Went on a date with a 20 year old mother

[loic2003]

Sloppy fifths...


Go for gold, dude.

 

[biggestmuff]

Originally posted by: ballmode
It went ok.

Had lunch at Chili's with her then we went back to school to work on her math.

I graduate this fall, she graduates 2 years from now.

Don't see it working out, but then again... who knows. She has a good head on her shoulders, but has crazy party tendencies. Her parents don't like how she raises the daughter, but I don't know the details. I don't think we have much in common but we get along. Alot of her time is with her baby girl, work, and school. The government pretty much pays about everything for her, being a single college mom. ...

Then leave! No, RUN!

 

[Rogeee]

So ATOT, what does Ballmode do from here?

This will save your soul

 

[gwrober]

Originally posted by: b0mbrman

Originally posted by: Merlyn3D
What's the story with her having a kid?

Uh...this is a little awkward but...

When two people love each other very much, they share a special kind of "hug," called "f***ing"...and nine months later, she has a kid

LOL!

 

[Excelsior]

Originally posted by: gwrober

Originally posted by: b0mbrman

Originally posted by: Merlyn3D
What's the story with her having a kid?

Uh...this is a little awkward but...

When two people love each other very much, they share a special kind of "hug," called "f***ing"...and nine months later, she has a kid

LOL!

:laugh:

 

[HardcoreRobot]

thats trouble, stay away

 

[Triforceofcourage]

Run!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[leftyman]

seems like your not too impressed by her, so why are you asking?

 

[Double Trouble]

My first thouht in these kinds of situations is "run, run fast, don't look back". There are certain times when something like this could conceivably work out, but this is not one of them. She's obviously been irresponsible, and there's no indication she's figured that out and corrected her ways. Some people grow up when they have a kid, she just had a kid but doesn't appear to have grown up at all. Getting involved with her will inevitably lead to you getting sucked into the tornado / mess that is her life.

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Originally posted by: ballmode
She has a good head on her shoulders

The pic looks like she has a shoulder growing out of her head

 

[clamum]

LOL @ b0mbrman's post :laugh:

I sorta have something similar going on myself... there's this 21 year old who likes me but she has a little girl, I think about a year old. We've hung out with other friends as a group and of course got drunk and made out a few times. She's nice and cool, I'm just not sure whether or not I want to pursue it.

 

[WolverineGator]

Originally posted by: theprodigalrebel
Just make sure you don't end up falling in love with the kid more than the mother. Well, unless you want to.

NO! There are laws against this!

 

[j00fek]

im all set with extra baggage

 

[MotionMan]

Looks like someone needs to brush up on their Leykis 101, especially the rule about single mothers.

MotionMan

 

[Aikouka]

I think of it as quite a conundrum as a (relatively) young male in the Wide World of Dating when it comes to women (around our age) that already have a child. I mean, should that be an instant turn-off or would that be too juvenile of a take on it? It's probably true that the concept of taking care of another man's child doesn't sit well with others.

My original take on it was always an emphatic no, but what if the person really is a good person (not necessarily like the OP's lady friend... acting all irresponsibly)? Should a past transgression really be held against them?

I don't know what to think about a teen who can't handle the simple concept of "don't be a fool wrap your tool" (or when it comes to women, those who don't check ). Seems like there are too many people who need 10cc's of abstinence stat! Like this one girl who was interested in me... she was about to have her third child and she's only 21! 'cause of that, she talked about getting the plumbing reworked (if you catch my drift)... personally if I were to get into a marriage where kids were involved, I'd at least like one to be mine .

 

[Ciber]

What is it with guys and dating/thinking about dating women with kids? There's TONS of women out there without freaking kids to make YOUR problem and it WILL become your problem.

So for your own sake, stop being so desperate and find a woman without extra baggage.

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: ballmode
Don't see it working out, but then again... who knows. She has a good head on her shoulders, but has crazy party tendencies. Her parents don't like how she raises the daughter, but I don't know the details. I don't think we have much in common but we get along. Alot of her time is with her baby girl, work, and school. The government pretty much pays about everything for her, being a single college mom.

I can't imagine.

Just stop now.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: leftyman
seems like your not too impressed by her, so why are you asking?

my thoughts exactly.

 

[fisheerman]

Get out quickly.... Nothing good can come from this !

-fish

 

[MercenaryForHire]

http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/mercenaryforhire/gtfo.gif

- M4H

 

[Ranger X]

Why would you want to get involved with a single mother? If you do get serious with her, that'll mean that you'll be taking care of someone else's mistake.

She made one mistake and she'll make another if you get her pregnant. Let me guess, she didn't get an abortion because it's against her morals or her religion, right? Funny how premarital sex isn't.

 

[FoBoT]

"crazy party tendencies" , how does that fit with being a parent?
sounds problematic

 

[NakaNaka]

Originally posted by: FoBoT
"crazy party tendencies" , how does that fit with being a parent?
sounds problematic

Agreed. Having a kid that young is a warning sign but people make mistakes. Having a kid that young and still partying like crazy is a run the hell away sign.

 

[miniMUNCH]

Ballmode... no dude, no.

Look elsewhere.

 

[archiloco]

run run away