UPDATED: UPDATED: YAGT: to call or not to call.

[polm]

BS without pics. nobody gets hammered from a bottle of merlot!

It was a magnum.

 

[pulse8]

Put the update in the original post! :|

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: DeafeningSilence

Originally posted by: polm

She continues to divulge some very illicit past practices, and I start to get a little un-nerved. She even divulged to me secrets that I was totally un-prepared for.

Oh, I forgot about this part... want to share any stories? 🙂

I haven't decided if I am going to share...but let me tell you this: It will probably have a huge effect on how you, or anyone, would approach the situation.

If I expect an educated responce from any of my fellow ATOTers, then I need to share this with you.

Unfortunately it is VERY VERY personal, and I am having some moral conflicts.

Moral conflicts are for politicians and priests. Spill it.

Ignore my previous sentence, that was my bad side. Don't distribute personal info of someone else.

Then again, no one knows who you are or who she is. You haven't given her name. Maybe if you talk about your "hypothetical friend"

No, you've been given trust, don't break it. I PM wouldn't ME want WITH you DETAILS to be conflicted.

 

[DeafeningSilence]

Originally posted by: yowolabi
Moral conflicts are for politicians and priests. Spill it.

Ignore my previous sentence, that was my bad side. Don't distribute personal info of someone else.

Then again, no one knows who you are or who she is. You haven't given her name. Maybe if you talk about your "hypothetical friend"

No, you've been given trust, don't break it. I PM wouldn't ME want WITH you DETAILS to be conflicted.

Hahaha! Nice. 😀

 

[ILikeStuff]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: DeafeningSilence

Originally posted by: polm

She continues to divulge some very illicit past practices, and I start to get a little un-nerved. She even divulged to me secrets that I was totally un-prepared for.

Oh, I forgot about this part... want to share any stories? 🙂

I haven't decided if I am going to share...but let me tell you this: It will probably have a huge effect on how you, or anyone, would approach the situation.

If I expect an educated responce from any of my fellow ATOTers, then I need to share this with you.

Unfortunately it is VERY VERY personal, and I am having some moral conflicts.

This girl is trouble. I don't think any stories are neccessary to see that (though, I still wouldn't mind hearing them🙂) If you are willing to risk your health and betray your concience, hit it, otherwise, I reiterate, run fast, run far.

 

[DeafeningSilence]

And Polm... where are these pics you promised to be coming "very soon"?

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: DeafeningSilence
And Polm... where are these pics you promised to be coming "very soon"?

Im trying...look my friend from Atlanta took pics at the wedding we were all at. He has uploaded a few, but nothing with MissBride'sMaid yet. I am pushing him to post them all, but he is claiming "too busy...i'll get to it later" on my a$$ .

 

[Geekbabe]

All I can say is that after reading all this I thank the heavens for sending me a confident man!

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
All I can say is that after reading all this I thank the heavens for sending me a confident man!

What does that mean ?

Does my thread paint me out to be lacking greatly in confidence ?

 

[spanky]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
All I can say is that after reading all this I thank the heavens for sending me a confident man!

What does that mean ?

Does my thread paint me out to be lacking greatly in confidence ?

that or a spine.

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: spankyOO7

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
All I can say is that after reading all this I thank the heavens for sending me a confident man!

What does that mean ?

Does my thread paint me out to be lacking greatly in confidence ?

that or a spine.

how so ?

I called didn't I ?

Just cuz I was a little unsure of myself shouldnt be such a big deal.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
All I can say is that after reading all this I thank the heavens for sending me a confident man!

What does that mean ?

Does my thread paint me out to be lacking greatly in confidence ?

Grown men don't need to resort to giving blow by blow reports and updates of their dating situations in order to decide which course of action they're going to take in their intimate affairs.Running your private life by comittee is very poor form to say the least.

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
All I can say is that after reading all this I thank the heavens for sending me a confident man!

What does that mean ?

Does my thread paint me out to be lacking greatly in confidence ?

Grown men don't need to resort to giving blow by blow reports and updates of their dating situations in order to decide which course of action they're going to take in their intimate affairs.Running your private life by comittee is very poor form to say the least.

While this is true to a degree, most men when they first meet a girl will talk to their friends about it in detail. Not to make their decisions for them, but mostly to have a sounding board and to hear what others think about those little problems that always come up. I've noticed that once a person makes the decision to be with someone, the updates usually stop. I don't think Polm is really basing his decisions on what someone tells him, but is more information gathering than anything else. For whatever reason, he's using this board instead of a good friend, but it's not much different than what other "confident" men do.

 

[LH]

Dude snap out of it.

Unless you are on some moral high ground and are opposed to casual sex. Just do it, have some fun and dont get emotionally attached. And dont for get to wrap it up.

 

[Pepsei]

My advice to you is to pull out right now.

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Grown men don't need to resort to giving blow by blow reports and updates of their dating situations in order to decide which course of action they're going to take in their intimate affairs.Running your private life by comittee is very poor form to say the least.

Originally posted by: yowolabi

While this is true to a degree, most men when they first meet a girl will talk to their friends about it in detail. Not to make their decisions for them, but mostly to have a sounding board and to hear what others think about those little problems that always come up. I've noticed that once a person makes the decision to be with someone, the updates usually stop. I don't think Polm is really basing his decisions on what someone tells him, but is more information gathering than anything else. For whatever reason, he's using this board instead of a good friend, but it's not much different than what other "confident" men do.

Thanks for clearing that up for Geekbabe, yowolabi. But to clarify even more, I am using thie board AS WELL as good friends to help me see the BIG PICTURE. I have made TERRIBLE decisions when it comes to women, in the past. I have a small base of friends that I can count on for good advice.

I also find it very interesting to expose my situation to my fellow ATOTers. With so many members, I am certain to get a wide range of opinions. A wide range of experiences, etc. IMHO posting this thread has been VERY helpful in keeping my "head on straight" as I approach this current situation.

But, GeekBabe, thanks for your comments. It's interesting that you didn't express your feelings about confidence when you posted in This Thread

It is interesting, you are thanking god for sending you a "confident" man, yet your statements in the other thread indicated you did not put a high level of importance on confidence....care to elaborate ?

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Grown men don't need to resort to giving blow by blow reports and updates of their dating situations in order to decide which course of action they're going to take in their intimate affairs.Running your private life by comittee is very poor form to say the least.

Originally posted by: yowolabi

While this is true to a degree, most men when they first meet a girl will talk to their friends about it in detail. Not to make their decisions for them, but mostly to have a sounding board and to hear what others think about those little problems that always come up. I've noticed that once a person makes the decision to be with someone, the updates usually stop. I don't think Polm is really basing his decisions on what someone tells him, but is more information gathering than anything else. For whatever reason, he's using this board instead of a good friend, but it's not much different than what other "confident" men do.

Thanks for clearing that up for Geekbabe, yowolabi. But to clarify even more, I am using thie board AS WELL as good friends to help me see the BIG PICTURE. I have made TERRIBLE decisions when it comes to women, in the past. I have a small base of friends that I can count on for good advice.

I also find it very interesting to expose my situation to my fellow ATOTers. With so many members, I am certain to get a wide range of opinions. A wide range of experiences, etc. IMHO posting this thread has been VERY helpful in keeping my "head on straight" as I approach this current situation.

But, GeekBabe, thanks for your comments. It's interesting that you didn't express your feelings about confidence when you posted in This Thread

It is interesting, you are thanking god for sending you a "confident" man, yet your statements in the other thread indicated you did not put a high level of importance on confidence....care to elaborate ?

It's very simple really, discussing a situation over in private with a trusted friend is very different from blabbing
it all over a forum of 100k members. If I ever saw a thread where a guy I'd dated had been discussing me and his speulations about my sexual history on a public forum he wouldn't have to worry himself about what to do about me,he'd be history!


Short story long,any dude I'd be interested in would never potenially embarrass me or himself by such postings,surely a few pm's to select friends could have gotten you some advice or support?

 

[polm]

It's very simple really, discussing a situation over in private with a trusted friend is very different from blabbing
it all over a forum of 100k members. If I ever saw a thread where a guy I'd dated had been discussing me and his speulations about my sexual history on a public forum he wouldn't have to worry himself about what to do about me,he'd be history!

Well I certainly would never put anyone in a situation where they would be uncomfortable or embarrased. This girl is about as far from browsing the ATOT pages as Saddam is of packing up and leaving Iraq willfully. This, in fact, is the precise reason I am eager to take advantage of this forum.

I would have no shame telling her, truthfully, what I have posted here. I feel confident that she would not feel uncomfortable, given the high level of anonymousness. I have never used her, or my own name. And I have not revealed any data that could lead one to find this data out for themselves.

Why exactly would you be so offended to discover that a guy had discussed such things on a popular board like ATOT ?

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: polm

It's very simple really, discussing a situation over in private with a trusted friend is very different from blabbing
it all over a forum of 100k members. If I ever saw a thread where a guy I'd dated had been discussing me and his speulations about my sexual history on a public forum he wouldn't have to worry himself about what to do about me,he'd be history!

Well I certainly would never put anyone in a situation where they would be uncomfortable or embarrased. This girl is about as far from browsing the ATOT pages as Saddam is of packing up and leaving Iraq willfully. This, in fact, is the precise reason I am eager to take advantage of this forum.

I would have no shame telling her, truthfully, what I have posted here. I feel confident that she would not feel uncomfortable, given the high level of anonymousness. I have never used her, or my own name. And I have not revealed any data that could lead one to find this data out for themselves.

Why exactly would you be so offended to discover that a guy had discussed such things on a popular board like ATOT ?

Why would I be offended? really think for a few minutes about that question,the answers might dawn on you.

 

[polm]

Why would I be offended? really think for a few minutes about that question,the answers might dawn on you.

I cannot read your mind......and to assume, well you know what that does.

So GeekBabe....please....enlighten me.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: polm

Why would I be offended? really think for a few minutes about that question,the answers might dawn on you.

I cannot read your mind......and to assume, well you know what that does.

So GeekBabe....please....enlighten me.

Because the details of my private life are exactly that.. private.If a man has questions or concerns about my history or my expectations in any relationship I might have with him,the best source of answers available to him come from me.

 

[polm]

Because the details of my private life are exactly that.. private.If a man has questions or concerns about my history or my expectations in any relationship I might have with him,the best source of answers available to him come from me.

are you that naive to think that the men you have dated have not consulted others about your private life ? Their concerns about your past, etc. you can guarantee is topic of conversation with whom they feel comfortable confiding in.

At least I am doing it anonymously. Here on AT, noone is going to divulge the private life of this girl...because they don't know who she is.

 

[rgwalt]

I've changed my mind on this... stay away. Very far away. This girl is a head-case.

Ryan

 

[polm]

This girl is a head-case.

Ryan

Come on Ryan....give GeekBabe a break.😉

 

[Kev]

Originally posted by: maladroit
I'd stay away unless of course you want to catch the Hi-Five.

The ol' Henry the IV

Let me reitirate this.

I would not touch this aids-dispensing whore with a ten foot pole.