"We've found a match for you."

[Hayabusa Rider]

I find it interesting that if she decided to abort a dozen of her genetic inheretences, she would be given far more support than if she gives them life.

Go figure.

 

[whaleskinrug]

Originally posted by: BoberFett

Originally posted by: whaleskinrug

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: richardycc
20yrs from now, we will see a thread from Dezign with the title like "remember the egg I donated, she/he wanna meet me, what to do?"



rich

I'd be thrilled to meet him or her, and wouldn't mind being apart of his/her life. However, I believe this couple has opted for an anonymous donation, which I respect.

in all seriousness, what if they are wackjobs? do you get to know anything about who will be raising your genetic child?

Why would she care? It's not her child.

Because it's her genetic material it might still be of concern. Although that wouldn't bother every person, some would still have a sense of commitment to the child's welfare, even if it was "abstract". It might begin to bother her. I've seen that happen with sperm donors (both thosethat have sold their sperm and those that suspect they may have fathered children at some point) as they age.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: geno

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
How can you live with the thought that over a dozen of your children could be walking the earth and you'd have no idea how they were doing or how they'd were being cared for?

Don't forget about the flipside to this, think about the families who can't conceive, donated eggs can be an absolute blessing to a family just dying for a child to love

yes "donated" not sold

 

GeeeeZ! Things like this irritate me like no tomorrow. First off, let me say that I will not concern myself with this particular case that Dezign has posted about. Whatever decision she makes will be her duty to bear the consequences and hers to make.

But on a general note: Please stop this crap about unfortunate couples. Are you going to tell me that this so-called unfortunate couples are going to stay together for the rest of their natural lives? Does anyone remember the story of the two lesbians in Sweden who got a donor? When things went bad for both of them, the court had to decide who will be responsible for child support. Well, guess what! The man whose sperm contributed to the existence of the child became responsible for it. Without consideration of the court's ruling, my point is why treat another human being as an item of commodity? Yes, by nature we're selfish even when we bring children through the natural process into existence, but why act ridiculously inconsiderate and selfish. The whole idea of sperm and egg donor puts a price on the value of a human being.

If you say it is just to help the unfortunate, please tell me exactly who this "unfortunate" people are? Does a working-class or poor person get that "help" many profess to be offering? So only people who are monetarily fortunate are considered unfortunate for being unable to have an offspring of theirs?

Why create this false dilemma? Why must you have an offspring of yours? I mean, it won't even be an offspring of your significant other and you. If you insist on defying nature and having an offspring, then try IVF. If IVF fails you, then deal with what nature has given you. In my opinion, there are reasons in life for the law of nature.

There are millions of kids waiting to be adopted. If you're concerned about the legal system, why not check for orphans whose parents you're sure are no longer there to help the children? I pity mankind that depends upon technology because one day will come when war or natural disaster will destroy the morales and the technology we've so depended upon. We will have to fend on our own using the tools we once used. I wonder who will survive the hardship. I wonder if people would still spitefully say that the law of nature has no relevance.

Boberfett, do you realise the error in your argument? It leads to a paradox. How could you miss the paradox? So if DNA is unimportant, then why do the couples or one of the couples insist on having an offspring of theirs (forget the fact that it won't be an offspring of both)? Is the mere fact that people have money sufficient reason to grant them their requests for donors? In reference to the predicament of the Swedes: Why should the lesbian care? It is not her child. It's great to know that children implicitly are not exactly of equal footing as far their rights as human beings and the pursuit of happiness.

You have just helped validate my belief in this thing called adoption from crying and helpless orphans. I want to thank you.

 

[Miramonti]

Originally posted by: luvly
You have just helped validate my belief in this thing called adoption from crying and helpless orphans. I want to thank you.

I have no problem or disrespect for someone donating an egg, whether for $ or other reasons. She's not selling a baby, only an egg(s).

I have no respect for anyone that would buy sperm/egg without exhausting the adoption possibilities first tho. There is such a need for it and the rewards of it and the ways it can enrich the lives of the parents and children are tremendous. (This is the only issue I have with this subject, that it supports someone who might not have looked to adoption as an alternative.)

Good luck to you.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: luvly
GeeeeZ! Things like this irritate me like no tomorrow. First off, let me say that I will not concern myself with this particular case that Dezign has posted about. Whatever decision she makes will be her duty to bear the consequences and hers to make.

But on a general note: Please stop this crap about unfortunate couples. Are you going to tell me that this so-called unfortunate couples are going to stay together for the rest of their natural lives? Does

whoa! and to think many here thought you died.

have you found a head for all those pics yet or do those depend which 'hat' you are wearing (lawyer, doctor, psychologist, teacher, etc)?

I still don't see how any of the points above justify anything you were trying to say....maybe a couple doesn't have eggs to use IVF, maybe they want at least 1/2 the dna to come from them.....same way with dogs and cats.....nothing wrong with a 7 year old dog technically, but why pick one of those when puppies are available?

One's opinion can not be forced upon others.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: luvly
GeeeeZ! Things like this irritate me like no tomorrow. First off, let me say that I will not concern myself with this particular case that Dezign has posted about. Whatever decision she makes will be her duty to bear the consequences and hers to make.

But on a general note: Please stop this crap about unfortunate couples. Are you going to tell me that this so-called unfortunate couples are going to stay together for the rest of their natural lives? Does anyone remember the story of the two lesbians in Sweden who got a donor? When things went bad for both of them, the court had to decide who will be responsible for child support. Well, guess what! The man whose sperm contributed to the existence of the child became responsible for it. Without consideration of the court's ruling, my point is why treat another human being as an item of commodity? Yes, by nature we're selfish even when we bring children through the natural process into existence, but why act ridiculously inconsiderate and selfish. The whole idea of sperm and egg donor puts a price on the value of a human being.

If you say it is just to help the unfortunate, please tell me exactly who this "unfortunate" people are? Does a working-class or poor person get that "help" many profess to be offering? So only people who are monetarily fortunate are considered unfortunate for being unable to have an offspring of theirs?

Why create this false dilemma? Why must you have an offspring of yours? I mean, it won't even be an offspring of your significant other and you. If you insist on defying nature and having an offspring, then try IVF. If IVF fails you, then deal with what nature has given you. In my opinion, there are reasons in life for the law of nature.

There are millions of kids waiting to be adopted. If you're concerned about the legal system, why not check for orphans whose parents you're sure are no longer there to help the children? I pity mankind that depends upon technology because one day will come when war or natural disaster will destroy the morales and the technology we've so depended upon. We will have to fend on our own using the tools we once used. I wonder who will survive the hardship. I wonder if people would still spitefully say that the law of nature has no relevance.

Boberfett, do you realise the error in your argument? It leads to a paradox. How could you miss the paradox? So if DNA is unimportant, then why do the couples or one of the couples insist on having an offspring of theirs (forget the fact that it won't be an offspring of both)? Is the mere fact that people have money sufficient reason to grant them their requests for donors? In reference to the predicament of the Swedes: Why should the lesbian care? It is not her child. It's great to know that children implicitly are not exactly of equal footing as far their rights as human beings and the pursuit of happiness.

You have just helped validate my belief in this thing called adoption from crying and helpless orphans. I want to thank you.

I for one would want my offspring to be genetically linked to both my wife and I. If one of us was not able to have children then I would want it at least half ours genetically. If invitro were to have failed then yes I would adopt, probably from another country.

I want to thank you for validating my belief that I support everything that you are against 100%.

 

[Booster]

Do the egg laying, pron tickling, and awe hell sure do the prostitution too.......
You could combine the tricks with your Vegas trip!!!!

You're saying like there's anything wrong with it. Open up your eyes, this is life! I wish you best of luck, Dezign!

 

[isaacmacdonald]

I don't really undestand the moral objections people have raised. In a primal sense, getting your genetic material out there is an imperative. Getting paid for it (plus not having to be financially responsible) should be a plus. My girl was seriously considering donating eggs as well (there's a decent demand for asian donors). I had no objection to the concept, but given the arduous (and rather invasive) process, we both decided it wasn't worth doing.

 

[dman]

Interesting. I don't think I could sleep well knowing there's another couple taking care of a little dman or dwoman. OTOH, I respect and appreciate what you are doing. Hope everything goes smoothly for 'ya.

 

[Storm]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: guyver01

Originally posted by: Adul

Originally posted by: guyver01
jesus. are you really that desperate for money?
what's next, prostitution?

that is just wrong

sorry... but she's always complaining she's broke.. poverty... but gotta gamble in vegas every weekend... so instead of working hard, she donates eggs for $10k a pop?

What's the next 'get rich' scheme?

I am working hard (M-F, 9-6) and I am still struggling for money. Welcome to LA. Do you think I'm a lazy bum lying around watching TV all day? Don't be a jerk.

And for those of you who think this is a "get rich" quick scheme, all I have to say is, I understand how you can come to that conclusion given the details of my personal life I've decided to share with AT... but you don't know the entire situation, nor do I care to go into any more detail. This is something I'm doing more for myself and the couple than the money (see above post about how money is only a small consideration), and if I'm the only one who knows that, then fine. Continue making your ASSumptions... so be it.

If anyone's interested, I'll continue posting about the procedure and what I go through/experience so you can be informed/educated about what goes on, and possibly pass the info along to your female friends or infertile couple friends who may be interested in embarking upon such a journey.

Couldn't you see that coming though? I mean you, yourself know how much information you put out there. I would think it would be logical for other people to draw conclusions from only part of the story. Chances are those conclusions are not reflective of the whole story, but since you put that info out there people are gonna have an image of you.

Did the couple you're helping out try adoption? Or whats the story there?

 

[RossMAN]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Millennium
I hate to say it Ivy, but you shouldn't do this at all. First you were going to do the modeling and now you are talking about selling eggs. I don't think it is a reach when some people said that being a prostitute is next.

I wouldn't do something so invasive for cash; I would get a second job and stop going to Vegas...

I think you are being silly about this.

Believe it or not Millenium, the motivation for doing this is not 100% financially related. If it's possible for people to separate different actions from different motives, I would appreciate the stretch. I'm still doing modeling, but that's for me-personally and financially. I respect your decision not to do something so invasive for cash, and I am not doing something this invasive for cash, either. You are entitled to your opinion, but I know that I'm doing this for a loving couple (who will be able to care for this child, at least financially... the entire process for them will cost over $100,000) who would not be able to have a baby any other way.

Call it silly if you'd like, but I genuinely want to help. This is something I've considered doing for awhile (since college, when I did a report on infertile couples), and the opportunity has just recently presented itself for me to help (I've been on a list for some time now). It wasn't a "Hey, I'm poor, I'm going to donate my eggs for money!" deal, it was much deeper and much more significant than that. But I guess people will assume (talk about bad timing, re: the Vegas threads, etc.) whatever they'd like, and I don't blame them. Those who know me and those who trust my judgement will be supportive, and they are the main reason why I am posting--that, and to educate.

I agree with Millennium.

 

[dabuddha]

Originally posted by: RossMAN

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Millennium
I hate to say it Ivy, but you shouldn't do this at all. First you were going to do the modeling and now you are talking about selling eggs. I don't think it is a reach when some people said that being a prostitute is next.

I wouldn't do something so invasive for cash; I would get a second job and stop going to Vegas...

I think you are being silly about this.

Believe it or not Millenium, the motivation for doing this is not 100% financially related. If it's possible for people to separate different actions from different motives, I would appreciate the stretch. I'm still doing modeling, but that's for me-personally and financially. I respect your decision not to do something so invasive for cash, and I am not doing something this invasive for cash, either. You are entitled to your opinion, but I know that I'm doing this for a loving couple (who will be able to care for this child, at least financially... the entire process for them will cost over $100,000) who would not be able to have a baby any other way.

Call it silly if you'd like, but I genuinely want to help. This is something I've considered doing for awhile (since college, when I did a report on infertile couples), and the opportunity has just recently presented itself for me to help (I've been on a list for some time now). It wasn't a "Hey, I'm poor, I'm going to donate my eggs for money!" deal, it was much deeper and much more significant than that. But I guess people will assume (talk about bad timing, re: the Vegas threads, etc.) whatever they'd like, and I don't blame them. Those who know me and those who trust my judgement will be supportive, and they are the main reason why I am posting--that, and to educate.

I agree with Millennium.

I agree with RossMAN.

 

[skace]

Go for it.

The needle comment made me cringe