Was I wrong?

[coolVariable]

Tell your Mother's Fiance to shove it as it's obvious that he's trying to get between your mother and you. You'll never be #1 in her eyes now that he's around. Time to start thinking of a way to do him in. Does he have life insurance?

Yeah dude! Get a gun!

 

[Moonbeam]

Good grief, evadman, the whole thrust of hisa claim of innocence rests on the peramiters of time to which he committed. Since it was afternoon and I gave the definition of afternoon to make perfectly clear that his 4 oclock fell within those parameters, it's an open and shut case. No need to wax philosophical when you got un dead to rights. YOU disapoint me. 😀

 

[geno]

4 oclock fell within those parameters, it's an open and shut case

Exactly! I say that and I get, "Well, 4 is a little late in the afternoon..." *groan*

 

[HappyPuppy]

Your mother should be taking your side, not your boyfriend's. Sounds like he started this round of trouble. If this is the way things are going to be, it might be best if you stay away, find your own place. Unfortunately, your mother has made you the third man out.

 

Huh? Your post seems to support your family's perception of you. You admitted that you spoke to your mum a day after Thanksgiving and you had not done the work at that time. Thanksgiving falls on Thursdays. So you weren't there to do the work by Thursday as you promised. You conversed with your mum on Friday and spoke of going on Friday (a day after Thanksgiving).

Either you have your days screwed or you actually are inconsiderate as your mum thinks. Honestly, I don't think you owe them anything. But if you do promise to do something, you should live up to it. If you can't do something, then don't commit yourself. You aren't obliged to, so don't. Stop trying to make up for things by doing such work for them. Your mum needs to learn her priorities. It seems to me that she puts her fiance ahead of her child(ren). If that's what she wants, fine. But then you aren't obligated to commit to do things for her or her fiance, in my view. The whole thing doesn't sound like a repair thing as much as it sounds like a frictional relationship waiting to reach its climax soon. Settle the relationship between all parties, then there'll be better communication, trust, and less tension going on.

Hey, this is my perception of the situation. I have not claimed that it's some divine truth.

 

[Antisocial Virge]

Personally, if you said you would be there in the afternoon and 4pm rolled around and you were not there, I would have thought you were a no show.

 

[Moonbeam]

Maybe so Antisocial, but whe and if he did show and it's still afternoon you simple say to yourself you were wrong and don't get your panties in a wad. But once you make a big fool of yourself by being critical at the wrong point, you can wed yourself to your own stupidity rather than admit you prejudged when you shouldn't have. This is all true only if luvly hasn't trumped my logic with a better analysis. I know she has a point but it's time for my nappy-poo and I'm too sleepy do analyze her point.

 

[Siddhartha]

You live too close to your mother. Your quality of life will be much better if you move away.

 

[dabuddha]

sounds like your mom's fiance is trying to turn your mom against you
but i see conspiracies everywhere so don't take my word for it

 

[Storm]

I guess Im in the minority but when people dont specify what time they want you to be there I usually try to be early.
In this case since it was stated afternoon I would have tried to get there around 1pm. Considering you were helping your girlfriend out and they didnt give you a specified time I think you're in the clear and your mom could be a little more understanding.

Would your mom be pissed if you pulled someone out of a flaming car?

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

assuming your recollection is accurate, they are being a little uptight about it. BUT 4 pm is kinda late... almost evening, rather than afternoon... I can't believe they would get pissy at you if no one ever specified a time AND your help wasn't really needed.

 

[waggy]

if you dont show by 4pm then i would consider you a no show. when someone says afternoon i think 1-3pm.

Dont worry it should blow over. If it dont then dont worry about it. you have a life to live. dont worry what they think. they will figure out in due time that you are an adult.