Well this is it. Tonight I ask my GF to marry me

[stan394]

good luck and congrats!

 

[Medicine Bear]

Almost time to head home and get ready for the big night.

 

[zerocool1]

Originally posted by: Patt
Good luck OP ... hopefully a memorable day!

yea

 

[GuitarDaddy]

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy
Prenups are for old rich men marrying 18yr olds, and paranoid losers. Life in general is a gamble and marriage especially, if you aren,t willing to take the gamble and throw all your chips in the pot, you shouldn't be getting married. If you don't value the marriage more than your precious Volvo or savings account or whatever your afraid to lose, it ain't going to work anyway.

All you sad prenup trolls should STFU

(1) Ever been married?
22yrs last April

(2) Ever been divorced?
No, "Till death do us part" means something in my family. The wife and I lived together for 4yrs before we were ready to make that pledge.

Here parents just celebrated 45yrs
My parents will celebrate 58years in Nov

*edit*
Just celebrated my Aunt and Uncles 60th a few days ago

 

[zendari]

If she also believes in Death do us part, why the hesitation to sign the prenup?

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: Medicine Bear

Originally posted by: gigapet
Prenup

Sorry, don't believe in that. To me that says you think there is a chance the marriage will not work out. If that is the way someone feels then they shouldn't be getting married in the first place.

Besides, neither of us have that much. What is she going to take, my Adidas?

Not necessarily about what you have now, but what you might have, such as a family business, etc.

And the answer to yours about not believing in a prenup: If there's nothing to worry about, why not do it? After all, you shouldn't need it, just a formality.
Has nothing to do with whether you think there's a chance things won't work out or not.

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
To the OP, ignore these ignorant comments about a prenup. Some people are in sad situations, but that doesn't mean you can't (and didn't) already pick an awesome woman that'll treat you right. There ARE great woman out there, and I'm sure you've got one

EVERYBODY thinks that at first, dipstick, or they wouldn't get married.

The smart men are the ones who have enough brains to see the divorce rate and are realistic enough to know that, even though he doesn't think it will ever happen to him, people do change.

How many of the men that got raked over the coals in a divorce ever thought it would happen to them?
Edit:
BTW, I do want to congratulate the OP on popping the question, and just come out and ask the parents.
I am realistic, and think a prenup should be SOP these days...just sign it and forget about it.
If you make it work, marriage is a great thing, so good luck and don't get too drunk at your bachelor party.

 

[spidey07]

Sorry to rain on the parade...

but the fact that you cohabitated before getting married means you are much more llkely to get divorced.

 

[bobbybe01]

Originally posted by: spidey07
Sorry to rain on the parade...

but the fact that you cohabitated before getting married means you are much more llkely to get divorced.

 

[GuitarDaddy]

Originally posted by: zendari
If she also believes in Death do us part, why the hesitation to sign the prenup?

Thats a stupid question! If you believe in Death do us part whats the point of a prenup? Just in case you DON'T believe anymore?

I promise to cherish you as long as I live, but here sign this just in case I change my mind. I may be old fashioned but thats an acknownledgment up front that your wedding vows mean nothing.

Bottom line is if your not prepared and capable of making the ultimate commitment, you shouldn't get married. It's too easy and acceptable to live together, have children, do what ever you want without getting married. Sadly, It seems these days that the institution of marriage means less to most people than a credit card contract, and can be broken even easier

 

[GuitarDaddy]

Originally posted by: spidey07
Sorry to rain on the parade...

but the fact that you cohabitated before getting married means you are much more llkely to get divorced.

Your a statistical genius

It's a shame you don't have a clue

If statistics meant a fvcking thing I'd be on my 3rd or 4th marriage by now. Statistics just help people justify their actions. "Oh, it's OK for me to fvck around on my spouse and get a divorice because 90% of all marriages end in divorce" or "We shouldn't try and work out our problems, because statistics say we will get divorced anyway"

Personally I,m not going to be a statistic.

 

[iversonyin]

Originally posted by: Medicine Bear

Originally posted by: gigapet
Prenup

Sorry, don't believe in that. To me that says you think there is a chance the marriage will not work out. If that is the way someone feels then they shouldn't be getting married in the first place.

Besides, neither of us have that much. What is she going to take, my Adidas?

I'm guesing you don't plan to be a millionarie neither.

 

[zendari]

Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy

Originally posted by: zendari
If she also believes in Death do us part, why the hesitation to sign the prenup?

Thats a stupid question! If you believe in Death do us part whats the point of a prenup? Just in case you DON'T believe anymore?

I promise to cherish you as long as I live, but here sign this just in case I change my mind. I may be old fashioned but thats an acknownledgment up front that your wedding vows mean nothing.

Bottom line is if your not prepared and capable of making the ultimate commitment, you shouldn't get married. It's too easy and acceptable to live together, have children, do what ever you want without getting married. Sadly, It seems these days that the institution of marriage means less to most people than a credit card contract, and can be broken even easier

I believe in it. The question is whether she does. A prenup protects both parties, unless you ahve some sort of mindreading device to find out what the other person truly believes.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy

Originally posted by: spidey07
Sorry to rain on the parade...

but the fact that you cohabitated before getting married means you are much more llkely to get divorced.

Your a statistical genius

It's a shame you don't have a clue

If statistics meant a fvcking thing I'd be on my 3rd or 4th marriage by now. Statistics just help people justify their actions. "Oh, it's OK for me to fvck around on my spouse and get a divorice because 90% of all marriages end in divorce" or "We shouldn't try and work out our problems, because statistics say we will get divorced anyway"

Personally I,m not going to be a statistic.

heh, you can't control her actions man. good luck with that. Just realize and let it go that there are things in life you can't control...getting reamed by the spouse is just one of them.

bad part about it is you'll never see it coming...just like all those other poor suckers..

 

[GuitarDaddy]

Per my old school beliefs, if you break the vows you made to your spouse in front of God.
Financial losses are the least of your worries:evil: and not even a consideration

 

[EyeMWing]

Oh come on guys, stop beating him up over his choices. This is happy time for him, and if it comes to that, you can beat him down with it come bad times.

 

[KoolAidKid]

Text

 

[Sheepathon]

Haha, Medicine Bear. Sounds like a kool aid flavor.

 

[The Pentium Guy]

Ignore the trolls bro.
Good luck!

 

[Tbirdkid]

Prenup

and we wonder why marriages dont last now a days.... and eventually cost the average american large amounts of cash in taxes for legal proceedings....

Screw you! No home training. Prenups are for people that are afraid of living life and who have no business getting married. Period

 

[ruffilb]

Originally posted by: chowmein

Originally posted by: gigapet
Prenup

i second

Third, or fourth, or w/e I am.

Just do it. If she loves you she'll understand.

(Sorry, low blow )

 

[sandorski]

Another one confused by the Mental Disorder called "Love". Sigh.







So, what did she say??

 

[Landroval]

Originally posted by: Medicine Bear

Originally posted by: Lonyo

Originally posted by: Medicine Bear

Originally posted by: gigapet
Prenup

Sorry, don't believe in that. To me that says you think there is a chance the marriage will not work out. If that is the way someone feels then they shouldn't be getting married in the first place.

Besides, neither of us have that much. What is she going to take, my Adidas?

Prenup isn't for now, it's for then.
What happens when you buy a house together, she leaves you, and takes the kids AND the house AND your car, and leaves you with nothing?
I assume that you do want to have a house/car/kids in the future?

I refuse to go into this with thoughts that it could fail. In my mind if you have those kind of questions in your head then you aren't ready to get married.

Already own a house, already have cars, no kids yet though. If something were to happen and we split up then so be it

I agree. And I have substantially more to lose than my husband as far as assets go.

 

[jalaram]

Hey, Medicine Bear! Any updates? We got more updates on the vending machines. j/k Let us know when you can.

To all those still harping on the prenup, he has a separate thead to discuss its pros/cons. I'm not saying if it's good or bad, but MB has clearly said that he and his wife aren't doing it. Leave him the f alone.

 

[mugs]

How'd it go?