off of their PUBLIC facebook page to essentially be the same as stealing a parked car? I think you said the same line about 5 different times in the same thread.
 
PowerEngineer said:
I suppose an argument can be made that the OP effectively "asked for it" by posting this in ATOT and continuing to participate in the thread (not something all OP's do). Even so, some of the responses seem to me to be far more judgmental then warranted based on the information available. As OP has said several times, there's plenty of blame to go around in any divorce.

Perhaps those who haven't been married should take this as a cautionary tale. No matter how much you think you know about your partner, you'll learn a lot more once you're married. It's also very true that both parties will change over time and that those changes frequently push them apart rather than pull them together. The bottom line: choose carefully and pray for luck!

My two cents...
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Look up threads made by TexasHiker and you'll understand why everyone shits on him. I'm sure the response would be a whole lot different if it was a different OP...
 
PimpJuice said:
Dude, we've all seen your opinions. They are usually pretty retarded.
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Have you seen some of my post on credit cards?

While we were married, my exwife ran the family into around $35,000 in credit card debt.

I asked her to please stop with the credit cards. We talked about the credit card issue over and over and over until I was tired of talking.

We got the debt turned over to credit counseling agency, got a lot of the interest dropped, and we were able to get the cards paid off.

What does she do? She starts with the credit cards "again".

This was the same time she filed for welfare and social assistance.

Holy crap? Really? Not only was she driving our family into massive debt, now we were going to have to hire an attorney to defend her for something she should have never done to start with.

Sometimes you reach a point in your life where you say you are not going to tolerate certain behavior. That is the point I reached.

After she maxed out the credit cards in her name and her social security number, she started applying for cards in my name and my social security number.

When I moved out, she started forwarding the credit card bills to my address, bills I did not even know existed, under credit cards I did not even know existed. It took me years to pay off the debt that I did not even know existed.
 
Texashiker said:
During our divorce close to a decade ago, my ex-wife did everything she could to drive me into financial ruin. The divorce lasted over 2 years, she would not agree to "anything". Everything, and I mean everything had to be decided by a judge. She would not even agree to divide up the property. Over the course of those 2 years she went through 3 attorneys. One attorney asked her to stop acting so bitter.

Fast forward a decade, her new husband was drinking and driving, and ran into a house.

Now they are going to have to hire an attorney for the DWI charges.

Their house is close to foreclosure, massive debt because the new husband drinks in excess and has lost several jobs.

The new husband refuses to sell their house, but would rather it be foreclosed, which would cost them years of equity.

During all of this, she still refuses to get a job. While we were together, she refused to work or go to college. Now, she is talking about getting a job.

What goes around comes around. Be careful what you wish on other people, because it might just come around to you.
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Yea stuff like this is just waiting to happen depending on the person.
 
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