Was this justified or rude?

[Rakehellion]

Crazy and excessive, but understandable if you have young children.

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

Your friend needs to store his phobias in the basement he still thinks he lives in.

 

[TwiceOver]

Rude, IMO. Cooking is going to kill off anything that might have gotten on it.

He could have tried another tactic "Your daughter and I love to bang on the kitchen floor. I'd prefer if you didn't pick up food from there and cook it."

 

[NetGuySC]

I wouldn't eat it if i witnessed that. She should have rinsed it off at least to remove and particles of dirt. I would have thrown the piece of chicken away

 

[Nirodha]

It's hard to judge because there may be more to the dynamics between them that what we know.

At face value I think he was wasteful but not rude, because I find unacceptable to act behind other's backs - with exception for the case when it's the only way to pursue a right.

A small piece of food isn't worth being false or risking the harmony in the house. Besides she could have compromised eating it herself rather than throwing in the pan for everyone.

She sounds like a person who is going to follow her way with little consideration for boundaries. And the guy, failing with words, is at loss for some other way to escalate his argument.