argh can't find it, so here's my story.
We dated nearly 4 years, but I've known their family all my life. Both our families were friends and we spent time at e/o's house and such. Basically, I got to know her folks really well over the 4 years, and she got to know mine really well. So our relationship (me & her folks) has always been good.
About a month ago, I found time where they were both home together (she's a nurse and usually works odd hours) and said "would you mind if I talked with you both?" Best move I made was come RIGHT OUT AND SAY IT from the start. I said something like "I just wanted to let you both know that I plan on proposing to your daughter in a month or so, and I wanted to ask your blessings on our future marriage". First line was that. No small talk, just get it done. It was obvious they knew what I was there for.
They totally accepted and showed no signs of regret. We talked about 10 mins. about when we planned on getting married (about a year from the proposal) and such, job futures, etc...just basic stuff. After the question's out and has been answered, it's all lovely from there.
The dad, especially, was *Really* pleased with me asking them, even though I didn't have to and knowing they'd accept. He gained a ton of respect for me in those 15 minutes. It really shows the parents that you care. Tell them that too, believe me, make your life as easy as possible when it comes to the in-laws. You don't marry a girl, you marry a family.
All the best to you both!!
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