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I'm sick and tired of hearing about "being a man."
I want to post this to open a serious discussion about what is means to be a "real man."
I'll post what I think.
Many of you on these forums often harp on about having a "man card," but many of you imply many of the things you claim a "man" should enjoy or like are really things that myself and many others would consider childish. For example, I see grown, upper middle class men with probable decent jobs walking around in football jerseys and gym shorts as their weekend apparel. Is this how a real "man" would dress?
I disagree with that definition of a "man."
I think the modern man has evolved into this sort of "man child." Let me break it down into several points.
1. Dress: The modern man has evolved little in the way they dress from the time they were teenagers or kids. A trip to any suburban mall or restaurant on the weekend will indicate this.
Doesn't a "real man" dress like one? I bet many here are dressing similar or other fashion that is more for a 12 year old. How many times have you seen the "athletic deparment shirt" with shorts and a backwards hat on nearly every husky looking 28 year old? Do these people never grow up?
2. Cars: The modern man's car is vain. This trend started in the 1960s with muscle cars. Loud cars with lots of chrome with little engineering quality or technology, but with large engines and high acceleration times. The modern man doesn't car about looking classy or staying under the radar. Instead of enjoying the satisfaction of personally knowing the importance of your car, the modern man's desire is to draw as much attention as possible to their life sized HotWheels project.
The evolution of the modern pick up truck is a perfect example. Compare truck sales or compact trucks to full sized trucks today. The modern pickup truck is so tall and imposing, one would wonder how you could even load into the back of it given many of them have a nearly 4 foot ground clearance from the tail gate! A generation ago, trucks were built for work, and they were respectable. The modern day truck is an extension of the childhood fantasy of owning a "monster truck." It's not what is used to be, a tool for work.
3. Houses: The modern man has no sense of style or design. Modern houses are cookie cutter houses in cookie cutter neighborhoods often throw together with plywood, asphalt shingles, and "fantasy like" landscaping, often making the house look like something out of a design book, with no character or personal touches.
If you drive through older well off neighborhoods, you see custom designed houses of many different styles. Cape Cod, New England, Tudor, and other styles. The modern house is vain, often with cheaply made aesthetic features used to mimic grand styles, like wood pillars (to resemble stone ones). Interior, it's no different. Cheaply built furniture probably made in China and large flat screen TVs everywhere. Very few modern houses have proper offices or libraries and when they do it's usually just a "computer room" posing as an office. A office or library is a place where business gets done and intellectual pursuits are achieved.
4 Travel: The modern man is a "vacation coward." It wasn't until the last 50 years did "package vacations" arrive to the market. Before then, "men" traveled like men. And I will say, real men don't need travel agents. Rarely does it come across that a modern man is traveling to somewhere besides your common tourist trap or vacation resort.
I could go on about the personality of modern men, and even how to revel in their childishness and flaunt it, but I won't.
I will define very briefly what a "real man" should be.
I think a real man appreciates a woman for more than a piece of meat, but is attracted to their person and their style, not just the size of their chest.
Real men read books and educate themselves, not just "Maxim" or some other childish nonsense. Information and intellect are the keys to power and wealth. No one ever achieved anything in their life reading some boob magazine. Real men read poetry and classic literature. This is how it was done generations ago by real men.
Real men dress the part, with style. Proper shoes, not pair of Nikes they got on sale at Cosco. Proper shirt, collared or sweaters, made with quality. Proper suits, made by a tailor or top designer, not something you got at Men's Warehouse.
Real men don't have "small penis" syndrome when it comes to vehicles. Drive a car with understated elegance and that serves it's purpose. A sports car should be exotic, sexy, and polite yet perform when needed. And don't mix cars, this "sports sedan" crap has got to go. If you need a sedan, buy a real sedan, don't be a poser and buy a sedan marketed like a sports car because you think you're Mario Andretti on the way to work in the burbs.
Real men...well I'm tired, you get my point.
I respect everyone's opinions, but I had to get this off my chest. I'm sick of tired of seeing grown ass men act, dress, behave, and treat women like a 14 year old would. Give me your thoughts on my post and what you think a "real man" is, but I will say, there are few "real men" left.
I'd also like to link to one of my favorite poems that I think describes a "real man."
http://www.poetryfoundation.org/archive/poem.html?id=175772
I want to post this to open a serious discussion about what is means to be a "real man."
I'll post what I think.
Many of you on these forums often harp on about having a "man card," but many of you imply many of the things you claim a "man" should enjoy or like are really things that myself and many others would consider childish. For example, I see grown, upper middle class men with probable decent jobs walking around in football jerseys and gym shorts as their weekend apparel. Is this how a real "man" would dress?
I disagree with that definition of a "man."
I think the modern man has evolved into this sort of "man child." Let me break it down into several points.
1. Dress: The modern man has evolved little in the way they dress from the time they were teenagers or kids. A trip to any suburban mall or restaurant on the weekend will indicate this.
Doesn't a "real man" dress like one? I bet many here are dressing similar or other fashion that is more for a 12 year old. How many times have you seen the "athletic deparment shirt" with shorts and a backwards hat on nearly every husky looking 28 year old? Do these people never grow up?
2. Cars: The modern man's car is vain. This trend started in the 1960s with muscle cars. Loud cars with lots of chrome with little engineering quality or technology, but with large engines and high acceleration times. The modern man doesn't car about looking classy or staying under the radar. Instead of enjoying the satisfaction of personally knowing the importance of your car, the modern man's desire is to draw as much attention as possible to their life sized HotWheels project.
The evolution of the modern pick up truck is a perfect example. Compare truck sales or compact trucks to full sized trucks today. The modern pickup truck is so tall and imposing, one would wonder how you could even load into the back of it given many of them have a nearly 4 foot ground clearance from the tail gate! A generation ago, trucks were built for work, and they were respectable. The modern day truck is an extension of the childhood fantasy of owning a "monster truck." It's not what is used to be, a tool for work.
3. Houses: The modern man has no sense of style or design. Modern houses are cookie cutter houses in cookie cutter neighborhoods often throw together with plywood, asphalt shingles, and "fantasy like" landscaping, often making the house look like something out of a design book, with no character or personal touches.
If you drive through older well off neighborhoods, you see custom designed houses of many different styles. Cape Cod, New England, Tudor, and other styles. The modern house is vain, often with cheaply made aesthetic features used to mimic grand styles, like wood pillars (to resemble stone ones). Interior, it's no different. Cheaply built furniture probably made in China and large flat screen TVs everywhere. Very few modern houses have proper offices or libraries and when they do it's usually just a "computer room" posing as an office. A office or library is a place where business gets done and intellectual pursuits are achieved.
4 Travel: The modern man is a "vacation coward." It wasn't until the last 50 years did "package vacations" arrive to the market. Before then, "men" traveled like men. And I will say, real men don't need travel agents. Rarely does it come across that a modern man is traveling to somewhere besides your common tourist trap or vacation resort.
I could go on about the personality of modern men, and even how to revel in their childishness and flaunt it, but I won't.
I will define very briefly what a "real man" should be.
I think a real man appreciates a woman for more than a piece of meat, but is attracted to their person and their style, not just the size of their chest.
Real men read books and educate themselves, not just "Maxim" or some other childish nonsense. Information and intellect are the keys to power and wealth. No one ever achieved anything in their life reading some boob magazine. Real men read poetry and classic literature. This is how it was done generations ago by real men.
Real men dress the part, with style. Proper shoes, not pair of Nikes they got on sale at Cosco. Proper shirt, collared or sweaters, made with quality. Proper suits, made by a tailor or top designer, not something you got at Men's Warehouse.
Real men don't have "small penis" syndrome when it comes to vehicles. Drive a car with understated elegance and that serves it's purpose. A sports car should be exotic, sexy, and polite yet perform when needed. And don't mix cars, this "sports sedan" crap has got to go. If you need a sedan, buy a real sedan, don't be a poser and buy a sedan marketed like a sports car because you think you're Mario Andretti on the way to work in the burbs.
Real men...well I'm tired, you get my point.
I respect everyone's opinions, but I had to get this off my chest. I'm sick of tired of seeing grown ass men act, dress, behave, and treat women like a 14 year old would. Give me your thoughts on my post and what you think a "real man" is, but I will say, there are few "real men" left.
I'd also like to link to one of my favorite poems that I think describes a "real man."
http://www.poetryfoundation.org/archive/poem.html?id=175772
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