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zippy

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Originally posted by: Sleestak
I'm on vacation this week, kicking, relaxing, just enjoying life. Well a friend of mine comes over and we're talking about what we got for Christmas. She shows me a necklace her boyfriend of 7 months got her for Christmas. It's a nice white gold thing with several small sapphires, her birthstone, and one large sapphire. As she is showing it to me she says "Now that I have this thing I can break up with <boyfriends name>" I ask her if she's kidding and she says "No, I've been planning on doing it for a couple of months now. I knew he got me this for Christmas so I stuck with him so I could get it." Well anyway she's planning on dumping him after New Years. Why after New Years? Because she is going to some badass exclusive party at one of the country clubs here with him. I'm appalled. I would expect this from some teeny bopper or college bitch, but this girl is 33. I'm tempted to call her boyfriend and warn him even though I've only met him a few times and I've known her since high school. I never thought she was this way. What a bitch!!!
Do him a favor, tell the dude. What a ho.
 

EXman

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I've decided to call her and tell her she has a couple of choices.

A. I call her BF and let him know what is going on

B. She calls him, while I'm there to witness it, and breaks it off with him and offers to give the necklace back.

C. I stay out of it but she loses my frienship and will never speak to me again.


I feel like I'm living in the middle of a Soap Opera. Maybe I should bleach my hair blonde, change my name to Tad, and start drinking Zima.

.


that last part has me Rollin!
 

ohtwell

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Originally posted by: Sleestak
Well I just got back from meeting them both for a necklace exchange. I had finally gotten in touch with her over the phone and had given her the choices I listed earlier She said she would call him and talk to him while I was there so I went over to her place. She called him, broke things off, and they agreed to meet so she could give him back the necklace. He told her to keep it but I think I put such a guilt trip on her that she knew she had to return it in order to do the right thing. We all met at a nearby coffee shop, they talked for a bit and then she gave him the necklace back and we left. She cried as soon as we got back into the car and told me she knew she was being a bitch but that she was just so tired of never getting anything out of relationships that she felt like she deserved a few gifts. We talked for a while and I tried to explain to her that getting material possessions don't make a relationship a good one. She says she knows that, but just keeps getting screwed over anyway so why shouldn't she get something good out of it. I told her that's not the attitude to have and that she needed to change her mindset if she was ever going to be happy. I left her place, stopped and picked up some beer, and then came home. When I got here there was a message on my machine from the ex BF telling me thanks for making her tell him the truth, and a message from her telling me she was sorry for acting like a slut and that she hoped we could still be friends. I'm not exactly happy with her, but at least in the end she did the right thing.
I'm glad that you got her to do the right thing. I'm also glad that she isn't mad at you for telling her that what she was doing wasn't right. I feel bad for her if she really feels that way about relationships. She sounds like she's been screwed over and neglected a few times. Hopefully she will get out of that mindset soon.


: ) Amanda
 

Sleestak

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Originally posted by: Eli
I didn't read through the whole thread. but.. mann..

I am glad my girlfriend isn't like that. :Q It seems there are less and less genuine people in the world...

What ever happened to love and romance, anyway?

:frown:

Love and romance were seized in a hostile takeover by the Disney Corporation.

 

Spagina

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Originally posted by: Sleestak
Well I just got back from meeting them both for a necklace exchange. I had finally gotten in touch with her over the phone and had given her the choices I listed earlier She said she would call him and talk to him while I was there so I went over to her place. She called him, broke things off, and they agreed to meet so she could give him back the necklace. He told her to keep it but I think I put such a guilt trip on her that she knew she had to return it in order to do the right thing. We all met at a nearby coffee shop, they talked for a bit and then she gave him the necklace back and we left. She cried as soon as we got back into the car and told me she knew she was being a bitch but that she was just so tired of never getting anything out of relationships that she felt like she deserved a few gifts. We talked for a while and I tried to explain to her that getting material possessions don't make a relationship a good one. She says she knows that, but just keeps getting screwed over anyway so why shouldn't she get something good out of it. I told her that's not the attitude to have and that she needed to change her mindset if she was ever going to be happy. I left her place, stopped and picked up some beer, and then came home. When I got here there was a message on my machine from the ex BF telling me thanks for making her tell him the truth, and a message from her telling me she was sorry for acting like a slut and that she hoped we could still be friends. I'm not exactly happy with her, but at least in the end she did the right thing.

Honestly, great job. Reading this thread reduced my faith in a lot of people, but it looks like she came off track you set her on straight again. Now keep helping her out and hopefully she'll gain a healthier perspective of relationships from this. Again, nice job.
 

Yossarian

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Now you should see if you can get a friendship going with the ex-BF, maybe he'll invite you to the cool club parties and throw some cash your way :)

Seriously, good job! You sound like a good friend.
 

OutHouse

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When I pressed her on why she doesn't like him anymore all she could say is "I don't know, I just don't feel anything now."

Translation: The lust wore off.



Dude im happy to hear you stepped in and shown her the light. She will feel much better about herself, and you didnt loose a friend. Good Job.
 

zippy

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Originally posted by: Sleestak
Well I just got back from meeting them both for a necklace exchange. I had finally gotten in touch with her over the phone and had given her the choices I listed earlier She said she would call him and talk to him while I was there so I went over to her place. She called him, broke things off, and they agreed to meet so she could give him back the necklace. He told her to keep it but I think I put such a guilt trip on her that she knew she had to return it in order to do the right thing. We all met at a nearby coffee shop, they talked for a bit and then she gave him the necklace back and we left. She cried as soon as we got back into the car and told me she knew she was being a bitch but that she was just so tired of never getting anything out of relationships that she felt like she deserved a few gifts. We talked for a while and I tried to explain to her that getting material possessions don't make a relationship a good one. She says she knows that, but just keeps getting screwed over anyway so why shouldn't she get something good out of it. I told her that's not the attitude to have and that she needed to change her mindset if she was ever going to be happy. I left her place, stopped and picked up some beer, and then came home. When I got here there was a message on my machine from the ex BF telling me thanks for making her tell him the truth, and a message from her telling me she was sorry for acting like a slut and that she hoped we could still be friends. I'm not exactly happy with her, but at least in the end she did the right thing.
Good job! :) You done good sir.
 
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Originally posted by: zippy
Originally posted by: Sleestak
Well I just got back from meeting them both for a necklace exchange. I had finally gotten in touch with her over the phone and had given her the choices I listed earlier She said she would call him and talk to him while I was there so I went over to her place. She called him, broke things off, and they agreed to meet so she could give him back the necklace. He told her to keep it but I think I put such a guilt trip on her that she knew she had to return it in order to do the right thing. We all met at a nearby coffee shop, they talked for a bit and then she gave him the necklace back and we left. She cried as soon as we got back into the car and told me she knew she was being a bitch but that she was just so tired of never getting anything out of relationships that she felt like she deserved a few gifts. We talked for a while and I tried to explain to her that getting material possessions don't make a relationship a good one. She says she knows that, but just keeps getting screwed over anyway so why shouldn't she get something good out of it. I told her that's not the attitude to have and that she needed to change her mindset if she was ever going to be happy. I left her place, stopped and picked up some beer, and then came home. When I got here there was a message on my machine from the ex BF telling me thanks for making her tell him the truth, and a message from her telling me she was sorry for acting like a slut and that she hoped we could still be friends. I'm not exactly happy with her, but at least in the end she did the right thing.
Good job! :) You done good sir.


Good job dude. She sounds decent and like she has had quite a few problems in her life :(
 

Wadesan

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This may sound a bit like a corporate morale poster, but....

Not too many ppl have courage in this world to stand up for what's right. What you did was admirable and respectable -- the traits of what a true leader should be. Im going to reference this thread to the Troops in my shop to let them know what the meaning of real life courage is and how to face your fears in a moment of adversity (sp?). You did the right thing and did it the right way. I wish we had more people in the Air Force with this kind of integrity. Respect.

SrA Patterson, USAF
 

troglodytis

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Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: Sleestak
Well I just got back from meeting them both for a necklace exchange. I had finally gotten in touch with her over the phone and had given her the choices I listed earlier She said she would call him and talk to him while I was there so I went over to her place. She called him, broke things off, and they agreed to meet so she could give him back the necklace. He told her to keep it but I think I put such a guilt trip on her that she knew she had to return it in order to do the right thing. We all met at a nearby coffee shop, they talked for a bit and then she gave him the necklace back and we left. She cried as soon as we got back into the car and told me she knew she was being a bitch but that she was just so tired of never getting anything out of relationships that she felt like she deserved a few gifts. We talked for a while and I tried to explain to her that getting material possessions don't make a relationship a good one. She says she knows that, but just keeps getting screwed over anyway so why shouldn't she get something good out of it. I told her that's not the attitude to have and that she needed to change her mindset if she was ever going to be happy. I left her place, stopped and picked up some beer, and then came home. When I got here there was a message on my machine from the ex BF telling me thanks for making her tell him the truth, and a message from her telling me she was sorry for acting like a slut and that she hoped we could still be friends. I'm not exactly happy with her, but at least in the end she did the right thing.


Honestly this thread should be placed into the Internet hall of fame as perhaps the only time when being the nice guy and doing the right thing didn't backfire in some horribly unanticipated way.

go go nerd power.

there is still plenty of timefor this to backfire.

 

LeStEr

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Originally posted by: SaltBoy
Seriously, call the boyfriend and tell him. No man deserves to be treated like that.... :disgust::disgust::disgust:

Regardless of how good of a friend she is to you , you need to either call the BF or talk to your friend. Bitch indeed.

 

HiTek21

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Its happened to me. Got my gf (ex now) a nice Tiffany & Co bracelet (not to meantion other things), couple of weeks later its over. If I would have known I wouldn't have wasted my money... :disgust::|
 

HannibalX

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That lady is a class A whore/biotch. Conceeded trash.

Big deal so she cracked under pressure from you - that don't mean she would have done it on her own. Easy to make people do things they don't want to. She has ZERO characrer.
 

benliong

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From the moment she told you the story, the friendship had at least been altered in some way in my opinion. Whether you did give her the choices and make her do the right thing would never really change the fact that there's this incident inside your friendship with her. You'd never feel the same about her from now on I'm afraid.

But I think you did really well. The whole situation worked out pretty harmlessly. That ex-boyfriend is pretty cool in that he called and thank you. It did sound like she has more problem inside, maybe that's why she acted the way she did. Sounds like all her previous relationships all ended very badly. Just take care of her and try to guide her away from the "dark side".

--Ben.
 

imported_Papi

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Originally posted by: luvly
I'm almost willing to bet that this guy knows that she doesn't really love him and is in love with the material things. I say, stay out of it. If some guy is willing to shower a high maintenance gf with that much material things, so be it. I won't fault her for exploiting it.

You can try butting in, but you'll become the centre of mockery. A guy who does what he's doing has his own problem and is aware of what she does. He just wants to buy her love. Let it be between them.



 

imported_Papi

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Originally posted by: Sleestak
Well I just got back from meeting them both for a necklace exchange. I had finally gotten in touch with her over the phone and had given her the choices I listed earlier She said she would call him and talk to him while I was there so I went over to her place. She called him, broke things off, and they agreed to meet so she could give him back the necklace. He told her to keep it but I think I put such a guilt trip on her that she knew she had to return it in order to do the right thing. We all met at a nearby coffee shop, they talked for a bit and then she gave him the necklace back and we left. She cried as soon as we got back into the car and told me she knew she was being a bitch but that she was just so tired of never getting anything out of relationships that she felt like she deserved a few gifts. We talked for a while and I tried to explain to her that getting material possessions don't make a relationship a good one. She says she knows that, but just keeps getting screwed over anyway so why shouldn't she get something good out of it. I told her that's not the attitude to have and that she needed to change her mindset if she was ever going to be happy. I left her place, stopped and picked up some beer, and then came home. When I got here there was a message on my machine from the ex BF telling me thanks for making her tell him the truth, and a message from her telling me she was sorry for acting like a slut and that she hoped we could still be friends. I'm not exactly happy with her, but at least in the end she did the right thing.

Way to go dad! You saved the day woohoo!!!

 

Sleestak

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Originally posted by: yayo
Originally posted by: Sleestak
Well I just got back from meeting them both for a necklace exchange. I had finally gotten in touch with her over the phone and had given her the choices I listed earlier She said she would call him and talk to him while I was there so I went over to her place. She called him, broke things off, and they agreed to meet so she could give him back the necklace. He told her to keep it but I think I put such a guilt trip on her that she knew she had to return it in order to do the right thing. We all met at a nearby coffee shop, they talked for a bit and then she gave him the necklace back and we left. She cried as soon as we got back into the car and told me she knew she was being a bitch but that she was just so tired of never getting anything out of relationships that she felt like she deserved a few gifts. We talked for a while and I tried to explain to her that getting material possessions don't make a relationship a good one. She says she knows that, but just keeps getting screwed over anyway so why shouldn't she get something good out of it. I told her that's not the attitude to have and that she needed to change her mindset if she was ever going to be happy. I left her place, stopped and picked up some beer, and then came home. When I got here there was a message on my machine from the ex BF telling me thanks for making her tell him the truth, and a message from her telling me she was sorry for acting like a slut and that she hoped we could still be friends. I'm not exactly happy with her, but at least in the end she did the right thing.

Way to go dad! You saved the day woohoo!!!
Thanks for the sarcasm. Must be nice to go through life not caring about anyone other than yourself.

 

Sleestak

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To those of you who told me I did great, etc.... Thanks. I don't feel that I deserve any praise for just doing what was right, but it is nice to know that there are other people out there that feel the same way I do.
 

NinjaGnome

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Well im glad it all worked out for you. I thought that it would end up that you were gonna look bad at both ends, but the people you were trying to help werent as bad I thought they were.
 

Damage

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Originally posted by: Sleestak
To those of you who told me I did great, etc.... Thanks. I don't feel that I deserve any praise for just doing what was right, but it is nice to know that there are other people out there that feel the same way I do.

Glad it worked out in the end.. Sometimes people need to be reminded of what's right. You did good. (Not well... "Good", as in good .vs evil)
 

Jeffwo

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Wow...I just came back by to see what happened in this scenerio and I must say, you handled this superbly.

Way to go!

Jeff