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Angrymarshmello

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I feel like Tyler Durden in Fight Club:

Tyler: "...he was setting up franchises. My father never went to college, so it was really important that I go...After I graduated, I called him long distance and asked, "Now what?" He said, "Get a job." When I turned twenty-five, I called him and asked, "Now what?" He said, "I don't know. Get married."

It's like my whole previous 22 years of my life have gone by in a flash. I've busted my ass to graduate from college and landed a temporary job with a great company, yet I feel no feeling of satisfaction and don't really feel like I've accomplished anything. Like Tyler, I just did all those things because thats what society (and by society, I mean my father and parents in general) wanted me to do. I'm a blind man being lead to do different things because that's what I'm expected to do. Am I the only person who feels this way/has felt this way when he graduated from college?
 
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Storm

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Originally posted by: Angrymarshmello
I feel like Tyler Durden in Fight Club:

Tyler: "...he was setting up franchises. My father never went to college, so it was really important that I go...After I graduated, I called him long distance and asked, "Now what?" He said, "Get a job." When I turned twenty-five, I called him and asked, "Now what?" He said, "I don't know. Get married."

It's like my whole previous 22 years of my life have gone by in a flash. I've busted my ass to graduate from college and landed a temporary job with a great company, yet I feel no feeling of satisfaction and don't really feel like I've accomplished anything. Like Tyler, I just did all those things because thats what society (and by society, I mean my father and parents in general) wanted me to do. I'm a blind man being lead to do different things because that's what I'm expected to do. Am I the only person who feels this way/has felt this way when he graduated from college?
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Well first off congrats on graduating. :)

I don't think you're the only person that feels that way. I graduated from college went 9 months without work until I landed a job. Been working for about 5 months but Im not happy. It is still a job and its most definitely better than having no job.

I am still young and I need to develop a more broad range of skills in order to sell myself. Im in the IT field btw, but I dont have a passion for my work. Maybe its because of the job environment, Im not totally sure. So now I arrive at the dilemma of happiness vs practicality.

Would I be more happy if I gained more experience at my job, then went back to school to pursue another degree? Or find another job? I really just dont know. ;)
 
Azraele

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It's ok to feel that way. Find your niche, your place. If you feel yourself "blind" and being led, open your eyes and lead yourself.

Congrats on graduating.
 
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HappyPuppy

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Congratulations, Angrymarshmellow.

It's not unusual to feel let down or even somewhat depressed after attaining a goal. I've felt that way several times in my life. Maybe you should try doing something just for yourself, something utterly selfish. Do you like or have a penchant for travel? If so, save up some money and take of for countries unknown and have an adventure. Somewhat along the same line, you may enjoy joining the Peace Corps. It's a helluva lot more fun than people let on. I know from experience.

You have been living for what others expected of you for so long and suddenly there are no more demands. There's an emptiness. I felt it when I got out of the military. There was nobody to tell me what to do and I had to retrain myself to set my own goals based on what I wanted for a change.

Find something to indulge yourself in. It will all pass.
 
BillGates

BillGates

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Sweet! Now you can have a big graduation bash and do belly shots off your dad!!






WHAT?
 
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Angrymarshmello

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Storm - yea I'm kind of struggling with that right now. I know I'll probably go get another degree but I don't know if I want to work some more and get it next year, or wait a few years

Azr - thanks, good advice. Thing is I'm not sure what I'd do if I opened my eyes

HappyPup - thanks. Well the only real selfish thing I want right now is to get laid and get a new car ;) The new car thing will happen if this job becomes permanent, the getting laid thing I'm pretty much on my own :)

Oh and thanks to everyone :)

<-- goes to get himself a cold brewsky

Me now: :beer::beer::beer::beer::D:beer::beer::beer::beer:
Me later: :beer::confused:
Me tomorrow morning: :(
 
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HappyPuppy

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Dood, 98% of the pastey faced geeks in this forum want to get laid! Unfortunately for most of them, but fortunately for humankind, most of them will die virgins.

BTW, don't they have hookers in Armadillo Crotch, TX?:beer::D:beer:

 
Siddhartha

Siddhartha

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What do you want to do?

Have you thoiught about it?

If not, take some time and think about what you want to do.
 
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PCboy

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Originally posted by: pyonir
Congrats man. I graduated about a month ago.
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congratulations.. :beer:

don't mind me asking but what major/education did you come from?
 
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RIGorous1

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Originally posted by: Angrymarshmello
Storm - yea I'm kind of struggling with that right now. I know I'll probably go get another degree but I don't know if I want to work some more and get it next year, or wait a few years

Azr - thanks, good advice. Thing is I'm not sure what I'd do if I opened my eyes

HappyPup - thanks. Well the only real selfish thing I want right now is to get laid and get a new car ;) The new car thing will happen if this job becomes permanent, the getting laid thing I'm pretty much on my own :)

Oh and thanks to everyone :)

<-- goes to get himself a cold brewsky

Me now: :beer::beer::beer::beer::D:beer::beer::beer::beer:
Me later: :beer::confused:
Me tomorrow morning: :(
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Poor guy ... I feel the same way, but what you need to do is find inspiration. That mystic force that drives you everyday and tells you that you're worth something. Something that tells you that you've made a difference and that your life does have meaning.

For me its my wife and kid

For other people its holding a respectable job and being promoted

For others still its getting laid everyday and having no one tell them what to do

Go out in the real world and find what's good for you, then go back and get another degree. For now just enjoy your booze
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pyonir

pyonir

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Originally posted by: PCboy
Originally posted by: pyonir
Congrats man. I graduated about a month ago.
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congratulations.. :beer:

don't mind me asking but what major/education did you come from?
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Not sure if you were asking me or not, but I'll tell ya.

I graduated with a Bachelor of Elective Studies. I was going for Criminal Justice but because of an assortment of complications, just wanted to get the degree finished.

 
Koing

Koing

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Congrats on graduating.

Now go have fun. Go do things that make you HAPPY.

Lots of good advice here.

Koing
 
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TheeeChosenOne

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TO ALL COLLEGE GRADS:

The best years of your life are when you're in school and the world seems open to you where you can do ANYTHING you want. Pretty much that is very true.

Make sure you choose something that really interests you and where your heart is. Money, to a certain extent, is important to pay bills, but don't sell-out to do some boring job just b/c that's what your ignorant status-seeking, materialsitic parents or friends are doing with their lives. By their 40's they're all having mid-life crises, b/c they all weren't true to themselves (i.e. becoming a money grubbing lawyer vs. your dream job). That's why midlife crises are so prevalent in our society which is unfortunately passed on from generation to generation by well-meaning parents who DON'T know their a$$ from a hole in the ground when giving advice! ;) Money always follows if you're good at what you do.........And you WILL be good at what you do only if you're doing something you truly LOVE. You will naturally strive to excel in your area.

Live life, travel, explore, find a love interest, and BE TRUE to YOURSELF. Nobody is going to live your life except YOU (i.e. not your parents, friends, disinterested school counselor, or US News & World Reports).

Always ask yourself this question when facing a life decision: "I'm on my deathbed at 75....am I happy with how I lived my life in my 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's?"......

Also remember to put things in perspective: Even a lower-middle class person lives a better life than Kings did 100 years ago!
 
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