Was this justified or rude?

[HamburgerBoy]

Who is the "they" cooking? If the mother in law was the one cooking the chicken at the wok, then fuck the guy, extremely rude and that it's his house doesn't even seem relevant. That would be like if two guests were playing a game of chess in your house, you don't like the rules they were using, so you kick over the whole board and tell them to start over. If he's that worried about the family cooking giving them food poisoning, he should just forbid them from using his stove, or forbid his children from eating their food.

 

[CPA]

5 second rule.

 

[brianmanahan]

it would have boosted his immune system

now he'll probably get AIDS

 

[HamburgerBoy]

it would have boosted his immune system

now he'll probably get bird flu

Fixed.

 

[waggy]

he was rude and stupid.

if its in a wok it's getting hot enough to kill anything that may have gotten on the floor. he just wasted a bunch of food. IF they are immigrants they aren't used to doing that.

 

[Bacstar]

I am guessing he is just frustrated with the living situation and acting out.

Same...wonder how long he'll last before kicking everyone out?

 

[waggy]

, and he doesn't want his kids to eat contaminated food.

I just wanna say he has no fucking clue on what his kids eat when he ain't looking..lol

 

[Ns1]

he was rude and stupid.

if its in a wok it's getting hot enough to kill anything that may have gotten on the floor. he just wasted a bunch of food. IF they are immigrants they aren't used to doing that.

basically.

OP's friend just forced his white privilege on his wife's immigrant parents.

 

[JulesMaximus]

I dropped a piece of chocolate on the floor at work today. Picked it up and ate it immediately.

I spilled coffee on the floor today and got down on my knees and slurped it up.

 

[shabby]

Now his in-laws live with him and he's getting fed up with them.

How did he get talked into this, with a knife to his throat or a chop stick in his eye?

 

[PenguinPower]

I was fed up with my Japanese in-laws after two nights of them staying with me, so, yes, justified.

Seriously, my MIL couldn't stop complaining about how much ALL food in the US sucked. My FIL was drunk the entire time and was completely tolerable. Actually close to hilarious at points.

 

[DrDoug]

You have to eat a peck of dirt before you die so no big deal throwing it back in the pan.

Although... his MIL might be trying to hurry things up! :biggrin:

 

[MongGrel]

Same...wonder how long he'll last before kicking everyone out?

I managed to have my MIL in the house for 3 weeks once when the in-laws visited the house over a December.

They were only supposed to be here 2 weeks, then 2 weeks at my sister-in-laws not far away.

After week 3 of the MIL moving in thinking she suddenly owned the place things exploded.

I actually was on the front porch discussing it with the wife at the time and caught the MIL eavesdropping at the front door and things really went off the rails that night I guess.

 

[BoomerD]

basically.

OP's friend just forced his white privilege on his wife's immigrant parents.

Well...if they're living in his house...

If they don't want to put up with his white ways...they should get their own place.

 

[bbhaag]

That's a tough call. I don't envy your situation but hey his house his rules. I'll be honest though it seems a little over the top and I'm not sure I would have done the same if I was in that situation.

In all fairness though we all go over the top sometimes when our in laws push us to the point of breaking. I know I'm guilty of it one or two times and I'd bet most of you guys who have been married awhile are too.

 

[cbrunny]

I spilled coffee on the floor today and got down on my knees and slurped it up.

Lol I really hope that's true.

 

[John Connor]

 

[clamum]

He sounds like a bit of a drama queen, but I also agree with the other guy that said he's probably fed up with the whole situation. Could've just kinda snapped. But rude regardless, IMO.

 

[waggy]

I spilled coffee on the floor today and got down on my knees and slurped it up.

no surprise. You are used to slurping on things while on your knees

 

[Ventanni]

He's probably not a drama queen, but when you're fed up with a situation, you tend to be a bit more trigger happy than normal.

Here's my take: It's his house, so it's his rules. On the other hand, he could probably stand to be a little less anal about the small stuff.

 

[pcgeek11]

If he don't like the situation he should fix that. Toss the In Laws out.

 

[Captante]

Seriously, my MIL couldn't stop complaining about how much ALL food in the US sucked. My FIL was drunk the entire time and was completely tolerable. Actually close to hilarious at points.

Do I see a possible connection here? :awe:

 

[madoka]

But maybe we're not getting the whole picture - do they do daycare for them?

Occasionally they do. But his wife has no job and stays at home and his kids have school, so it can't be that much.

For some more background, my friend is a bit of a foody who spends $2,000 per month on groceries. D: When he told me that, I thought I misheard. But yeah, just on groceries and not including the fancy $$$$ restaurants he eats at. While I'll use coupons to eat at Subway and eat SPAM, he indulges in natural, free-range, organic food.

Who is the "they" cooking?

His in-laws were the ones cooking.

Same...wonder how long he'll last before kicking everyone out?

Kicking them out would be tantamount to asking for a divorce. His in-laws have no job, no savings, no assets, etc. They have two daughters and the other one is a widower with kids. So, he's going to be supporting them for the rest of their lives.

 

[Bubbleawsome]

Well I can totally see why he acted out then.

Honestly I hope it w̶o̶k̶s̶ works out for him, but I wonder if he considered living with a native Asian family for the rest of their life. I know it sounds bad, but I have found older, new-to-america Asians to be some of the hardest people to deal with. They always seem very very critical and it can be stressful.

 

[kt]

Occasionally they do. But his wife has no job and stays at home and his kids have school, so it can't be that much.

For some more background, my friend is a bit of a foody who spends $2,000 per month on groceries. D: When he told me that, I thought I misheard. But yeah, just on groceries and not including the fancy $$$$ restaurants he eats at. While I'll use coupons to eat at Subway and eat SPAM, he indulges in natural, free-range, organic food.



His in-laws were the ones cooking.



Kicking them out would be tantamount to asking for a divorce. His in-laws have no job, no savings, no assets, etc. They have two daughters and the other one is a widower with kids. So, he's going to be supporting them for the rest of their lives.

Supporting the in-laws from afar isn't an option? He sure could cut down on his groceries bill put that money towards finding a place for the in-laws.